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She's back home safe and sound now. Although I got a load of attitude and no Kiss hello when i picked her up. Once she'd been home a littl while she apologised and with some lemsip down her, she's sleeping soundly. x

Thnk you for replying to my post, it has helped a littleand for that I'm grateful. Your point, Tally about me being able to spot my children had difficulties and my parents not, is pretty much what I'm holding onto for the moment. CWP, my partner says the same thing to me, but 5 mins later I'm blaming myself again. We sound like we have alot in common. I'll message you later when I have a little time to chat. x

Hi CWP, I tried just playing board games but my AS 6yr old has to win and introduces new rules as he goes along. Even if we eplain he can't change the rules he'll still try and then it ends in tears. it's such a dilemma as without board games and role play there is not much left except read. He even makes an arguement out of building Lego as he needs to ake rules about how you build etc. AAAGGGHHH!!!Althugh t's good to know I'm not alone with this one, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through it too x

I gave both my girls the MMR on time as it was before all the problems with the link with autism. When i had my son, my mother was re training as a nurse and I had a few concerns about giving my son the jab. Somy mum went to the hospital library and got some books out that are not used for the publc and read up on the subjet. it said that although there was a question mark at the time of a link to autism, there was no question mark whatsoever with kids who had the jab after 2 yrs of age instead of the normal 1 yr old. So i held out til my son was 2. the HV had a fit but I explained what I had found out and she couldn'y say much as i was planning to immunise him, just not when the Hv dictated I should. I felt happy with my decision and still do even though my son has dx aspergers. Funny how thngs work out. HoweverI do not believe theat the MMR gave him asergers x

When ever i get a new kettle it always says to fill it and boil once or twice before using it for drinking, but I alays do it at least 5 times. When i lived in germny we used to get terrible lime sale and we'd pop a baby's sterilising tablet in to soak overnight. i tried this on a kettle tht had the same problem as yours does and it did the trick. Hope this helps.........I know what a disaster awful tea can be

i'm a massive Stephen King fan, so i'm re reading the Gunslinger series, not like his usual horror stuff and I didn't think I would like it but it blew my mind. Lots of twists and turns. i love the way King incorporates people from his other books into his books. In the gunslinger books there's a rose which is core to the story and it pops up in another book he wrote ages ago. I re read Insomnia a few months back (one of my favourites and because Id read th gunslinger since the first tie I'd read it, i noticed loads of stuff from the gunslinger sneakily written into it. Sorry for being a Stephen King bore I'm also reading Slumdog Millionaire and it's flippin brill.

I have skinny dipped in Lee On Solent, at 2 a.m, in February, in the snow I have never ben able to grow my fingernails

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I know the old " I need a drink, straighten out my sheet" routine I have noticed though that since I put some lights in his room he doesn't kick off about actually going to bed anymore. i got a load of different car map reading lights from B&Q, that look quite space age. One is clipped to his headboard, one above his head, another stuck to the wall so he can see it when he looks down from his bed. I also put an empty plugin air freshener into a socket and it gives off a soft glow. i jst need to know how to stop him getting up durig the night now. Funnily enough gemgems77, my son was an excellant sleeper when he was a baby x

Baddad I also pulled the finger the max times.....what? It's funny! And I knew it couldn't take my pic but am nosey so wanted to see what it would do. I got 100 so either I'm stoopid, have the morals of a 11 yr old or i'm stoopid x I agree with Diane, I'm not stoopid, I just have a sense of humour

I would've reacted the same way, what a comment that last one was....well done! Unfortunately this type of behaviour from girls(and boys) is all too common and the general public won't stand up to them, hence they do it all the more as they know there's no punishment. The sorry thing is, is thatthey can be dangerous and if you give them a come back they'll either back down, or attack you. Unfortunately you never know which until either you're left standing there wondering what the hell that was all about or you're on your way to casualty x

hi all, I'm feeling a bit bad at the moment and wondered if anyone has any ideas on my problem? My 16yr old daughter in undx aspie, but is seeing a counsellor who is going to disgnose her either way. She is currently on a school trip in poland. I spoke to a teacher before she went away about her poss AS and tld her that my daughter freaks out with change of routine but was ok about going away as she'd had long enough to prepare, however the problem is always going to be once she's there. If there's something that sticks in her mind as a problem she will obsess and if the routine she's expecting whilst away changes she will get in a state. the teacher was very good about it and said my daughter could go to her for anything. The day she was going my daughter had the sniffles, when she gets the sniffles the flu always follows. I knew she's either fight it off and come home and collapse for a few ays or she'd crumble whilst awy. She crumbled!!! I've had tearful phone calls and texts saying she's thrown up etc. She stayed in the hotel yesterday for a few hrs whilst the group went shopping, but the teacher made her go to the restaurant in the evening. My daughter was upset she'd been made to go but I can see it from the teachers point of view that a much needed teacher can't stay in the hotel for someone with a cold and she can't allow the child to stay alone the whole time. My daughter also doesn't want to stay alone the whole time as this freaks her out, she's in a strange hotel, in a foreign country, alone! She went out with the group this morning, came back to the hotel and threw up, so stayed alone in the hotel for a few hrs this afternoon. They have to go to a restaurant this eveningand she's telling me she's going to refuse to go. i can see the signs of her kicking off and there's gonna be alot of upset if they make her go. but she can't reasonably be left. Also i expect the teacher is worried because if she doesn't eat she won't get fed until the mornng, my daughters reply to this? i haven't eaten since I got here anyway! So i said to et soe sleep until the group return and she may feel better and if there's any problems get the teacher to ring me. She then tells me she hasn't slept since she got there either! There's a stain on the bed and she doesn't know what it is and because of this cannot reasonably be expected to sleep so she's staying awake, with flu. I know what she's like in these circumstances and she needs me to calm her and work around it in the way we've got. How do i convey it to her through the phone? How do i comfort her and stop a meltdown happening which I can plainly see happening? I'm worrying myself stupid with tjis but my hands are tied x

