lilnicki

I sympathise completely....... i struggle to find the right words when im talking to someone, i often repeat myself, and also leave bits out. I have concluded this is just because my brain is wired differently, not because i'm nervous about talking to them ( although this is obviously a factor). My concentration and memory are apalling, so it's of no great surprise really that I can't talk in a logical/meaningful/structured way. It's just how i am i guess I do spider diagrams when im trying to do a project for work. Write the main subject in the middle of a page with a circle round it, then draw a line coming of with one basic idea, then you can draw other lines coming off these. Is this a brain map someone else mentioned??..... I find it works really well for me. :0) Nicki

My childhood was not good either..... i suspect the possibility that both my parents show signs of aspergers. I had no affection, no conversation, i was left pretty much to myself. At 7 i was packed off to boarding school where i made no friends, was terribly lonely, and terribly sad. Nobody noticed my tears or depression, and i left at 14 feeling much like an odd-ball, I just never fitted in. Now as an adult i have a lovely partner and 2 kids. I still struggle a bit with hugging, though i try hard because i know they need it. I don't have any friends apart from the people i work with. I don't socialise with them outside work. Im getting married in 2 months, it's supposed to be the happiest day of my life, but i;'m dreading it. Talking to 80 people is going to be so hard. My list of problems is far to long to list here, but i do want to ask if anyone else has trouble with faces, because I have read that this could be an aspergers trait. Nicki

For me i find one- on - one the hardest.....i just don't know what to say full stop. I can't start a conversation whatever. If they ask a question, i answer it, then that's usually end of the conversation. I always forget to ask something back. Group conversations i find easier because you can just sit back and listen, or jump in if something I can add to crops up..... I agree though that i can't always time my "piece" properly, and sometimes i talk over people by mistake.

Thank you Tally....... i love the quote at the bottom of your page....... i HATE it when picture frames/mirrors are wonky!!

I am going to be assessed by my local health authority ( Plymouth). Do they normally give you a questionaire to do??..... or just ask questions?...... how are you with eye contact?? Nicki

Hello, I have just signed up. I'm a 38 year old lady who discovered about a year ago what Aspergers is and that likely i have it. I've done some of the online tests and usually score around 40-45 / 50. I had a date through for my assessment at the end of September, but i have a few worries about it. I have looked at the DSM (?) guidlines, and from that it does look like i have Aspergers, the only possible sticking point is i can manage eye contact, though it's not something i am comfortable with. I guess my main fear is that i go in there and they tell me i don't have it...... is this likely at all seeing that" on paper" I DO have it?? There are lots of other things i need advice about, but will post those on the advice pages. Looking forward to hearing from others in the same boat. Lilnicki