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T has been asked yet again to go for his Diph, Tet, Polio Reinforcing injection. He is petrified of needles, last time they took blood we had to go to the hospital. It took 5 nurses to hold him down and take blood, now he will NEVER have it done again. It was horrific and in the end I cried as it upset me so much. What can be done, no one seems to care or know what to do. How can it possibly be right to forcibly hold a 13 year old down and put him through a terrible time? Has anyone got any clues on where to start and any experiences?

Such brilliant news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There is a lot of politics going on in the background, another school a few miles away were offered the expansion and the school we want our son to go to wasn't! The school can 100% meet his needs as I've been there and it is fantastic. The reason they don't want him is their children in the borough come first then out of borough come second. Which is funny as they have 2 children from my borough currently at that unit! It's an LEA issue and they are warring with my borough, it is unfair as my son needs a place and this is it. His last school was out of borough too!!! It's just the way my borough worded it about the additional place baffles me. I know I shouldn't get my hopes up as it'll be a tribunal in the end as always!

It is an LEA provison and they only have 14 children in there and no more and it's full now for September. My OH thinks they are going to pay a bit extra for them to extend it or make room for him. I think they are wording it slightly different and they will just pay them for taking T as they would anyways.

I know what you mean Dana. My son was constantly set up by the others in his old school, and he was bullied and wound up, it's awful that even though we have removed him from his old school he wants to go back to his "friend's".. Some were nice to him but it outweighed the others

Basically T has been out of school since March as his old one constantly neglected him, resulting in a sexual assault on a school trip to France. In other words EBD+ASD= disaster! Well our LEA has asked the school we want in another LEA for a place, they have said they are full. They have asked again "formally" (waste of time and paper) and they wrote back and formally said no. Now they sent us a letter saying "It is felt that the provision in the above named school will meet T's needs and in accordance with the SEN code pf practice for Wales, section 8.63, C****** LEA is formally consulting you regarding his admission in September 2009 and is willing to purchase an additional place at ***** school. I would appreciate further consideration of the Authority's request and i would be grateful if the second proposed amended statement could be forwarded to the school" Now this "communication disorder base" is owned by the LEA not the school and only takes 14 children, they say they are full.. My OH seems to think they will pay over the odds to extend it maybe to make it possible for T to go there. I think they might be stating the obvious and saying our LEA will pay your LEA for a place but sprucing it up so to speak. What do you think, it's soooo stressing me out! We are going to appeal for this place, our LEA are naming an inappropriate school in their LEA which I went to see again. It has a great ASD base but goes into mainstream with one TA and 28 mainstream kids, T wouldn't cope at all. The other school does mainstream in an SEN class much smaller size, and they also have 1-1.

They have changed as much as we wanted in the parts 2 and 3 but will only put "enhanced" support instead of 1-1 as he always has in his previous schools. Their reasoning for this is that the school we want will be easier to get?!?!?! Do you think they are pulling a fast one? Also they are going to name a school in part 4 which is slightly similar but doesn't meet his needs to go to the tribunal as it's in our/their borough , a school which was thrown out in the last tribunal.. Where do we stand on that? Also is it true you can write to the tribunal and ask for our case to be heard any quicker due to the horrific circumstances surrounding it? This what the Ed.P said to us, or is this another load of codswallop?

That's fantastic news .. as said before NEVER trust the LEA

That is one brilliant post!!

So good so far Sesley... might try the fruit picking with T!

I thought it was wrong, they sent us a statement and said "It was written for the school we want" They really are a law unto themselves, you have to laugh!

The statement is written for the child and not written to suit the school?