Hello,i'm new too and think I may have AS. i have a son dx aspie, a daughter undx aspie and a NT daughter and partner. I've only been a member of this site a few weeks but it's given me some insight and made me feel a abit better about a few things. i hope you get the same x

I'm not sure it's reasonable for teachers to recognise all types of ASD. My daughter is undergoing dx for aspergers and after 6 yrs of counselling and anger management I only picked up on what I think is aspie traits after my on was recently diagnosed. i could have every right to complain to the school as they've been involved with my daughter's counselling and problems and also her counsellor as he's spoken to her for 6 yrs and it's taken me to broach the subject of aspergers. I spoke to my son's teacher when he was diagnosed and although she was surprised, once she's thought about it she wasn't, as he fits the bill for high functioning aspergers. The teachers have a class of x amount of kids, some full of life, some not, some confident, some nice, some not so nice etc etc. They badly behaved Nt kids and the kids with ADHD etc will be the one's the teachers will pick up on straight away, the high functioning aspies etc will be left by the by as they're quiet, great doing their worketc. My son is doing great at school, is doing maths for the yr above him and academically only has a real problem with hand writing. Many NT kids could fit the same bill. Now his teacher is aware she see'shim struggle with friendships, communication etc. m daughter is now realising why she can't make friends and why sometimes she offends the one's has, she failed most of her mock GCSE's even though her target was A's and B's but not one teacher thought it was because of a problem. I did though and now I am acting as though she's had dx in my head, i've approached the school and they're helping her so she doesn't go into meltdown when se sits the real GCSe's in May. personally in my own situation i would never dream of taking action against the school or counsellor for not reognising AS as I feel now we know there's a problem we can unite and help my kids get their persoal struggles resolved. it's a hard thing for even a parent to rcognise in some instances and the drive put into suing or complaining could be better utilised in helping the kids. I hope I haven't offend you i anyway, it's just my opinion on my own circumstances x

I had the same problems with my 6 yr old. He was waking every night 6 or 7 times and I did what the health visitors suggest for NT kids, to not talk to them except to say back to bed darling, then tuck them in and leave straight away. He knows this is the routine and acepts it but it doesn't stop him getting up. So we thought maybe if we gave him a new big boys room he would want to stay in it. We got him to choose a theme and help choose his bed and furniture and he got so excited, then the first night of sleeping in his new room came and he kicked off big time! it was just too much for him, so now I have to put him to bed and check him every 10 mins til he's asleep then he's waking still 6 0r 7 times a night.....so i kinda made a rod for my own back It's like having a new born again aaaggghhh!

No offence taken whatsoever I always put my coldness etc down to my upbringing but my partner has noticed things about me that i struggle to put down to my upbringing. He thought I might have epilepsy when we met as I often go bank, he said that there is no expression on me and I suddenly snap back after some minutes or so, but I am def not epileptic as I saw the doctor. Also I really don't know when I upset people, I hate people touching me when I'm not aware of tem such as my kids coming up behind me and cuddling me, it makes mre jump and I feel nasty in that spit second. I cn't sympathise with people when they're upset, when I have upset someone and they tell me my initial reaction is for them to get a grip as it's not important. If I don't see the sense in something and someone else does I end up offending them. But maybe it is just my upbringing forming my peronality? I'm just really confused at the moment. Plus, with my sons diagnosis and possibly my daughter, they will need me to understand them and what if I can't give them what they need? I go to the counseling sessions religiously with my daughter, every fortnight for 6 yrs, I helpher with any homework they set her, I support all my kids with everything they do even though half the time I dn't understand why they want to do the things they do. And although there are ouch moments when i snap or freeze on them, they have grown up with me like that. My biggest worry is with my partner, he is understanding and tries to understand me but how can I be sympathetic when half the time I don't know I've upsethim orhe made me aware that i did and I don't really see the problem. ? I said in my first post that I felt guilty I had hurt my partner and spoiled his day, but looking back on it, ifelt guilty on the trainride to town, then got into what I was doing and didn't even think about it untilI saw him again after he got home from work and mentioned it to me again. I think i felt more confused than guilty as I honestly didn't know I'd upset him....again! AAAggghhhh!!!!

