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  1. My daughter had an ADOS test after seeing a CAHMS nurse twice who said it was clear that she had aspergers and had showed the psychaitist all the results of the questionnaires we had filled in, observations of my daughter and our past history. My daughter was determined to fool the Ados test and she made sure that she looked at the Doctor at all times, she even said she acted as socialable as she could talking all the times and even waved her arms around lol(they will have her sectioned next) My daughter is 15 and very bright. She told the Doctor that she had plenty or friends and had no worries at school. She said that she was going to prove to everyone she did not have Aspergers. When we went today the Cahms nurse said that she didn't have Aspergers as she did not score on the ADOS test so she couldn't have it. My question is what do I do next something or leave it alone. I would be glad and happy if she did not have Aspergers but her behaviour and social skills tell me otherwise. Even the nurse phoned me the same day after the first appointment to make another appointment as it was so clear. I don't want to seem as if I have Munchausen's by proxy but I have always known she is different from the other three and if it is not Aspergers then what is it. I should feel very relieved that she does not have it but I am not as it is so clear to me, the nurse and psychartist, the only reason they asked for the ADOS test was to give my daughter more help at school and in later life. I am a very mixed up mum today. any advice will be greatly received. Has anyone else experienced this and what did you do about it.
  2. Bad news

    Sorry JenRose that you are having such a difficult tiime at the moment. Could you involve anyone else i.e citizens advice or talk to the Doctor about it as it must be causing your DH more anxiety with all these problems. Try and get as much help as you can because surely this is bullying in the work force. here are some <'> <'> <'> that you must need at the moment don't let them win.
  3. You have every reason to be concerned as I felt the same when my daughter was being assessed, I had no time without her to explain what living with her was like and how she struggles with friends and social skills. It would have been to cruel to say it in front of her and the reaction from her would have been hell afterwards. I too gave 2 A4 sheets of S's problems and tried to say as much as I could without upseting my daughter. I am now seeing the mental healh practioner on Tues by myself to discuss the results of the ADOS test. I have been in touch with the area Autistic society who said that the ados test was an extra tool and all the other assessentmentss still need to be taken into consideration, otherwise hospitals would only do the ADOS test and not bother about family history assessments and all thoose questionnaires good luch with your appointment with your son and be aware of the loop holes in the system.
  4. Quote from Jen Rose So we went private and our psychologist said straightaway AS and he told us that the ADOS is not a good test for AS/HFA dx as it is just ticking boxes and kids with AS/HFA are usually very very clever and can quite often appear sociable and not show difficulties in the ADOS. The lady who assessed my daughter told us that a child with AS would not have been clever enough to try and cheat the ADOS test so that they would not be diagnosed with AS like my daughter did.
  5. Thank you for sharing this with me JenRose it was very interesting, The woman who saw my daughter also said that it was so clear that she had AS, I don't even know what she was whether a clinical nurse or mental health person. I am seeing her again in a few weeks on my own to see what the next step is, at least she has not been discharged yet. thanks again Tabz
  6. Hi Kathryn as per usual, you posts always strike a chord as your daughter seems so similar to mine. What you are describing is just what my daughter is like sometimes she is fine and then boom she reacts in such a way. At the moment she is going out and has friends, God help if there is a fall out and we have not even got to boyfriend problems yet. If she knew that I was posting here she would gte depressed and stay in bed for days so I delete the history as soon as I have finished on the site. I just don't know what to do next, do I accept the results or take it further. Tabzx
  7. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me, so much of what you have said is my daughter. I feel too that it would be better to have a DX so that she can understand why she is different and learn to embrace her differences and be proud of who she is. take care tabz
  8. Test the Asd nation

