lindy-lou

hi T's mum,i find it hard to explain to people as well,its too complex to be summed up quickly,like how can i say.... India thinks her life depends on sitting on the right hand side and walking down the stairs in front of you,and then expect anyone to understand to what extent those maybe seemingly minor things to them go,but it is things like that that i tell them,that to another child they may get upset about it but to Indy it will spoil her (and my)whole day,it wont be forgotten,it cant be repaired by going and doing it "right" IYKWIM,im sure you do!! Also i dont like explaining to people now,as when i told a few of the mums at Indys nursery they stopped talking to me and pull their child away from her like she is a dangerously contagious illness

thanks x

*Update* India will be having surgery on 21st June.plese keep her in your prayers,im so scared

she is pulling her clothing down to do it,either that or she has no clothes on (which is most of the time) she goes tot he toilet normally otherwise.

Thanks,i think the dog theory is the most reasonable one although she doesnt do any oter doggie things!!either that or she just cant be bothered to go upstairs to the loo

jb she is 3 as well and we have had a dog for 4 months so yes maybe she is copying the dog,i was almost sick too when she pooed in the garden

for several weeks India has been weeing wherever she fels like it,in the living room,kitchen,on the steps outside etc,DH got really mad the other day when she went into the kitchen and did a wee on the floor,she has never done this before so dont know why she has started now,she was out in the garden today and i caught her pooing on the grass,ive explained to her its wrong to do this but dont know what to do about it if it continues,any ideas as to why she may suddenly have started doing this?

Ive never heard of it,but found this recipe http://southernfood.about.com/od/spicecake.../r/bl30220g.htm i might actually have a go at making it and see what its like

aw poor you elaine <'>

my carers allowance does not affect my child tax at all

it is not just higher rate,we get middle rate care and we get a disabled child premium on child tax credit,which was backdated to the date DLA was awarded,which was 5 months worth.

aw i missed this i wonder if it will be repeated on E4 or more4?

may sound silly phas,but what sort of things should we be looking out for?

WOW SO GLAD YOUR BACK,THOUGHT YOU MAY HAVE GONE FOR GOOD THANKYOU X

Many happy returns

I use AVG free edition and EWIDO home suite free edition.

Well done girls on getting your DLA Dont forget to reapply for your carers allowance and inform tax credits of your award.

so will she do it forever?

That is just dreadful,what sad people,what would they gain from that? Thankyou Lufty

yes it looks just like the one i had!

On the 1 i had it had boxes for the OT to mark,like a scale and it was called the something scale,its going to bug the hell out of me now,i would have thought the same thing would have been used nationally but maybe not.

Thanks for your replies,its so hard sometimes,she has not been well today either and has been quite stressful,i cope most of the time but some days i just feel like my head is gong to pop off with it all At least i know im not on my own,thanks guys x <'>

i cant remember the name of the scale its worked out by but im sure if you look on it bagpuss you will see it on there,im sure they are all done by the same method,maybe if you see what it is then there will be a sample one online maybe?it will take a long time to type all that out!!

It seems to be that she needs approval that her behaviour isnt making me unhappy,she asks me alot if she has done something naughty,and if i say no to it if she has made me mad,then she has to say sorry til i agree i am happy,its not so much am i happy but am i happy with her,but it is non-stop and its hard to say yes im happy constantly when i feel anything but because of the constant questionng.

India has developed a habit of asking me wether im happy,it is driving me absolutley crazy,she must have asked me over 100 times today already,if i say no because her behaviour is naughty or she is ignoring what ive asked her then she says im sorry mum,i have asked her to stop asking me all the time and that i am happy,and she says ok,but 2 minutes later she says are you happy mum. I dont know why this has come about but its driving me to distraction,i cant ignore it,she does not tolerate me ignoring her,she will just get louder and louder til either i shout or she loses the plot,i dont know what to do.