Amanda32

Hi Lisa My son did used to like sausages alot but now it's chips with everything if he had his way..... His favourite thing to be honest is yougurts such as munch bunch drinks etc lots of them, but all gone by tea time..... Oh, him and his sister likes to eat bread/butter sandwiches with red sauce in it..... I do find he drinks alot more than any of us and always takes a drink to bed but hes fine with using the toilet during the night but Always thirsty but seems fine anyway. He's quite skinny and you can see his ribs and trousers seems to drop off him but doctors are happy with his weight perhaps he will build up when he's older...... Take care ALL Amanda

Thanx Shona, I will try that thing with aiming at something and running the tap, sometimes its easier for his father to help him with male things but he always wants me to do most things with him. Thanx for the advice too lil-me and loulou aswell, im not worried just want to encourage him to go to the loo in the way he supposed to. Yes it doesn't matter at the moment but anything is worth trying but he gets embarrassed as he thinks he has to squeeze it to go to the toilet....... Let you know how I get on with everything. Take care guys your all brilliant, always giving good advice and I should give alot more support too really even if its just a hug if I dont know alot of info. Amanda <'>

I just need some advice from anyone that as got a son. My son is 9 now but refuses to stand up to go to toilet as he says it wont come out unless he sits down. Im not sure if I mentioned this before and I know its not a real problem but need some advice for what I can do as hes starting to go alone in the gents toilets and dont want anyone making fun of him. Sorry but ive tried asking my hubby but no luck with him either. Many thanks again <'> Amanda

<'> It was my son's teacher in infant school that mentioned his behaviour was odd and that it needed checking out. I went to the GP and told her what the teacher had said so referred me to a Paediatrician and thats the time I found out. I knew from an early age that some of the things he did like flapping, headbanging etc was just my son. But now I know its because he's autistic and I only got answers last year and this was when he was about 3 years old with him doing odd things and now he's 9. Take care Amanda

Think iv'e done it again been logged in all night..... think it was late so may of been tired....

Hi LKU I know what you mean with the adverts, my son likes to repeat some of them. There's an advert not sure which one but Natasha bedingfields song is playing and he gets all embarrassed as he likes her...... Then that advert: I saw you baby..shaking that ar*e shaking that ar*e......... He told me he wasn't sure if he was allowed to repeat it because of the word... He has started to watch Top gear as his dad watches it, tells me what some of the cars are called..... I haven't got a clue what names of different cars are... He gets over excited.... when he sees a Mini cooper or new beetle his eyes are wide open. I can remember when he was younger he did the same thing but with the flapping, lets hope this doesn't come back... Take care Amanda <'> <'>

You probably all think I haven't got a life....... ask my hubby he says I do this alot. We went out yesterday and realised I left it on for a few hrs...... Take care Amanda

This is the one thing that should be mentioned: Some people think that if they see a child that is Autistic and has lots of problems in which is severe, generally all you get is your son seems fine. ALL autistics children are completely different from each other Some people that dont understand Autism/Asperger's assume that because my son looks fine he's got no problems. What they do is compare in which that shouldn't happen he's still Autistics but not as bad as some of you other parents children. The children may get frustrated, angry dont undertand you as have problems communicating etc but they are not ALL the same. Sorry to go on but this is what I feel that people dont understand Autism dont know the meaning of it they think they are all the same and that your child is just naughty and needs a good smack............... Take care Amanda <'> <'> <'>

I get fed of people saying more or less the same 'Well my son does that its just boys'.. 'If he was up my house he would be a different person'....... 'I will sort him out have no messing up my house' that's just saying im a bad parent??.... 'People staring when your child is having a tantrum outdoors'... they look at you like sort him out, they dont know my son. They dont know what he's thinking, why he doesn't understand them sometimes and even I dont know what goes on in his head. Yes he may be at the able end of the spectrum but he's been diagnosed and still has most of the problems that I have to deal with, such as..... Keep telling him to do things as he doesn't understand what I tell him to do. His frustrations in which this is the main problem he has, gets distructive, amongst other things like sleep etc. Us parents wherever they are on the spectrum still have to deal with tantrums, frustrations and coping with the whole thing. Sorry to go on but this is one of the things that makes me angry what other people say, at least I always say to myself I know where my kids are, not doing something they shouldn't. Take care Amanda.. <'> <'> <'>

