donnar

one of my problems is im considaring moving the tele! it has become such a a part of his 'routine' we cant get it back! lol

thanks for the advice unfortuantly it is the people i really care about im having trouble with ! my dad and grandad nan and aunts sister they just wont listen see him as a pest and then shout at me for not disaplining him or for 'letting him get away with it' if only they new! but right now im gettin git from all angles

Damien ( AS ) was walking at 8 months i mean properly i could walk him to the shops and back he missed crawling altoghter and at 6-7 months was walking the furnature, at 4 years he dismantled his frist VCR and reasembled it working! yet now they say hes stupid! hes not silly hes just not taught properley. He was on solid foods and sma white at 5 weeks on health vistors orders because milk was no good for him. His progress from young was very accelerated in general, but his behavouir was always very dificult. His speach and language and comunication skills have never been good and he was a late talker . he is not always clear to understand his mouth dropps and he dribbles alot when talking. and he was potty trained at 14 months completly and then............... nursery school playgroup and the rest of the education system got there hands on him now...he wont leave the house! he has very very low self asteam belives he is usless and no good, is bullyed because he becomes noisy screams and fustrated and they find it fun to watch him get distraught.....then he gets drag off by a teacher and punished so now has no faith in very little adalts. Makes you wonder how to protect them when the law insists you send them to a place they are neglected in a way! luv donna x

oww im so please for you i can imagine how proud you are i still cant get my son out side the front door so i am pleased if he opens the fron tdoor! so well done to your son we are proud of him <'>

Anyone have any idea why people are so damn ignorant? Why rather than listen to a reason, they insist on being right? Why is it so easy for people because my son does not look disabled to belive i am a bad parent or he is a disfunctional, naughty, rude child rather than sick? Why can i not say oh he is Autistic he has Aspergers and people go ohh ok i understand! or oh really whats that? Why do i have to keep fighting people with no listennign skills or interest but with so many opinions about the behaviour of my son? Why is it family are harder to discuse this with and less likley to listen than others, And short of screaming 'im getting peed off with this your all depressing me' from the roof top anyone have any idea how to get through to people? Why is it that you have to move into the health and eduction department to get anything done why cant you just phone once maybe twice? Why when you have it tough does mankind insist on making it worse! people are so nice. ok finished feeling sorry for myself now love yall x

OMG i have found somewhere im not alone i have kept quiet about this so long because i did not know why he did it. he still punches his self now if he gets fustrated and use to often bang his head on the walls and floor when d was little. i never reolised so many other people have this. thankyou yall

Hi Y'all, Im Donna i have been married to my husband Martin for 13 years we have four children Damien 12 Shane 11 Shannon 8 and Mirrissa 6. My oldest two children have both been diagnosed A.D.H.D for about the last 4 years. And whilst we were happy with Shanes diagnosis Damien acted different. I have always understood Damien i have always found him to be a good boy and easy to deal with i am his mum i know what he wants and how he feels i know how to talk to him to get the best from him. Many other people found him ignorant and rude, he would act up when he went to scholl and to familys homes. he is a does not like to leave the house, i can never get him out of bed in the mornings and he wont sleep at night. He was let down badley in primary school they kept passing him off as a problem child putting him in a room on his own(which he likes) or expelling him. and this got him through primary not sussessfully but he got through. Then last year he moved to secondary school and everything fell to bits. he almost cant cope with life now he only does 2 hours of private tuition at school wont leaave the house till everyone else is in school then leaves schoool before everyone else comes out for break. He comes home and stairs at the tv hours after hours it is not easy to bribe him away friom the tv as he becomes hysterical if he breaks his tv scedual and misses a programme. he goes back to +1 and starts his routine all over. We finally last week got a BIBIC report back with a diagnosis of Aspergers. My problem is people still dont want to learn how to deal with my son fmaily just say well this was never around when i was a child it is just an excuse for a naughty child. I get so fustrated because he does not look like a down syndrome child someone with a viasable disability people assume he is ok. they refuse to try and understand him. If they took 5 minutes to talk to him they would understand what a wonderfull little boy he really is. So how do i go about changing peoples attitude to explain to them why he acts like he does and how to talk to him. Even with a diagnosis the school he is in still does not seem to want to understand him and because of ignorance his education is being flushes away. he still cannot read or write and he refuses to socailize with anyone. My little girls are miles ahead of him behaviour and academic wise and they are very healthy. My other son Shane is dyslexic and ADHD and he to is suffering the mainstream schools dont seem to like to take the trouble to understand children with learning difficultys they just throw them off as PROBLEM CHILDREN untill the can pass them on to a new school. I have a specail needs school neawr me but i have to have a statemnet to get him in the trouble is he is 13 nearly now and this prosess takes time is he going to have missed his entire eduction because the state school are ill equipt to deal with him. I have to say i am very scared as to my sons future the more he is let down by ignorence the further into himself he gets. Ok so explanation and rant over ! sorry about that needed to blow off some pent up fustration. But any sujetions would be greatly recieved i am completly lost for answers thanks Y'all Donna