adamsmum

My eldest is 14yrs old. He has PDD & DCD. He has been obsessed by other boys bottoms and bits from very young. We hasve tried teaching him about privacy and not touching others bits but he will still act inapropiatly around others. He masterbates in his bedroom with the door open nowing his brothers or me will see. In the past he touched his brothers. We tried following advice from social workers like removing tv if he do's it. Or time out that didnt work Yesterday his little brother said the eldest did it again I called social worker this morning to ask for eldest to get help . Im very upset as im worride we are going to end up in trouble. I dont understand why he keeps doing it as he knows its wrong. I dont know how to help him any more She is coming out next week

Thanks The name just poed in to my head when he was born I dont watch TV much as most is rubbish id rather read. I realy dont like adds and yes Go compaire add is bad lol. Most the soaps seem to just copy each other too I like reading History books. Or True Ghost story books. Im reading one now about hounted locations in forest of Dean

Im Adams Mum. Im mum to 7 children 6 boys one girl. 2 of my boys have Autism and i think a 3rd has too. I seem to have lost my identity this is why im called Adams mum.

Thank you KKaren

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Thank you Tally

Thank you Im very proud of him he is very special

As a lot of you might know Adams had to struggle a bit to acheve things others will find easy. We where told he would never do things and he proved them wrong each time. We where told Adam would never show love or bond with any thing or any one. I Took a photo at the moment Adam prooved them wrong. This is a very special picture to me and Adams Dad and we entered it in to a comp. Id like to share it with you all . Please feel free to vote if you would like to as id love his picture to be selected to be shown but this is about showing every one any thing is possible http://www.wizehive.com/voting/view/nas-friendship/2960/554340/0

Its hard work but also good fun

I also dont notice the Ads

I use facebook a lot. A lot of my friends are on there. Its a free way of staying in contact with them. My closest friend is living in new york so i get to see pics that she posts and tal to her daily. Some days there will be 10 of us all chatting together on Facebook

Just thought id pop on and say hello. Not been on for such a long time. Not had much time as now have 7 children. 6 boys and my baby girl who is now 15mth old Adam is now 12 still in his nappys and not talking yet. He is doing so well at school and he is great at art. My eldest was DX in the end with Autism and GDCD. Also my 3rd endest was DX last mth with GDCD. Both are doing great Im hoping i can get to know you all again

Thanks all. Im feeling a bit better now. I think its hurting more as iv already been throue it all with adam. We are taking things one day at a time.Kieran starts secondery school this yr so im hoping with the DX he will get all the help he needs to make it work

well kieran, adams eldest brother got diagnosed today , and its is pervasive developmental disorder and developmental coordination disorder which appears to cover his autistic traits and his motor skills. when ive calmed down and can concentrate i will be off googling this has taken 5 years and has happened due to social services pushing the issue.

hi been busy so not been in for awhile. been having problems with adams school teacher they keep saying things are wrong with him eg ear infections or bladder problems and sending him home halfway through the day. the oh says its where they cant cope with him as he recently headbutted a window and smashed it the latest one was the bladder infection and we had to send a sample to the hospital where it came back all clear ,it turns out his soiling himself is behavioural for attention as he has a new classmate and hes not getting the same attention. now they are saying as hes in pads again he cant go swimming until he has a swimming nappy on can anyone tell me where i can get a realistic priced one for a 10 year old i went on inywincy and they were over £30.

yes i have a 4 week old baby,im actually thinking of keeping son no 2 adam in school,and just home educating son no 1,he has a desk in his room and there is a table in the living room.my partner was actually the one who suggested pulling him from school and home educating him,he also said he will help with the lessons and as son no 1 listens to him the most,im confident it will work.we have been together 7 years so knows he is commited when he says he will do it. they were building a soda can robot kit the other day, all the other boys will be in nursery or school apart from the newborn. im hoping to incorperate saxophone lessons, and swimming which he does now at school and add horse riding and photography,which will help with him taking photographs of any work he has done. i feel he will benefit from a more hands on education.

