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I have found out that the Doc we are going to see is the Consultant at CAMHs. What can we expect from a first appointment at CAMHS?

I might try social services, but I think its probably a matter of DH taking time off again.

He is into game boy games and will be taking that. Last year he didnt have a handheld so I expect this will save our sanity. Although he is only 5 he can talk at great length about sonic the hedgehog and Mario. In the past, we have done short flights to Spain etc but this year is a special anniversary and we want to return to Corfu, hence the trip. I suppose he should be used to it has he has been on several plane journeys before, but you know what they can be like. He has been on a longer flight though before.

We are going to Corfu in 6 weeks with DGS5 and DGD2. DGS has been referred to CAMHS for possible ASD. On our flight home last year we were seated behind a nasty man who grumbled about our lad being on the go all the time (he wasnt that bad really!!). I wondered if we would benefit from a seat with no one in front? Are airlines sympathetic to this sort of thing? We had a huge bag of stuff to keep him occupied but you know how they cant keep still... What do you do on flights?

We were referred by our GP yesterday and it couldn't have been easier. I just wrote down all my concerns, she agreed and did the referral. I always have a written list to pass to GP because I find it hard to remember everything, plus with two small kids in the surgery my mind is usually on preventing them climbing on the couch and playing doctors rather than talking. If you do this, put your name on and date it and ask for it to go into his/her notes too.

Thanks again! I typed out a microsoft word document listing my concerns but didnt specifically mention a disorder. I also took in a report from the person who saw him at school. The doctor said it sounded a bit like Asperger's, more Asperger's than ADHD and referred him to the Consultant Psychiatrist at CAMHS. I hope we got this one in time ... I think I need to learn the strategies for dealing with him and then educate my husband! I am looking into social stories and PECS for difficult things. I must admit Im not into support groups face to face but I quite like using forums, emailing people etc. Funnily enough, I can write things down a lot easier than I can say them. I found that out when I was a student

Im looking for something like this, free to copy from the web please? http://www.do2learn.com/subscription/produ...f_toileting.php I want to support R's toileting skills, particularly wiping his own bottom. I think he is ready to give it a go as today he didnt shout me but unfortunately used a flannel! Any ideas? It would need to be fairly detailed eg how many sheets to tear off, how many times to wipe, where to put paper, when to stop, wash your hands etc. Thank you!

Our GP thinks he has many of the characteristics of Asperger's (I didnt mention Asperger's or anything when I went in, just told her what our concerns about his behaviour were). She has referred him to CAMHS Consultant Psychiatrist for assessment. Has anyone had any experience of Dr Chalhoub At Flockton House, Sheffield? Hi All.With my Moderator hat on....if anyone has any information about the Dr mentioned please pm rather than posting information re a specific professional on the open Forum.Thanks Karen.

I have been to our GP today. She has referred DGS to a Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist at CAMHS. She thought he had some traits of Asperger's. She said I could ring social services but dont hold my breath. She was happy to give DH a sick note though for whilst I was off. I suppose if I get a diagnosis from CAMHS before I go into hospital then I am eligible to apply for Direct Payments.

Our 5 year old is on school action plus and has seen an Early Years Inclusion Officer from the LEA. I have asked her to visit him again as I think we need more support. ATM I dont know whether he is on the autistic spectrum, or has ADHD or some sort of developmental disorder. He is bright enough, but his social skills, emotion regulation etc are poor. He is also a bit on the clumsy side and very impulsive. I dont know whether to continue letting the person who visits school decide whether he needs an assessment or go some other route. I have been thinking of going to our GP, the one who referred our daughter. I thought our health visitor was going to refer him but tbh she has made a bit of a u turn and I feel messed about. Should I go to the GP and ask for a referral for assessment at the place in our city where children with special needs are assessed? Or should I just let school carry on? I really feel we need help at home to deal with him, my husband is constantly losing his temper with him and his behaviour is very challenging. When I am ill there is only my husband to take over and he doesnt have the patience or skills needed. Whats best?

I wondered if they still had home helps. I heard they had been privatised and it was a different service now which you had to pay for. What are "direct payments" please?

I have ordered the social stories book too, as they were suggested by the special needs early years inclusion service. I am going to write my own based on the Carol Gray book. I will let you know how I get on. I would be interested in going on a course too and will look into this. What are Widgets please?

