KateBall

According to Weber, charisma is defined thus: a certain quality of an individual personality, by virtue of which s/he is "set apart" from ordinary people and treated as endowed with supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities. These as such are not accessible to the ordinary person, but are regarded as divine in origin or as exemplary, and on the basis of them the individual concerned is treated as a leader.[2]

I think children on the spectrum have an added sign/symptom - they have charisma.

Hi there. At Bibic last week I was given an audio frequency cd for my ds. (called audio frequency sweep on the cd). It lasts about 5 mins and apparently goes through all the noises on the frequency and is aimed at getting him used to them over a period of time. Don't know if this might help at all for you. However don't think this would deal with the problem of hearing all noises at the same level.

My ds OT gave him some putty - to help his fine motor skills. If you can get past how it might feel (if he's sensitive) this might be of some use. The putty comes in different strengths - easy to mould up to difficult I suppose?.

Don't you just hate the way some peeps make authoritative statements as if they have authority on the subject. Especially those that have some "authority" in a different field. That's where they should stay.

Those of us driving there (me included) could collect you from airport. Its on my way!

It's just as likely that no one would have been able to cope and perhaps you have coped longer than others would have done. I think if you feel guilt then you are a good mother. They sort of go hand in hand. If he hadn't have gone - you wouldn't have shared that special moment of him cuddling you and stroking your hair. At times like this try and think of the positive aspects and not just the negative. You know in your heart of hearts that it is for him, the best.

Someone I knew had so much trouble with the washing machine man saying they would come then didn't, when they came didn't fix it and so in the end when an engineer finally did come again to fix the machine she parked her car in the way of his van so that he couldn't leave until he had fixed the machine. I think they had to get another engineer to come out with a part or something. There was an article in one of the weekly magazines about her for imprisoning the washing machine man.

When we were at the BIBIC clinic earlier this week for ds assessments one of the things they did was to wrap him in a duvet The called it a sausage roll. Then we smoothed him on top and massaged him etc. It was incredible because this all happened in a play room where he had been running around and getting hyper and then instantly he was calm and relaxed. I am going to try it before bedtime maybe downstairs before he goes to bed just to get him relaxed for bed. Seems to be the same sort of thing most of you are doing with duvets and blankets but I just wanted to say how the reaction was instant and prolonged - he was happy to stay in the duvet for ages.

How about Bristol

My understanding is that they will help a child under 18 - so go for it! I'm so glad I did.

Oh yes - I know exactly what you mean and totally agree. I am so excited now that things might just start to happen. We'll see. Watch this space!

Have been really busy lately culminating in ds's 2 day assessment at BIBIC http://www.bibic.org.uk/ I can honestly say that we got more help, support and practical advice for now and the future than we have ever got in the last 7-9 years. I feel like we belong to a big family and will get support and help without being looked down upon, poo poo'd or made to feel like we are bad parents and our sons difficulties are as a result. They looked at our ds without any mystery in their faces. He is complex - but they had seen it all before and gave us loads of answers and explanations about him and then strategies to deal with his issues. And we go back again in 6 months to see if they've worked. In the meantime they call us to see how we are getting on (not like the NHS where we call them to chase them up!!). Just trying to take it all in at the moment but have never felt so positive and less confused than I have today.

Fantastic Lisa - makes you realise you were vindicated in rearranging his class. Good for you.

Just entering into the party spirit - we live in a very rural community - only 5 houses incl us. So it was with great delight that we have just frightened the life out of 4 of them by letting off the 2 rockets left over from firework night.

If I ask my ds to put his things away - he says "no way - I'm not your slave" I got him a perfectly decent laundry bin for his room. That's been discarded and he puts his dirty clothes in a large brown paper carrier bag he got from the zoo when he bought some souvenirs! To me his room looks a complete muddle and mess. But if I go in there and dare to knock something out of place - he knows it as soon as he comes in the room again and throws a fit. On the whole his mess is confined to his room because I have threatened to chuck things out if I find them elsewhere at the end of the day. Shona other than this - I haven't a clue what the answer is - if you find one let me in on it!

Oh the Mario Olympics are so funny. My dd (nt) has been running like crazy. You don't need to move your feet but she can't run with just the hand action so it looks soooooooooo funny. We have been in hysterics. And then theres the rowing and the hammer throwing. DS has loved the tennis and bowling. I highly recommend the Olympics.

Nothing I say can possibly make any difference but I will watch Dr Who and I will be thinking of you then - and saying a little prayer for you all. xxx

my ds mastered a scooter a lot easier than the bike. I think you may be ok.

Ds was referred to physio and orthotic man this week about his walking gait being odd. He used to walk on tip toes and still does sometimes and also is a bit springy on heels. He also walks leaning forwards. They think his hamstring is very tight particularly on left leg and its just got more noticeable in terms of the way he walks because of his growth spurt. His hips rotate very well (could be a ballet dancer then ) and he is hypermobile in places - especially fingers. He will have to do exercises to try and loosen the hamstring. Do any of your children have similar problems? How common is this generally or with ASD children? Just wondered.

but you don't cuddle a poo

Oh Chris - my dd (nt) had terrible trouble in her second year at uni. She was bullied by her housemates. They banged on her door at 2 in the morning, called her names (foul ones). Cutting a very long story short, Uni were hopeless at resolving issue so I went down one w/e and got her out and into lodgings. Best thing she ever did - stayed there 2 years happy as larry. Still saw her friends but lived her own life with a really nice family. I would highly recommend you have a look at this option.

Thanks Karen. I think try and do the same with my ds.

That is so funny. I bet you have neighbours wondering why they keep finding strange socks and underpants on the doorstep!

Wow - you really worked hard to do it right. I'm very impressed Janey. I havn't heard of that book - I must get it. Now how on earth do I explain to my ds why he's different when they won't give him a dx yet he behaves and his life sounds just like Ben and other autistic children.