Paula

I was diagnosed with bi polar disorder (manic depression) I also suffer with eating disorders. I suffered with all these problems though before my son was born but the added pressure of his Autism made the symptoms a hell of a lot worse at times.

My son also insists on pulling his trousers up very high almost under his armpits. Dont matter how long i buy them he always manages to get them looking like there two sizes too small. Its a talent hes perfected over the years.Bless him.

My son is gorgous grey eyes and blonde haire with long curly eyelashes. But yu know what i think makes him beautifull its the fact that he is a beautifull person.theres no meanness,no judgeing no cinicism in him at all.He sees the good in everthing takes pleasure in the most mundane things like a bird singing or the fact theres frost on the ground. The goodness shines outta him he glows with an angelic quality that most children and adults have lost. thats what makes these kids and all i think disabled menatally or physically kids beautifeull it comes from the soul.

No he hasnt realy got any other phobias.This si the biggy this toilet carry one. Youve all really helped if only in showing that im not the only one going through this.I thought it was just us. Its not something that you talk about with other mums like is it, oh by the way i wipe my almost 12 year old sons backside every single time he uses the loo and he stinks to high heaven.Lol. Yer have to kinda laugh else youd scream about it. I guess im just gonna habve to hope that like his stepping of the pavement at only certaine spots,his obsession with the Simpsons,The only wearing one paire of socks or sleeping fully clothed including shoes,i kid you not!!!! that this too will eventually pass and be something we can joke about. I love the little terror to pieces hes fulfilled my life beyond all expectations.Hes an angel with sooty wings as his great grandma used to say.Thers nothing i would change nothing i wouldnt have wanted looking back to have gone through. But ill be glad when he says get lost mum im a big boy now and i dont need yer help in the loo no more.

My daughter used to attend a group called Young Carers. You need to get in touch with social services or the carers gateway and say youve a child with autism and youd like his or her brother sister to join the group.Its all free.They pick youre child up and drop them of.All the kids have either disabled parents or siblings. Its like a youth group.My daughter loved it. Its available across the country and most places have a group. Im from west yorkshire weve got one here. Hope this helps.

To be totally honest my son has never ever wiped his own baottom. Like you say at first when there younger you do it for them.Then he went through a stage where he wouldnt go to the toilet for a poo at all and was terrible constipated to the degree where he had constant anal leakage.He was given supositrys and stuff what a nightmare that was.They forced his bowel to contract and he had to use the loo. In between all this i just kept going to the loo with him wipeing his bottom ect in order to keep him clean and tidy.He didnt appear to care if he was messed up and so rightly or wrongly i took over the job. Then wham years have passed hes 11 years old and youre still doing it. Its got to the stage where hell touch a kandoo wipe.But and this sound so daft.He has a ritual surrounding this.He place 5 sheets on his hands in a certain way and then gives me the paper to do the job. I guess its progress if only i could get him to wipe his bottom. He doesnt like talking about it so there is some sort of embarresment factor there.Hell only allow me to do it.Brill being a mum hey. He doesnt like the smell and when hes in a more talkative mood he has said hes scared of it going on his hands germs dirt ect........ Hence i suggested gloves. People laugh they say just leave him when hes stinking and uncomfortable hell learn to wipe his bumBut come on my son doesnt bother about being smelly or uncomfortable it seams not to effect him Im so worried that hes gonna be a hulking 18 year old man with me still doing his personal hygeien. Im desperate for help.Been to the gps no go.They dont take it seriously.Some clinical physcologist came round and waite for it tried to hypnotise him what a saga.My son even said what a load of mumbo jumbo. Ive read books alsorts. Any any help especialy form an as person who maybe has gone through this would be most welcome. Paula

Just wanted to introduce myself. My names Paula.I have a son of 11 who has Aspergers syndrome.hes got a sister whoes older shes aged 13.He has been attending a special school since he was 6 years old and is doing really well. The maine problem i currently have with him and i hope please someone can help because ive tried every where is that hes frightened of toilet paper and thus wont wipe his own bottom. On the surface this sounds daft and not important but its a realy problem.Ive tried everything differnt coloured paper incase it was the colur,wet tissues,asking if he wants to wear gloves but nothing works. Has anyone else had this type of problem if and how and when was it solved or like most things will it eventually fizzle out and pass to be replaced with another routine or fear. Any help will be much appreciated. paula