dana

Hi all, I have been thinking about my life and my son's ASD. After my son was dx a lot of questions about my own life, it seemed to me, had been answered. First, I realised that I have at least some of the Asperger traits (probably not enough of them to be dx myself). I sometimes felt(specially in my childhood) in dealing with people overwealmed by them, very easily 'loosing my ground', not knowing what to say when I was insulted etc. As a result, I withdrew in my own self-centred fantasy world and books, as far as possible from people. It took me quite a while to get out of it, encouradged by some nice friends I made late in life from whom I learned how to socialise. I always wanted to see the world and situations from others point of view and to truly empathise with them when in distress but did not know how. Only now I realise why I couldn't do that more often. I have a feeling it is because of the self-defence mechanism. I never had a very clear sense of self and going 'out to the others' for me often meant losing it even more. The fear of loosing it completly kept me self-centred many times for years (although people considered me caring and thoughtful but it was learned, rearly with a real feeling behind the action). I was told that my son doesn't have a clear awareness of self either and it often happens with children with autism. I just wonder, can anyone identify with this? Or what I described here is nothing to do with Asperger traits? I am curious what you think of this. danaxxx

I've just seen the other post of yours and wonder was there any singing after the meal? Danaxxx

Well done to you both and many happy returns! Danaxxx

Very, very sorry to hear this,Tally! <'> <'> Danaxxx

Good luck, Sally! I hope that this time your son will get all he needs so your lives can finally move on! I'll keep my fingers cross and will be thinking of you. Danaxxx

Spot on, Baddad! I couldn't agree more! Danaxxx

I am glad you have now a bit of a respite so you can recharge your batteries for a while at least. Hopefully, they won't take your son in April and you will get this respite on more permanent basis, and finally, get a better place for him, the school you are trying to send him to. Maybe, that would be a good time to push it, speak with your solicitor. I am sorry you have to go to all this trouble only to get what is best for your child. <'> <'> >< Best of luck. Danaxxx

What about: Embankment Tube Station, 26.2.11 at 12:00? Royal Festival hall is not far from there and I suppose neither Pizza Express? Kathryn, you proposed the venue: are you coming as well? It would be nice to see you as well as some more people from here. Danaxxx

Well done to both of you! :thumbs: Danaxxx

Hi Sally, <'> >< <'> >< <'> to you and your son. Danaxxx

Is the New Year Meet still on? 26th February at 12:00, Royal Festival hall? Danaxxx

Hi Jsmum, I am really sorry you have to go through all this. <'> >< <'> As if the difficulties your son experiences are not enough. I don't know if this can help but have you thought of looking for another school placement which would better meet your son's needs? friend of mine had a similar situation, the special school she thought was the best for her son (and she fought hard to get him in), proved itself not so good. She also couldn't get much respite but at the end she found another school where her son is now happy. I don't think that ss can put blame on you for your son's anxiates because you didn't invent his problems-he is dx by profesionals. I agree that their opinion is certainly not professional's opinion, they need to have a solid proof of that and they don't. I am sorry I cannot offer better advice, just some more of these <'> >< Good luck. Danaxxx

Thank you, Alexmum2. <'> He went to the mainstream secondary school, year 7 but now we are looking for the new school for him with a hope that the new one will handle better bulling. Tomorrow I have initial meeting there. Danaxxx

My son has not moved to the new school yet. In fact, tomorrow I am having the first meeting with the school near us about the possibility of my son going there. This is just the initial meeting. He hasn't got any NHS SALT or EP. EP assesed him once in his primary school and he's never seen him since. I am paying a private SALT because in the town where I live they don't give any SALT therapy to the children in secondary schools. I couldn't use Disability Discrimination Act because the boy who bullied my son himself had a statement (but did not have ASD, my son was the only one in his class who has autism). However, I will look at it for the future references. Please, wish me luck tomorrow. Danaxxx

I love the idea! South Bank and Royal Festival Hall is one of my favourite places in London. So, yes I am in too. Danaxxx