At last after chasing them for almost a week and ringing non stop they have given me a meeting on Thursday!! After five months things are finally (painfully slow) moving.. What annoys me is they are using information from 2005 and he has improved loads in that time and it's very inaccurate, my DH seems to think it doesn't matter as it can be changed when we go to appeal for the school we want. They have bowed down to loads of our suggestions which I thought they never would !! It's just sooooooo dated, they have their own educational psychologist shouldn't they do an assessment after 4 years???? We had one done by an independent one when we went to tribunal 2 years back but they won't use it. On a good point we have been given an extra 5 hours a week so 2 hours a day which we thought we'd never get of private tuition.

They do supply receipts and they pay for their own meals.. I think they take him to lunch as it's close to lunchtime and it takes up the time (3 hours).. I'll just give them £3 today as that will just pay for the swimming.

My son goes out with care workers 5 days a week, social services pay the firm to take him out 3 hours at a time as he isn't in a school.. the downside is they take him to places we can't afford and buy him dinner, on some days it's £10 a day and we can't afford it. I have said to them numerous time I can't afford it, but when I don't have change they plough through the money.. Someone told me that we don't have to pay for this.. is this true?

bikemad we are trying to get our son into a school in the RCT borough but RCT are refusing, we took T out and have been left with no school and an hour a day tuition sometimes less as the Tutor has doctors appointments some weeks!

We have the opposite as T doesn't get to sleep until around 3am and up at 7am ready for the day! We are exhausted.. Is there a way to break the pattern and take her out in the day and wear her out physically, maybe go swimming quite late and melatonin? Just a thought..

szxmum I could have written some of your post, we have the same too. My DH always send me links and phone numbers to call as "I do it better" and says "well I'm in work".. tbh he does type a mean email.. Also my mum saw T attack me last Wednesday after arguing with his sister.. I had blood down my arm as he scrammed me so hard, her solution is "Do it back harder" So I replied what about when he punches and kicks me, could you imagine?!?!?! I totally sympathise with you.. everyone has an answer and it's usually not thought through!

Spooky or what... just got a call of some woman to do with a the CPS and she is going to get all the paperwork from the police and then call a meeting with us, I won't hold my breath but you never know! I have got in contact with the other parent and her letter is more sympathetic to her daughter as she has EBD, a totally different reply to her!!

In my past posts I said about how my son was sexually assaulted by a 15 year old (not ASD), he also did it to a girl on the same trip twice, and another boy.. The teachers were told and they didn't believe them.. Well a letter came through and they said as T is ASD they can't cross examine him so this boy is back in school as a resident with no sanctions. The letter the other girl got said that he admitted it and said he was "naughty" and has a final warning! The girl has been pulled out after what he did also as you know my son was pulled out after 2 years of hell.. We are complaining but don't hold out much hope, even the policeman was embarrassed telling us and told us to go to the papers!!!!

Kathryn according to our solicitors Cardiff have the worst LEA in the country and he travels all over the UK. We have been blackmailed (last week), and told (2 years ago) that if he doesn't go to the school they picked "he can just stay home", this was after the tribunal and we won but they were fit to burst so he didn't get into the ASD school! Then placing my son in "borstal" not under his ASD but saying he had EBD!!!!!!!! Still waiting for a refusal which the LEA had 2 weeks ago as they are stalling as the 6 weeks are almost here.. My caseworker is a total unfeeling robot and gives me one word replies.. I don't know how they sleep at night quite honestly!

I've dealt with them for years and everything is a battle with them, the way they try to "con" you and "trick" you.. For example the other day I was told we'd have to drop the judicial inquiry as they can't do the statement/*look* for a school or go to appeal at the same time as the inquiry and it would take longer What are your stories of how you have been treated by them?

It looks good, i'll be going to see that

We were discussing this the other day.. we are going back to Blackpool this year only as it has the Doctor Who exhibition so we can bargain with our ASD teenager. His sisters want to go to Spain next year but there will be nothing of interest there for him.. not quite sure what to do as he really isn't a beach and sea person

OMG that's terrible, so you home ed your son now? We just want a school with a unit, it makes me angry that if he was DX properly when he was 7 he wouldn't be going through all of this now!