    The following short quiz consists of 4 questions and will tell you whether you are qualified to be a professional. Scroll down for each answer. The questions are NOT that difficult. But don't scroll down UNTIL you have answered the question! 1. How do you put a giraffe into a refrigerator? The correct answer is: Open the refrigerator, put in the giraffe, and close the door. This question tests whether you tend to do simple things in an overly complicated way. 2. How do you put an elephant into a refrigerator? Did you say, Open the refrigerator, put in the elephant, and close the refrigerator? Wrong Answer. Correct Answer: Open the refrigerator, take out the giraffe, put in the elephant and close the door. This tests your ability to think through the repercussions of your previous actions. 3. The Lion King is hosting an animal conference. All the animals attend... except one. Which animal does not attend? Correct Answer: The Elephant. The elephant is in the refrigerator. You just put him in there. This tests your memory. Okay, even if you did not answer the first three questions correctly, you still have one more chance to show your true abilities. 4. There is a river you must cross but it is used by crocodiles, and you do not have a boat. How do you manage it? Correct Answer: You jump into the river and swim across. Have you not been listening? All the crocodiles are attending the Animal Meeting. This tests whether you learn quickly from your mistakes. According to Anderson Consulting Worldwide, around 90% of the professionals they tested got all questions wrong, but many preschoolers got several correct answers. Anderson Consulting says this conclusively disproves the theory that most professionals have the brains of a four-year-old.
  9. Bill Bryson

    Hi Jonathan I noticed that Bill Byson is apprearing all over the country with his show, we are going to see him in Buxton, he might be worth seeing if he is near you S*
  10. Hi everyone, I saw these items on ebay today and ordered some for my little foster daughter and my two other children aged 7, 11 and 12. I am hoping I can reward their positive behaviour as it is so easy to tell them of when they have behaved badly. Here is the link definetely worth a look at. http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?Vie...N%3AIT&rd=1 http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/12-Caught-Being-Good...oQQcmdZViewItem I ordered the 40 set of coins as it was better value, you could even share them witha friend. I am going to get jam jars so the kiddies can collect them in and at the end of the week there will be some kind of reward for each child. I ordered this set as well http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Encouragement-bracel...oQQcmdZViewItem lets hope they work, I have also made some behaviour warning cards yellow card for first warning red card for final warning and a consequence purple card for good behaviour pink card for excellent behaviour and a treat, such as going to the park, playing a special game, ect I never punish or reward food as most children I foster have eating disoders. I am very happy to send anyone them by email for you to print of if you think that they might be of some use. Just send me a pm and they will wind there way to you straight away.
  11. Welcome to Holland and

    Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful piece of work with us. It is so moving. I will certainly will be "dancing amongst the tulips with my clogs on" S*
  12. luchtimes unstructured times, can they cope

    My foster daughter has attachment difficulties and she too finds any unstructured time very difficult, I have encouraged her to join any lunch time activities. The school is not supportive and I feel that CH is very vunerable and unsafe during those times. I have even helped to run a club at lunch time so that I know that she is safe. I have been told that children who have these diffiulties might be able to get a mentor to help at those difficult times. We have to keep CH at home for a week whilst the school put safe measures in place for her. She is leaving that school in a couple of weeks and we are hoping the next school will be more understanding of her difficulties. This school takes in children that have been expelled and also has many foser children with lots of issues, so really need to sort out stratagies to enable them to cope. Hope you get the lunch times situation sorted out S*
  13. He's so vulnerable

    Hi yes AS kids are very vunerable, but you all so get this type of behaviour with kids that are not AS, other children are quick to find a vunerable child and will find ways of abusing the trust. My foster daughter would also give away anything to enable her to find a friend. My own daughter is kind and will share with everyone sometimes she really loses out. I was a bit fed up at Easter when my daughters friend came round and she told my daughter that she had had 12 easter eggs and had eaten them by Easter Sunday, She then asked to share T's who only received three eggs. I didn't want T not to share but also felt that this girl had had enough. I think you are aware of you son's behaviour and trying to change it. Maybe self esteem work might help him and talking about buying friendships with people who are not worth it. Maybe some of his spends could be put away for a rainy day, savings or holidays etc. all the best S*
  14. Hi everyone Whats tonight, its compo night who wants to join in the fun, I can tell you all do. Here is a picture for you all to put a brill caption to. Come on you first timers join in as well, I joined in for the first time last week and look where it has got me lol. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v696/tab...6resized640.jpg I will just remind you of the rules. PM's only, anyone who posts on the forum will not be included (BOOH) The winners will be announced on Weds Eve. Good luck everyone I am sure you will all do me proud and make my job harder by all the excellent captions Tabz <'>
  15. I got my results...

  16. Bought myself a steam press.

    thanks Viper, will look at the link now
  17. Bought myself a steam press.

