Emma3

Hi I'm sorry your haveing such a bad time. Ifeel they really don't have an idea of how to deal with your son. Violace to counterat violance teachers our children nothing but if I am bigger than you I will get what I want. They really need to find a way to help your son separate more easliy. I know that we had a key worker that would take B from me every morning, she was some one who B trusted. I would like to add B is still difficult in the morning and he to is 9. It sounds to me they are totally mishandeling the situation and really upsetting him. I am as shocked as you are about the care takers behaviour. Iam not as experienced as others hear so maybe some one else can make a suggestion. All I can say is I feel sorry for your son, he is only a child and deserves better. Hugs to you all

Hi Daisy Just feel inspired, just gives us parnets hope that our youngsters have a chance. Keep us informed of how your doing. How do your parents feel about you being away from home?

I'm not sure if there is a choice with this school but iI am going to ask he can have afew visits and hubby says he may surgest that we are willing to pay all the fees but could B visit for 3 days a week for the first month. I know B wants to leave quickly as he hates the lsa at the present school so I understand well where he is comeing from but also think like DaisyProudfoot said Caution as the work load will be higher something B won't be used to as he is at a special school at present.

A buddy who is willing is awefully helpful especaily if they can get the equipment fo your son I was lucky at school that a friend would help me with note taking (I m dyslexic not autistic but share my own sons lack of ablity of oganising).B has a buddy at cubs

B is so excited and now says he dosen't want to go back to his old school. I am trying to temper the excitement till we get the green light. B's school have sugested that we have a gradual transfer but B is adament that he just wants to leave the old school now as he has no freinds in his class.

i know I am new to this forum but will give hopethis will inspire others My little boy visited the new school they put him down a year and they said he was in the middle. They said that if everthing goes well after the next vsit they will offer him place <'> . I guess the average child with no problems would not have this but I know they are nervouse but at least they are willing to look at him with out me holding a gun to their head. If he gets in he will be in class of 12 incomparison to a class of 30 at the local primary school. I am so proud of B as it is alot for a 9 year old. They don't have a problem re the statement. SO far they seem promising, I only wish we could give my other child this who will be going to the local school, but saying that B would to if he hadn't had asd he deserves a chance at a normal life with out prejudice at not written of.

My son is visiting a new tomorrow, bless he's only 9 ( has a statement)and said don't worry mum I won't flap stim run around or make silly noises. We are so concerned about him as we would like him to go to this very small prep school instead of the large primary. There dosen't seem to be much choice. If he dosen't get accepted what are my options for him. We movd so we could be near the present school but the local primarys are very much the much. Mention asd and they look very frightened. I guess I know that if they gave him a chance they would see B as he really is not the frightened little boy he can initally present as. I have prepared him as to what to expect, but hubby said we should be prepared for rejection and then what do we say to B.

H every one I am going to show hubby these posts. B behaviour at home is aweful I guess the stress of impending change is haveing an impact. We just have to prepare him for the next visist after half term and hopefully it will go alright. We have discussed things and if B dosen't get in we will consider moveing areas again. We really think that if we don't get schooling right he might never recover from the wrong school. Cross your fingers for me

Hi He does have a statement but if he goes to the schoolthe statement would have no real power. I might be wrong but the head at the school said that if he comes there will be no extra help but we are hopeing that the small class size and the quiet atmosphere would compensate. He would also have to go back ayear to yr 1. I repeated ayr myself at school and felt it really allowed me to catch up. Saying that it is a risk because if he isn't copeing by the end of yr 4 he won't be able to go onto yr5 the head said. Hubby and I chatted and said if this happens we will look for a specialist school. We have 1 specialist school for asd children called Heathermount but that is for less able students. There is no perfect school and I guess we are taking a gamble. We will see how he handles another visit as he was turned doown by another school

Hi I'm new here but hope you guys and girls can help. My little boy who is 9 has had his asd diagnosis since 3yrs. Since then we got the statement and went to the local special school. Now we want to move him. We have 2 options the local primary or a another school. The local might take him if he goes back a year and they have only 22 children in the class. The local primary are difficult not very welcoming and will put him in a class of 30 with an lsa. I am torn between the 2 as my other 2 children will be going to the local primary school and B would know some of the children. On the other hand I know that on a simple logistics he loved his visit to the school and loved the small groupings there. However he would have no additional suport. They are inviting B to another visit before they will consider offering him aplace. I am really torn. I guess I am considering this option as the school have had children like my son who are mildly affected. I would love to know what other peoples experience of each type of sschool as at present I know a couple of kids who have moved schools and treated likr leppas because of their statement and had to share the statement with more affected kids with out a statemnt. Over to you lot