Thanks all. The SW did turn up and had the Supervisor with her. They were very nice and said they could see the boys are happy and not beaten by us. The eldest was asked how he got on with Adam and he said Adam annoys him so she asked what he did about it. He said well i just beat him. I was shocked at how blunt he was. He said it with no feeling at all. They say they are going to help sort out the housing problems and talk to specialist about a full DX. He told us a DX wouldnt make a difference with getting help but SW says they cant help eldest till he has it Im calling NAS on monday. Im wondering if i can ask for a second opinion for eldest as his specialist has been dithering for years and we cant take much more of this. I cant divide the room as they would just pull sheets down . Adam has mentality of 18ths/2yrs and eldest is also delayed a lot so its just not an option. Im hoping whats happend will turn out to be a good thing and we will get some help.

theres just no room,theres 5 boys in total and a newborn baby,in a 3 bed house.

hi i dont get time to write an in depth thread but no1 son has always had problms with violence hence being statemented for behavioral and no 1 son used to go to special needs school but he was deemed too clever and had to go to mainstream school with fulltime one to one support including breaks. no2 son the victim as it were goes to a special needs school,the head knows about no 1 son as we tried getting him into his school when it opened,also no1 son has attended the summer play scheme 2 years ago so they should remember him. they never used to share a room but we did have the typical sibling rivalry with son no 3 so, no1 son had to move into a different room.

when we asked son no 1,he said it was because he broke his stuff or he wouldnt let him sleep and was getting on his nerves.we have been stopping going on the pc if he has been hitting adam,so he knows he can only go on it if hes good.but sometimes he just doesnt seem to care.

hi ive not been on awhile due to being pregnant,but things have been spiralling out of control and now ive had the baby i need to stop them asap. we have had problems with our eldest hitting his brother due to him keeping him awake at night or destroying his schoolwork or toys etc. our eldest is statemented for behavioral and learning difficulties and his consultant thinks he may have aspergers but doesnt want to label or pigeon hole him til hes older,hes 11 in feb. his brother the one being hit is 9 and has severe infantile autism cannot speak or sign and still in nappies most of the time. i bumped into the consultant on my 12 week scan and asked if he could see the boys and never heard anything since. but my 9 year old is getting beaten by the eldest nearly daily and has caused loads of bruising during the xmas break where hes been stressed out,now when they went back to school the teacher remarked on the bruises as he had a large one on his right cheek,and my partner told them what was occuring, today 4 days later i get a call after school from the headmaster asking about the bruising and if we had a social worker the upshot is hes refering us to social services and was practically accusing me and my partner of abusing our child.due to the kids playing up i had to end the call,but my partner got back and he phoned the school up and talked to the head and told him how we used to have a social worker and a family support worker but they never helped as they either just sat and moaned about how their funding was being cut and they couldnt offer any support or when we asked them to write letters to housing etc they would mess it up by getting or the facts we told them wrong.the head was a bit snobby towards him ,now im paranoid that when my kids go in to school,social services will pounce on them and they wont be coming home.we have always been truthful to everyone and when my eldest has pushed one of his other siblings onto a concrete path intentionally causing a split lip my partner told hem at a/e what had happened and who had caused it.the eldest has admitted the injuries hes caused to his brother but he will just clam up if a stranger starts asking him what happened.

hi i am thinking of pulling my 2 eldest out of school ,the eldest is statemented for behavioral and learning problems they think he may have aspergers but dont want to "pigeon hole" him .hes in mainstream with 1 to 1 support including breaks. and the second eldest has severe infantile autism and cannot sign or talk.and is in a special needs school. basically im not happy with the eldest going to secondary school and the siblings school seem to just let him do as he pleases including roll around on the floor. i was just wondering if anyone has some advice or can warn of pitfalls or has tips/shortcuts.

We had to re home bearded dragons as adam kept taking them out to pay in the garden and my eldest hurt his much loved rats with to much love. He killed his snails by bathing them he was so upet

thanks for the replies & support everyone ,i just dont know what to do with myself ,im sat upstairs crying ,no one in my family can talk as it just sets everyone off again,the only way i can release my frustration is by typing on the pc.

i dont know if any of you will remember me or my thread about my mum having skin cancer again,but i had a phone call 5.30 today from my sister saying she had passed away this morning.she was supposed to have been coming out of hospital last week but ended up in a hospice couple of days ago,where she could not recognise family and gradually grew weaker.im devastated as i couldnt get to her as i dont drive and no one could have boys for nigel to drive me to essex.my sisters only 21 and had to sit with her at the end.my baby brothers only 18 .and was living with her in her council flat so i dont know whats happening with him.all i can think about was. 6 months ago she was fine when we married in nov.