Not sure what channels that these are on but here goes. Raven, CBBC channel (Tracey beaker) Mainly got CBBC channel on most of the time. He likes to watch Animals or people doing funny things on camera makes him laugh. If he wants his dvd player on in his room its always Actionman being played over and over again. O by the way he likes believe it or not The Chuckle brothers.... what rubbish. Most of his time though is on the XBox playing Midtown Madness yet we bought plenty of games but that's the only one he plays nothing else. My son and daughter have been having fun at the moment like all yours probably in the pool out the garden as it been so hot. Take care Amanda

I passed my test but have stopped driving as im a very nervous driver anyway. Out on the road im not that confident and it shows and not that keen going out walking alone either I get very anxious ALOT. Never say never not going behind the wheel but its been 2 yrs and hopefully I will get the courage to do it again and get my independence back. Goodluck to anyone that is learning at the moment or recently passed their test Good for you all, it doesn't matter whether anyone as a ASD your just as good as anyone else to get a licence. I just been invited to a birthday party this weekend but not looking forward to it. Id rather say to my hubby take the kids and I will stay at home. It's going to be very hard for me socialising as gatherings etc are not for me as want to get out of there...Sorry to go on just been worrying about it like I always do.... Take care all Amanda

I dont know much about the DVLA and Asperger's but just saying about my experience of driving...... I started to have lessons few years back and the instructor kept saying I needed valeum (wrong spelling).... I was all stiff but he made me feel at ease with his sense of humour all the time. He always kept saying I repeated myself and do I do it at home......YES.... Well passed my theory 2nd time as was 1 question out on the first not going over things. I had lots of lessons and ended up passing on my 4th driving test what a bag of nerves I was..... Well I had been driving the hubby's car once or twice a week in the past but now I have stopped because my nerves gets me since trying and to change cars is difficult for me. I know I have got my licence but perhaps im just used to driving power steering as always drove them. My hubby said to me when we had a different car get in and have a go......Yes already past then he kept saying now do this way watch the other cars.... Got into the drivers seat and he still kept telling me how to drive..like if im having lessons all over again. Not drove since and that was 2 years ago. I think I need my own car but too much cost for 1 household and it wouldn't get used that often. Where ive had problems with my self esteem etc I have left it as think its safer for everyone else until I feel more confident again. Not sure if anyone else as been like this after passing their tests. Take care Amanda

I wouldn't say that this is very rude and a problem but more embarrassing than anything. I bought a pool yesterday for the kids to play in, just enough for them to cool down in. I had problems trying to get one in the shops but eventually got one in the end 6ft/6ft but they are happy and really enjoying themselves. My son had his trunks on and kept putting air in there and he told us all that his bum is in the front... then he kept pulling his trunks out all the time as thought it was funny showing his privates.... and saying look at my boobies.. What can you do I tried my best not to laugh but its difficult when you see them having fun but being rude at the same time. Take care Amanda

You are very right Simon Money...... I know not far from me but more closer to Anneuk there is supposed to be a Autistic unit being set up. It was in my local paper but can only take about 10-12 kids.. 11-18 I think, but there may be more that need the unit than that so may lose out, well the severe cases anyway. What will happen to those children that need more support but cant get it..... if the government didn't waste their money on lots of things that we dont really need or want it would be more funding elsewhere to put into. Take care Amanda <'> <'>

Try these threads...... Social interaction http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...st=0entry3073 Rejection http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...st=0entry4838 Amanda... <'>

Hi bolter_too.... Welcome to the forum I hope you have found some interesting threads or if you haven't yet just ask away to any of our members. Are you male or female? have you been diagnosed with a disorder etc?... Well I understand to well as I feel left out quite alot and always feel odd, pardon the word. What people tell me is hold your head up high and take no notice it's their loss. YOU ARE NOT UNLIKEABLE dont ever think that, some people are just full of themselves and only talk to you to be nosey (well that's my experience). I have actually stopped talking to some people unless they talk first as always feel they are talking behind my back well that's life but it makes me angry and upset too. For me I have 2 children, son 9yrs ASD daughter 12 and they keep me busy...You got children?....I try to get out now as I have been in the house alot so go cycling and this helps me with my new job too. Got any hobbies?.......I watch alot of films but to be honest id prefer to be on my own when the kids are not around peace and quiet. What about DIY, drawing, puzzles or anything else. Not sure what to say but if you give us more information I may be able to help more. Sorry if this hasn't helped not that good at giving much advice but please ask away if you need more information about any topics. Take care Amanda

