Elefan

DAS, I hope that you find the peace of mind you need, along with ready support from the services you and Oreo are approaching. Thank you for your kind words. We take our moderating/hosting very seriously and are proud of the environment we have all played a part in creating,...where members can come and go, pop in, pop out,...disappear for a while and then come back again. Safe in the knowledge, that as long as this forum remains open, we will continue with our duty of care to our members. Good luck and I hope your experiences on our forum will have helped you (even if that is not so apparent just now), but appreciate that there has been a lot for you to digest and perhaps come to terms with. Kind regards, Elefan

I've just spotted Deblegs!! Elefan xx

I think most of you know that I am the last person to want anyone to leave our forum. I am being protective of those closest to me. I have watched Lufty and Kris be unable to do right, for doing wrong, it seems. This frustrates me when their hearts are very much in the right place and they do this for no reward, other than to help us all. I also hope you will respect that things can get on top of me too,..and that I am having a 'moment'. I watch Lufty dealing with a difficult phase from my little one, and don't want managing the forum to be the final straw. It beggars belief why he stays around. Call me jaded,...I found the title of this thread a tad confrontational, but I value your input here. We rarely 'censor', but actively moderate for all our sakes. I have chosen to speak out,...but it is a heart felt message/reminder to us all,..including me. Kris and Lufty are my hero's,...but I don't want to take them for granted and they can (and should) only take so much. Without them, there is no krism. Kindest regards, Elefan

When we set up this forum, it was to make the world seem a little smaller. Instead of feeling isolated and as if no one else could understand what our life was/is like, it gave me a haven where people could share their experiences, advice, support, and go to for a shoulder to lean on. It was a selfish idea that helped me,..but the knock on affect is that it became a haven for so many other people from the UK and much further afield. I am blessed that I have a best friend who has spent years and time making this forum work,...and a partner who has embraced our life and the forum too. Juggling their own jobs, families, and finding time for volunteer work, whilst being there for me and my little girls,...they spend time and money on making this a reliable and helpful forum. It is generally a thankless task (though many of you publically give your appreciation in some threads, which makes a genuine difference to our morale),...but also, at times disheartening. We pride ourselves on the management of this forum, whilst addressing the many enquiries or concerns that are personally communicated to us. I would rather see Lufty and Kris have a good nights sleep,...or have a little more time to themselves, than spending so much time on phone calls, on the computer, and 'planning' the changes that are necessary. We can't please all of the people all of the time,....but I watch them try!!!! Please don't forget that my little one has all the challenges of ASD,...whilst her long suffering sibling tries to cope. We deal with all of their needs, whilst trying to provide the forum you all want and need. Right now,...I am finding the balance difficult to achieve,..and the temptation to say to both Lufty and Kris to call it a day, if their judgement and execution of this forum is going to be repeatedly challenged, is huge! I apologise for this minor rant,..but I am human too!!!! Thank you to Nellie, Bid and Baddad for their efforts, too. Regards, Elefan (rather miffed!!!)

OT = Off topic!!! Thank you Nels,...that had been winding me up for ages!! I wondered what the OT meant! Initially I thought there were loads of posts regarding Occupational Therapists!!!! Doh!! xx

LOLOL,.....if only you guys had a picture of moi!!! You may want to re-record your masterpiece from today!! Thank you ever so much. My little one was tickled pink when she heard it,..and Lufty was listening, too!! He obviously disagree's with your perception of Elefan!! Thanks so much you two!! Love Elefan! xx

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I can't believe i have beaten Lufty, Kris, Nellie, Baddad, and Bid to say,...Cheers Carole!!! xx

What are you doing!!? Lufty is a God,..Lufty you're my hero,...you wonderful person,.....etc, etc Have you any idea how I might fit his head through the door later on?!! Lufty,...all that Viper et al have said is clearly true,..buy NO WAY would I risk saying it aloud, and never in public!!! Love Elefan xxxx

Absolutely! Thank you flutter. Good luck in 2006. Elefan

Hi Simon, That is such a lovely gesture and I know you mean it sincerely. Kris and I very happily covered the costs of the old forum,..but expansion and the need for stability forced our move into this web space. Lufty was quick off the mark to secure everything for us,..including meeting the costs, but getting him to divulge the figure so that I can contribute has been like getting support out of an LEA school! We will seek external sponsorship, before we turn to the forum members though. We wont be asking for donations towards the upkeep of the batcave just yet! Thanks a million though. Kindest regards, Elefan

Just when I thought I had made my very public thank you's,...that duo of Kris and Lufty strike again! Now they have spent nearly every waking moment over the last week building this new site,....dealing with the transfer,..and basically speaking a techie language that is lost on me! <'> We (that's me and my girls) are so, so, so, lucky to have them both in our lives! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your efforts!!!! Love Elefan xx xx

You guys rock!! Elefan (DW)

Hi Jill,...welcome! Zemanski is right! The forum is a friendly and supportive place,...with only the occasional locking of horns! Be assured that this is an actively moderated forum though! Kindest regards, Elefan

I can!! That's a great one! Elefan

Does my bum look big in this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??? And is Nellie's 'likeness',...well, a likeness????!!!!! Yeeeeeeeeesssssssssss,...on both questions!!!! Elefan,...but does it really look big in this??! xx

Very funny! <Finger poised over the delete button!! > And, as for you Nellie!!! Photograph indeed!!! Baddad,..and littlenemo,...... It's never too late to get banned!! Seriously,...brilliant,..I cant wait for tomorrow,...and the next day,...and the next,... Elefan (aka Delete Woman) xx

Owing to the amount of aggro we have collectively caused for LEA's and professionals by having the forum and all of you 'empowering' each other, we really can't say!!! Berkshire is as narrowed down as we can say! Elefan

Absolutely brilliant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait until the next few days! Thank you Bad and Zemanski!!! Elefan xx

Oh,..and some of you are way too cheeky!!! Tank girl!!!!!!

Nellie, Maybe one day we should share our story of our childrens school experiences, without names and places? With the time gap, etc. It is rare to have such an example I think. Sorry everyone for speaking in riddles. Elefan xx

<'> Oh Lauren. I totally understand, both what you said, why you said it, and how life is at home. My little girl is the same. We get the worst of her,..and I suppose the best of her too, but it is so frustrating when school just doesn't 'see'. How about a diary of home life, and showing that it is a reaction to things that have happened throughout the day, that cause him to 'off load' in his comfort zone? Don't be angry at yourself,..you are human. Just have a hug ready for him at the school gates this afternoon if he will take it. Elefan xx

Oh thank you,...I could only find used ones, and that would upset her because of the OCD angle,... Thank you! Elefan xx

Hi, I think my little one would love this,...but I can't find anywhere in the Uk online that can deliver before Christmas now. Help! Elefan

Tylers-Mum,..that's not fair!!! Supping my coffee as I type,...... Elefan