Anneuk Report post Posted July 17, 2006 When my 11yr old dd came home from school today she was once again very upset.... Her best friend as yet again been 'having a go'..... This time though my dd told me that they were all laughing at her because she didn't understand certain words...... I couldn't even get all the words out of her but these were some of them..... you will have to fill in the blanks as I'm sure children might be reading this forum and I don't want to embarass anyone.. Bl** J** ( One of the boys asked her why she didn't know about this) Who*e Her best friend asked her this Retard!!!! Well I am amazed these so called christian kids would call anyone this!! (They didn't call my dd this bought laughed that she didn't know what it was) Po*n Again her best friend laughed because she didn't know what this is. A Ho I don't even know if I have spelt this right!!! Their were other words she wouldn't even consider letting me guess at as she felt they were so bad! She was so so upset, kept saying to me that she felt the words were dirty, but if the words were dirty then how come her friends all knew the definitions and not her. These kids are all 11 and 12 for goodness sake! I feel so sad.... My daughter has forbidden me from approaching the school even though I feel like telling the head what a lovely bunch of kids he has < am I over reacting?> She did say however that she no longer has respect for this 'best friend' and wants to avoid her from now on... I hope she finds the strength at school to carve a little niche elsewhere with a new group of friends.... It is so painful.......... Maybe this is how evryone with any child feels when they are exposed to the 'lovely' world we live in, but even though I am very liberally minded as an adult I am sick that these kids talk about sex all the time.... Sorry to rant again..... just need a hug I suppose Anne Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bramblebrae Report post Posted July 17, 2006 <'> <'> <'> <'> for you <'> <'> <'> <'> for your DD She should be proud she dosen't know these words she isn't meant to at her age in an ideal world. The other kids and there parents should be the ones in tears. I'd be tempted to write a letter to the school (if they can be trusted) insisting they not mention this to your DD but could the keep a close eye on her with this group of children as that seems like bullying to me. If that had happened to myself at school I would've totally flipped out and hurt a few of them. I cannot stand being laughed at I think it's things like this that lead my son into aggressive acts he hates being laughed at too especially when he's confused. Your DD shouldn't have to put up with that kinda treatment ..but I know it happens ...I'd be glad she was able to tell you about it though as she must of felt funny in knowing these where 'dirty' words. You must be doing a great job if she trusts you enough to confide in you this way I imagine it gets trickier as they get older my DS is almost 7 and tells me nothing - one day everyone is his friend the next day he dosen't like any of them at school but what happens in between I've no idea and he insists he hasn't either. take care Lorraine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Richt Report post Posted July 17, 2006 Well I can do the easy ones first had me stumped. Not sure that any are really bad words for 12 yr olds, to know? Dunno Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oracle Report post Posted July 18, 2006 It's not the words that bother me because sadly this is a sign of the times that we live in. The thing that upsets me is the fact that their aim is to make this girl look and sound stupid. That is bullying and they are not her friend. Rightly or wrongly my 19 year old is making sure that this will not happen to his 9 year old brother by supplying him with these words and there meanings. I have been very unhappy about this but now I am not so sure that it is a bad thing. David keeps telling me that Matthew needs the street cred or he will have the p*** taken from him the way he did Maybe he's talking sense Oracle Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
curra Report post Posted July 18, 2006 Anneuk, I'm so sorry for your daughter and I agree that this is bullying . Sadly, I'm not surprised. My son has learned all the possible bad words at school and told me that he was called names (weird, geek etc) by his peers because he didn't know them. He has also told me that the boys take porno magazines and pictures in mobiles and the teachers have no idea. The girls at his school are not much better with the vocabulary they use because of peer pressure. I blame the schools that have no concern for what goes on in the playground, and then put the blame on the parents. I have told the school but it fell on deaf ears. Like your daughter, my son has not learned a single bad word at home . Unfortunately, kids sooner or later learn bad words. Curra Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yoyo Report post Posted July 18, 2006 Anneuk Poor you and your DD. So sadly this is typical treatment for any child that is different. I endured the same thing as your DD and was also sexually assaulted (poked in breasts and kicked in genitals) by the boys at the 'nice' private school I attended in Ireland in the 70s. I had no support at all as I was adopted and my adoptive mother didn't care. I was told that it was all my own fault. The staff at school did't care either. For me the best solution was to keep everyone at a distance and to never make friends as people cannot be trusted. One is often alone but the best bit is that one is safe. Similar to Bramblebrae, I hate being laughed at and get very agressive is people smile when I feel bad. I do hope you and your daughter can find a strategy to enable her to feel safe. Yoyo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