    Hi Viper thanks for sharing this with us, please can you tell me which one you purchased,..... I have been looking for one for a while as my sister bought one a couple of years ago it was ?500 and I didn't want to spend that much on one. Did you look around at different models, you probably knew what you were looking for if you have worked in a dry cleaners many thanks S*
  18. Hi Everyone It's nearly time for the caption winners to step forward. The decision was very hard and I enlisted my family to help me, we all had two votes each and then the score was counted up. This way it was fair as it was not just the captions that tickled my fancy but made all the family Laugh Out Loud In fifth place " Mind out of the way I can't see how the download is coming on" Minerva ( Very clever I thought) In fourth place " "Scientists were amazed when they discovered these conjoined twin dogs" Viper In third place "Urgh you've been licking humans" Call me jaded In second place " See, I told you you'd come crawling back wiv yer tail between yer legs!" Baddad and the winner: Hope no one is offended by it "Darling, lets be kinky tonight and do it people style" Something vague. not sure my female whippets would like it lol Thank you to all the contestants, I thought the standard was so high, it made my judging very hard . I have to share a couple of others that were sent in too. "mmmmmmm........marmite...........love it" "Aggggggghhhhhhhhhh-Dogbreathe" and lastly "Trinny and Suzannah as they really are ......... 2 b...tches fighting over a sofa. As you can see what a hard job I had. So look forward to next weeks competition with the new judge Something vague taking up the important job S*
  19. Weird and cool

    Wow that's Brilliant thank you for sharing it with us S*
  20. Favourite home cooked meal

    Hi there My Hubby loves one of my meals that I made up. Its chicken pieces, leek, chopped bacon, cheese sauce, garlic and morsorella cheese on top. I serve it with sliced pototoes in their jacket cooked in the oven in olive oil and garlic. Just wondering whether to do it tonight buts its too hot. I have been reading about cornflakes on the forum and couldn't work out if they are good for AS children or not, if they are I have a fab easy receipe that my kiddies love. Its chicken breasts cut into three stripes lengthways , beaten egg and crushed cornflakes, I crush mine in the food processor. Then dip the chicken into the egg and then the cornflakes and put in the oven for around twenty mins turning half way. so easy and no additives.
  21. Its Hot I know, I'm sure you are all hot and bothered, but......... the compo is in its last few hours so come on and get your thinking caps on. I will post the winner an ice lolly
  22. Whilst reading posts I have noticed that a fair few of you have more than one child with AS and I wanted to know how common is it to have more than one in your own family with AS. The light bulb as been turned on since going ahead with trying to get "S" DX with AS and I think that my third daughter has also got a lot of the AS traits but she is very different from S in many ways. S hates her and I wonder if its because they are similar in some ways. We put M behaviour down to being jealous when our son was born as she seemed to become more difficult then. She is very jealous and doesn't seem to understand that we spend more money on her than anyone and she really creates when I buy anyone else something. She has a full sized blanket that she is addicted to and carries it around with her and sniffs it continuously, if she has to leave it for a while she makes sure she has a real big sniff to keep her going. She has always had acute hearing and complained that things are too loud but needed a hearing test when she was a baby because she failed two. M is totally disorganised and her bedroom is a tip even when I have blitzed it, the next day its awful again. She is very funny about germs and has to have her own spoon and her own bowl for cereal but is not very good about personal hygiene and as a family we all shower daily and have clean clothes every day. I have to check in the washing basket to make sure she has changed her pants daily and shower daily. She will tell me she has had a shower but I don't hear any water when she is in the bathroom. She again doesn't hug and if we ask her for a kiss she putss her cheek there to be kissed. M also taps all the time with her fingers on doors, cupboards in fact everything it drives us insane. sorry to go on but it has only just clicked about M. She can come out with very embarrassing things to others, i.e ask her cousin whether she washed her face because she has spots and laughs at things that we don't find funny. M gets very upset if she things she might get into trouble at school and won't do anything wrong at school but will at home. She goes mad if she is late but she is happy to make anyone else late. I am quite shocked and upset to think that M might have AS as well but it would explain her behaviour, should I mention it at S CAHMS appointment in a couple of weeks? I will mention me another time lol. What does NT mean Please S*
  23. Just seen the line up for what's on this morning and they are going to interview a lad who feels he has missed out because his brother has AS. Its worth a watch.
  24. Thanks for that Baddad, I would rather the disapline came from you as its my first time. Woh betide (soz sp) everyone if I judge again.
  25. Save the birdie

    Sorry Suze you did your best for the little guy, its really hard to rear tiny baby birds.