12indians

Hi Just wondered if and how you managed to resolve this. My daughter has been bullied by different children at different times over the last 3 years. She now is at a stage of not being able to cope any more. She has one more year to go at the primary school before moving to secondary school and won't be going to the same school as the bullies. At various times over these 3 years, we have had informal meetings with the headteacher. I know my daughter is no angel and will retaliate when provoked but the school have made no complaints to me about my daughter bullying others. Last week, my daughter was told by the headteacher that all the other children are doing is teasing and that she is not to report any incidents unless they are serious and that she did not want us (parents) going in to the school to discuss this. Her father and I have made a written formal complaint but we have been told by the governors that we have to go to stage 2 of the complaints procedure as there hands are tied if we dont, but the Chairwoman understood our predicament. We are having a meeting with the headteacher on Thursday to make a formal complaint about the headteacher and her failure in her duty of care for our daughter. We are also complaining that the school has failed to accept our daughters diagnosis. I cannot see this being resolved at this stage as she is hardly likely to admit what she said. Has anyone any suggestion on how to handle the meeting, so that we remain in charge? I don't like confrontations at the best of times, but I am want us to be in control of the meeting, not the school. 12indians

I have used melatonin for a couple of years now for my ADHD child as she only slept for about 2 hours in 24. For us it has worked wonders, she usually takes 4mg, occassionally 6mg. She sleeps now for about 10 hours a night and isnt at all groggy the next day. Now I have her younger diagnosed with Aspbergers I am hoping she too will be prescribed melatonin to help with her sleep pattern.

Hi everyone I have just found this site and hope it will be useful. I am a mum of 4 (3 girls and 1 boy). My 2nd child was diagnosed with ADHD/OCD/CD at the age of 3 yrs and 10 months and I have to say now at the age of 11 years she is doing well. She is in mainstream school, struggles somewhat and am unable to get the ed assessment that she badly needs. She is medicated so is pretty much controlled - only I find that when she throws a tantrum it is now bigger than previously but less frequently. My third daughter (9) today been given a preliminary diagnosis of Aspergers. She has frequent temper tantrums and is violent towards her siblings - so much so that she is staying with her dad for a few weeks. I know the school is going to find this diagnosis a shock as they have outright said that "they don't believe she has that" I havent yet been given any treatment options but desperately want my daughter home with me- I can't cope with her at the moment as I have just come out of hospital. How do I explain to my daughter what Aspergers is, and how do I explain to the other children (boy is 7). Do you have any good web sites that you can recommend? Is there any advice on carers allowance that is easy to understand - I work full time at the moment so dont get it but am considering droppig my hours of work to be here for the children more - although this is my form of escapism from the living nightmare!!!! Any adivice gratefully received. Nat