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Aura Todd

Pissed off with staring women

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I hope this is the right forum?


I go to a café in my local city and lately some women have been in there who openly stare at me and my parents. One of them dresses like a chave and obviously has no social skills at all, and is the worst of the group to stare, She's not the sharpest knife in the box plus she's too old to dress the way she does, but that's her problem not mine. She's like a old bird trying to dress up like a spring chicken!


They get a drink in the café and stay for most of the afternoon blocking the table so that nobody else can sit their (not that they'd want to).

Their well known trouble makers and gossips, they bully another friend of mine, I'm a bit worried they will start calling me and my family names. I just blank them out and ignore them sad twisted loosers, my dad calls them a sad shower.

Can you advise me what to do if they cross the line? (Before I'm nicked for murder)

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Not sure what line they might cross? Seems to me you have a fairly bigoted view of people that haven't done anything other than socialise in a public place:/ You say they have no social skills, then complain they "stare" at you - but if they have no social skills they may not even realise they are staring or understand it is not appreciated.


Sounds like you are doing the right thing by ignoring them. *If* they actually make any comments/call you names I would suggest you discuss quietly with the cafe manager.

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Seems to me you have a fairly bigoted view of people that haven't done anything other than socialise in a public place:/

I'm sorry you feel that way, but you haven't seen these women. I could chat with the manager but his English is very good, he's a lovely man but there's not a lot he can do.

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