Tally, I have a residence order and parental responsibility, my husbands name is on the court papers as well as my own. I suppose the special rights for time off are unpaid leave, which he could probably ask for. That would put a bit of strain on the family though. It would mean I couldn't afford the 2 year olds nursery fees for a start, as well as doing without a lot of other stuff or getting into debt. I need to think about exactly what help I will need, what I am entitled to and where the gaps are. Im still feeling a bit fragile after the hospital ATM. Im hoping to chat to our HV tomorrow but if she suggests short term foster care or home start she can forget it.

My situation is: my daughter 21, is waiting to be assessed for Asperger's. She now lives with me again, as she was incapable of living independently. She goes to stay with her ex boyfriend 2 or 3 nights a week and her input around the house is minimal. I am bringing up her two children, one of whom (DGS age 5) has very difficult behaviour and may or may not have ASD/ADHD. He found it very unsettling for me just going into hospital as a day case and has had major tantrums this evening, on my return. The other child is 2 years old. Today I have learned I need a hysterectomy. DH has taken off as much leave as he can already whilst Ive been ill. Ive been for a minor op today and they couldnt do it: I need the hysterectomy. How can I go about getting some support at home whilst Im in hospital? My parents and parents in law are too elderly and have health problems of their own. My MIL could possibly babysit at most once a week. Thats about it as far as family input is concerned.

I have just potty trained our youngest and she was easier and earlier to train than her brother. We used stickers and jelly tots for rewards and really went overboard with the praise. We also went GRADUALLY from nappies to pants. Started at first training with nappies on, then pull ups, then the towelling lined pants then real pants, over a period of time. A couple of my own daft ideas that might help: She enjoyed this little song to the tune of twinkle twinkle little star Tinkle Tinkle Freya's botty, Pull down your pants and put it on the potty. Also I pinched the social stories idea, took some digital photos and made Freyas potty book and laminated it. Basically a story or script with visual cues about needing to wee, going to the potty, pulling down pants, sitting down, listening (which she enjoyed) and pulling your pants up. We also had a potty in each downstairs room and one in the bathroom. Hope this helps.

This is what I meant: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Clippasafe-Cabinet...UTF8&s=baby But these are a more modern variant and might be better: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Clippasafe-Mini-Mu..._sim_by_title_2 http://www.amazon.co.uk/Clippa-Cabinet-Twi...d_bxgy_by_img_a

How do you give fish oils to a child who wont take medicines and is suspicious of new tastes? I expect he would notice them in his juice ... Im sure someone must have overcome this though.

Sorry for seeming a bit dense, but Ive not heard of Epsom salts being used in the bath before. So you actually put 2 cupfuls in? Isnt that a lot? Where do you buy them in reasonable quantities for bathing? I thought Epsom Salts came in a smallish tin and you took it for some kind of stomach upset or constipation. (A dose of salts?). Would it be suitable for a child with eczema? Do they make you itch?

This may or may not help. We didnt find the normal cupboard door locks any good, but we were fortunate that most of our cupboards in the kitchen have handles which are in pairs. We found we could fasten both handles together with a sort of plastic device for cupboards that resembled an extended padlock. It is a sort of U shaped clip with a clamp on that has to be squeezed to be released. They came in the box of safety gadgets given to us by a health visitor. We have used this because our house is rented and it doesnt damage the fittings. Ideally, the suggestions for proper locks by a joiner sounds the best, but it depends if you can do this to your cupboards.

I dont know if I have the energy to do this at the moment, as I have fibromyalgia. But I will do at some point,

When the social worker discharged us following award of the residence order, I was led to believe I might get family support. I asked repeatedly, but the support worker said I didnt qualify as we didnt have a specific issue to be referred for. I said cant we just be referred because we have had a tough time and find it difficult to cope with a very demanding child, no it has to be a specific issue. It really was as if they couldnt wait to get us off their books.

I was referred to the people in the council who help with benefit claims by the lady who came out to assess me for a shower. She thought I should be getting more DLA. They never got in touch, I told her this and she was supposed to have chased it up, but she did say they were very overstretched. I dont have any faith in them Im afraid. As far as Children and Young People's service are concerned (AKA social services) they couldnt wait to get me off their books as soon as I took the children on.

I doubt he would swallow tablets, but I would try the paracetamol with no flavour. I remember my eldest son could take capsules at age 6, but GS is totally different. He only eats a few foods and is suspicious of anything new, even new sweets!

Is there anyone who actually offers a service which goes through the form with you? I know the CAB do this, but when they did mine they knew so little about fibromyalgia that they weren't any good. I tend to rely on the BHAS site for my renewals.

We have tried the calpol in Ribena trick. He somehow detected something was wrong. He is so crafty, whenever he is ill now he asks for plain water so we cant slip anything into his drink.