Hi LISAA Not sure if this will help Lisa but found some threads if you haven't already. Sleep or not......any idea's http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...st=0entry1264 Has anyone won this one? How http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...st=0entry1358 Take care, hope this helps. Amanda

Not sure if any of you adults ever feel like this... when someone tells you that you talk too much and they cant get a word in. Well someone said to my hubby do he ever get a word in?....he said no but he switches off, felt a bit upset even though she was smiling and probably didn't mean any harm I was feeling low afterwards. Yes I do talk too much and repeat myself alot but thats me, get the feeling that when someone says iv'e got to go they are in a hurry its because they want to get away from me. Sorry but just wanted to say that and cant even be bothered to chat to the neighbours unless they talk first, think everyone is too faced. Im trying to switch off and listen more but I find im more anxious and nervous when im not talking if you understand what im saying. Thanks for listening Amanda <'>

My son had his sports day today but missed part of it as he had to go to see the paed and they had stalls afterwards. My son lost on a game and the girl threw a mud pie into his face unexpected.. think they used whipped cream. I thought he was going to slap her... All he said was that tastes nice but you could see he was putting on a brave face, luv him. He kept complaining that he was all dirty so had to clean him up as he dont like mess and being dirty. It made his day when he was allowed to throw wet sponges at a boy..... Take care Amanda <'> <'>

Took my son to see the paed but came out without any melatonin. She said to see her again in 4mths time and see how he his then. I have to try different ways to help him go to sleep, the paed told me that if i say hes got to go to sleep by 9pm let him stay awake longer but be quiet in his room and not move his toys/furniture around late at night. So looks like ive just got to let him stay awake playing with his megablocks until hes tired whatever time it may be. At the moment hes ok to get up in the morning but that might be the weather. See how it goes as she said its not that hes up until 2am so keep off the melatonin for now. Take care Amanda

If my son as a wobbly tooth he tends to try and pull it out as he knows he gets �1 for everyone that comes out. This time he had a tooth that was coming out he swallowed it 2 days ago and I told him not to worry he will be fine but im not getting it out the other end no chance.... Take care Amanda

I have a sense of humour I tend to buy the most rude/funniest card I can see for people. I do only send it to ones I know can take it though, makes them laugh.... I sometimes dont get jokes and pretend to laugh so I dont look stupid and out of place when people tell them. My son is always laughing cannot be serious at all even when being told off. He makes fun of people that are small (dwarf) dont like that word... makes it clear that hes making fun of them and laughed at a woman with red hair (ginger) he made sure she heard him laugh to.... how embarassing. Cant take them anywhere Take care Amanda

I noticed that nobody as mentioned that their child likes to: Dress up Wear masks Always looking in mirrors My son is 9, as any of your children still done this at that age, especially in public it doesn't bother him. Many thanks Amanda

Hi all.... My son comes home from school and goes upstairs to play on the xbox and dont come down until tea, when hes finished hes back on there again. I play on there with him but because im not good at it he takes the controls off me and tells me im doing it wrong, well I thought we was both playing..... I went out today and bought some art materials to make things to go with the collection I already have for the kids to do at home. He bought a mask that is supposed to be a craft thing you add things to it with pva etc. Well he wanted to wear it around the town with lots of people around, should of seen some of their faces. They wasn't cruel just smiled, I told my hubby and he said he's too old to wear masks (he's 9). He kept looking in every mirror he could find to see what he looked like. Am I doing wrong with him as think perhaps he shouldn't be dressing up, wearing masks or should I just say keep all that behind closed doors?...Im confused as I see him happy doing all of it but he does need to mature a bit but perhaps im not helping him by buying things like it. He told me while we was out that a boy called him Gay Lord..... He doesn't know what it means but knows its wrong. Sorry to go on but just think my parenting is all wrong and doing everything the wrong way if you know what I mean. Take care Amanda <'> <'>

Hi my son doesn't swear but does say silly words. We went shopping the other week and he said to one of the ladies that worked in the supermarket pointing to the spotted dick in the freezer and saying it but pointing to his private parts... He tends to be rude more than swear and telling me to shut up or be quiet if its too noisy with the music on. As he's had bowel surgery he tends to have wind problems if you know what i mean. He constantly does it in school and out and says, mam smell that do i stink, or mam i just fluffed..... Loulou i would try a reward thing with him and give him stinkers perhaps if he doesn't do it see how it goes, sorry im not much help but there is always someone on here that as children that swear, my daughter says little things that she gets told off for saying it. Take care Amanda <'>