Viper

Hi Carole, Would these leters be sent to all schools or are they for parents to request for one as they need it? I think it sounds like a very good idea but not sure how it would work. Viper.

Hi Tez, Just a point of law. When I was younger, I used to do Karate, and before we took our exam for our first belt we had to have a lisence, part of this was a contract saying we would only use our skills in ours or others defence. In other words we were not allowed to start a fight but if someone attacked us were were allowed to use reasonable force to defend ourselves and also if we found someone in trouble we were allowed to assist, the example given was, If we came across a policeman in a fight we could help him, in fact I think we were expected to help if my memory serves me correctly. This is a lawful document and I am sure if the police had been consulted they would give their full backing given the situation. I am not saying you should involve the police but your son is a law abiding citizen and should be proud of himself for the way he acted not punished. I would like to think anyone would act in the same way. Viper.

HI LOULOU, I know exactly how you feel, when I read the report on my dd her teacher had said, "She is a rude and ignorant child, and refused to acknoledge she was being spoken to let alone answer her. When I spoke to the teacher to tell her about dd's Dx she said, "well that would explain a lot." After a subsequent ofsted inspection the teacher was "let go" up to that point my dd had to put up with her teaching her. I think your son has had a lucky escape and is well out of there. Viper

Hi Elaine My DS is 4yrs and 4 months, he will wee standing up but won't sit on a toilet to poo and the only loo he will wee in is our own, never wee'd in any other loo. on a recent shopping trip he needed to go a wee so I took him, then hubby took him, then I took him again and he physically could not "let go" we had to buy a bag of nappies, and when I went to put it on him he was in pain where he was so busting to go, so I stood him in front of the loo again and he still could not go and was in tears with the pain, as soon as I put that nappy on the flood gates opened. He refuses to go to play school, the sen was sent in to help but it was no good. My ds now attends the school he should be going to, on an introduction thing, where all the kids due to start in September, go for one hour twice a week with a parent, a very good idea but no good if he can't go next September. I will have a look at the organisations you sugest. Thanks Elaine

Hi, I have posted about this before but was told by you good folks that I can get a statement for my son. I spoke to my sons pre school sen co-ordinator and she tells me my son will not get a statement just because he can't use the toilet (phobia). I was told by the head of the school that he can't go to her school in a nappy. He is supposed to start in September and right now he wont have a school to go to, there is no other school that I can get him to. My hubby says we will have to make stuff up at this rate and I am starting to agree. The problem stems from Ben being gifted, no one can see beyond that, it's a case of "if he is bright he will cope" how wrong can they be, I can't envisage Ben coping at all and he will be put off school forever if he ever gets there. What advice have I had? The general view is that if we see an incontinance (SP) nurse the problem can be solved, what a lot of cr*p (excuse the pun) Ben has perfect control of both bladder and bowl he just can't do it sitting on the loo. I feel that I am being classed as some sort of incompetent c*w who can't toilet train a child, well just for the record I have managed it three times so far and even trained the flamming dog. I also think the powers that be think I want to hang on to my "last baby" so I am not trying. Sorry to rant but it is getting me down now and I am really beginning to lose it over this issue, I feel so lost on this one. Viper, feeling relieved that I can rant somewhere.

Hi Marie and welcome. My son is is high functioning pre diagnosed AS and although he can read a bit he finds learning boring. I have found a wonderful website that Ben loves it is www.starfall.com. sorry I can't do the link thing but give it a look and see if it helps, I sometimes sit with Ben and we do the reading together but he can play on his own too. Hope that helps a bit. Another idea is to label things around the home, ie door, window etc, this will help him to learn word paterns and words in general. Viper

Hi Ian, My daughter has just had glasses made with purple lenses, she has problems reading from yellow paper and gets migrane from bright lights in school. She has not been diagnosed with dyslexia but has a DX for AS. She says when she reads from yellow paper the word she is trying to focus on jumps arround, she is not good at reading in general but her writen work is good. Do you think she could be dyslexic? Viper.