Both my kids refuse to eat slimy food such as pasta. My son who is 6, is physically sick just looking at some foods because of their consistency. He also cannot be anywhere near my yr old niece when she eats as he is sick then too. x

My daughter has a very loud voice and when I asked her to tone it down she would get very defensive with me. We had a chat and I explained that she doesn't realise how loud she is and if I quietly say to her, voice babe, when she does it to not take offence. She now knows the cue and doesn't even stop speaking whilst turning down the volume. My son has a super high pitched voice, which I am aware of but it doesn't bother me. Could this be because I may be an aspie too? However my partner is NT and my sons voice really grates on my partners nerves. We tell him when he's doing it and he uses his 'nice voice' for a few minutes before it returns.

Hi all, My 6 yr old son has been recently diagnosed high functioning aspergers. He loves role playing games but they always end up in tears. I have now banned these games when his cousins come round and get them to play something else or read etc. as they'll get side tracked and wander off when he's sat there not understanding why they now want to play with the dog instead of finishing playinghouse. The problem is with my 14 yr old NT daughter. She loves to play with her brother but no matter what they start off playing it always accidentally ends up in some kind of role playing or games with rules, which my son cannot do either. My daughter loves these games but becomes very bossy and ends up dictating the whole game and it ends in tears. It's got to the point that they argueevery time they spend time together, my son has slapped her a few times and he's a big, strong lad so it's very worrying. I've banned them from doing anything together eccept for reading, playing on the computer together. They can't even build lego as it ends up in rules etc. Does anyone else have similar problems? If so how do you deal with it? What else can my son do with his sister ans for that matter any child who comes to play. It's upsetting for him and everyone else that games always end in tears.

Hi all, I'm Shaynie and I have a 16 yr old daughter who is undergoing diagnosis for high functioning aspergers, a 6 yr old son who'e been recently diagnosed with the same thing and I am undiagnosed but convinced i too have it. My middle child, a 14 yr old daughter and my partner of 3 yrs are neuro typical. Have a load of questions and frustrations I will post in the appropriate places.....well my view of appropriate Hope to talk to you soon x

Hello everyone, I'm new to this site and to Asperger's in general. My 6 yr old son has recently been diagnosed with high functioning Asperger's and it was a kind of relief to finally understand him. How he struggled to make friends and all his other little quirky ways. Once we had diagnosis we started to question whether or not my eldest child had it too. She's almost 16 and experienced a trrauma during the summer before she started high school. She went into a massive meltdown and self harmed, had suicidal thoughts, showed OCD traits and more. She's been in counselling ever since and done anger management and is on anti depressants. She has struggled through high school and always complains that she has no friends yet cannot bring herself to pick up the phone to them, she melts down when given homework and assessments yet is completely able to do the work and is an A star pupil. Looking back to before the trauma she always reacted badly to change in routine, we lived abroad and whenever we travelled back to the UK she's be unsettled for ages, and had other traits. We asked her counsellor to diagnose her either way as 6 yrs of counselling haven't accomplished anything and she and I still feel frustrated etc. Then to top it all off, my partner took me aside last week and said that I also display alot of Aspie traits and we've done some online tests. He has always said throughout our 3 yr relationship that he doesn't understand me, I seem at odds with myself and that there are some traits I have that clash with my base personality, that he knows I'm a generous, warm and caring person but my cold, blunt and aloof ways are at odds with that. Apparently I stare into space alot, am so blunt at times that without realising I can upset him so much that he spends the day wondering what he's done and then when he asks me about it I am oblivious, I struggle with people, can't do eye contact etc. Most of these I didn't know but am trying to be aware of and some I kind of agree I do, others I am clueless. I had a terrible upbringing and still have big problems with my family especially my mother, and always put my emotional wall being up down to that, but now Aspergers is a possibility I feel like I no longer know myself, did my mother have the right to treat me the way she did because I was an aspie and was difficult? Was I so oblivious of people's feelings that it's understandable they treated me badly? I have alot of thoughts like these but kind of know mostly no-one should treat anyone badly just because they're cold, blunt and aloof. But I am questioning the way I think and feel about myself and think and feel in general about things. My partner says I'm looking completely on the negative side and need to see the positive but this morning I got a call from him as I stood on the train station, and he was really upset because I'd been nasty to him this morning before we all left the house. This spoiled his day but alsospoiled mine as I wasn't aware I'd hurt him and then felt guilty. I guess it's easier to put a label on me but I really don't see how it will help....maybe it'll help him so I should do it??????A diagnosis helped me understand my son and hopefully will also with my daughter but I got this far without a diagnosis. Also I guess I'm a little scared that if I am an aspie then who the hell am I? I'm not who I thought I was for the whole of my life. How do I differentiate my feelings caused by possible aspergers and my terrible upbringing and violent past marriage? I have read here about meltdowns. Can anyone explain what they experience during this? I have what I call episodes where I am really snappy, nasty, stop cooking and cleaning the house. It's kind of like a depression but suddenly after a few days I snap back. Could this be a meltdown or something else?