Moving

[stressedmumto2]

has anyone here moved from town to rural?

 

If so can they say if things got better worse etc.

 

Really considering of moving rural and was hopin for experiences...good or bad

[noogsy]

we moved from a very busy area to a house in the middle of a nature reserve.

it is a housing development that was built here as part of the nature reserve.

and im trying to think if of the negatives.

my little didn't leave the house for weeks as he kind of went a bit wonky after the move

but on the whole it has been a good move.

we watch rabbits and the fox from our kitchen window

we have kestrels and hawks above our home so we can sit out and watch them swooping down trying to catch mice.

Louis has a bow and arrow and he is taken with the idea but erm he is no hunter......lol

i walk out my back gate on to the reserve every morning and evening with the dog.

my house has fields behind it it is ridiculously quiet.

we do have to drive everywhere

for my baby boy moving to a place with(HOW CAN I SAY THIS WITHOUT SOUNDING SNOOTY)nicer children has been a good thing

we have nicer neighbours and they all know Louis is asperger's.

i tell people so they will make allowances.

anyone who isn't suppose to be in our street stands out like a sore thumb.

we love it here is is so quiet and no one heckles Louis any more.

hope i have helped..love noogsy

[Pippin]

Having to drive everywhere is a pain, and there's less choice in schooling, but other than that....It's brill.

[JsMum]

I would ensure that there is places of interest in short time traveling distance so a good sports centre, community centre, schools and obvously stores that sells grocerys, if you drive and have a car it would help loads as bus services out of town places seem to be limited, so if you do need the bus service it has to be a reliable service.

 

Look into parks and nice quiet walks locally and what age group children are actually living there already, local council websites are generally good to look at would could be available and what kinds of support groups.

 

It is quiet but there is still the similiar problems with teenage drinking and crime is rising.

 

JsMum

[elun1]

I was brought up in the Midlands but now live in a quiet rural village in Wales. I love it. I have never got over the novelty of hearing cows moo out of the bedroom window and I LOVE being near the beach. I love the space and we live very near the Preseli mountains so if I've had enough can drive there in 3 minutes and let the kids out and they can run and run and there's no-one to bother us. The downside is having to drive to get anywhere at all and restricted choices in schooling. My dh misses the 'real ale' pubs!!

xxx

[stressedmumto2]

The nearest beach is about 50mins away, here we have beach 10 mins away in car so that will take some getting used to. There is a park and filed right opposite and a primary school, the secondary school the children get taken to by minibus but son will still have to stay at school down here which will mean about 50 mins travelling each way a day. There's not a lot nearby but there is a river he can fish at 10 mins in car. Today I fell in love with the place, as we were driving there about 10mins away it must of been a deer park with loads of baby deer on it. I wanted to take one home, lol it was such a lovely sight.

 

It seems there's two children with specail needs, one adhd and the other a girl whoonly attends school two days a week, the county does hav areputation for dealing much better with special needs.

 

Lots to think about I think but I can't cope with him now wandering off with anyone into town which is 2-3 miles away. I think a move is the only thing which could help, i'm not sure

[JsMum]

Always listen to what your heart says!

 

JsMum

[noogsy]

why not visit the school pet.and think about the local high school....we moved because our last house was on a busy main road in the centre of a very busy village.and we had a canal at the bottom of our garden.my babe loved the canal. andi t had become impossible to keep him in our garden he could climb the walls and fences.it was hopeless and we were forced to move to a quieter area.but he stayed in the same school.louis has stayed mainstream at his primary but i have no idea how he will cope at high school.as it is a huge leap for him...it is a huge leap for all our kids.love noogsyxxx

[cmuir]

Hi

 

Don't know about town to rural, but I recently moved house to get away from the narrow-minded morons (neighbours and their kids) that surrounded us. We moved from a mid-terraced house with postage stamp back garden, where the kdis used to run riot day and night and bully my son whenever they felt like it. No comment about their parents! Our immediate neighbours - don't have a good word to say about them other than they're incredibly ignorant and should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves. It took a year and a half given house prices in Edinburgh to find somewhere suitable ... and boy it's been well worth the wait. I'm not saying that moving makes miracles happen, but moving to a detached bungalow with large enclosed and safe back garden has made masses of difference for the better. Every situation is different, but where my son is concerned and his particular difficulties moving has certainly made a big difference to me (think I'd have been sectioned had we stayed where we were any longer), but R is much more settled. Main thing is that there's a seven foot high wall separating neighbours (incidentally they seem pleasant, if but a touch nosey), but at least I know R can run riot all day in the garden burning off lots of excess energy and I know he's safe - I'm no longer parked on the front doorstep ready to mediate situations! Main thing is that we have privacy and R can scream his head off and slam doors til his heart's content (IYKWIM!) and no one will complain or gossip!

 

I think it's important that kids aren't isolated from the outside world (because we live in a world where we have to socialise or interact with others to some degree), but where there are clear difficulties a bit of space can do no harm in my view.

 

All the best.

 

Caroline.

[stressedmumto2]

Thanks for all your advise. See where we are now, no one complains really, kids are all very streetwise tho!! I made the big mistake a couple of years ago with allowing my son to be friends with one of the kids, didn't realise how streetwise he was till my son started to ask to play in our road with him too...........then the wandering began!! now it's reached a climax with him going off with anoyone and going further afield. See here we have huge garden 130" but he doesn't wannna be in garden, he wants to be a street wise kid but doesn't get the dangers and is far too trusting of much older children. I can't kep him locked in like I used to try because he gets escorted to and from school and if I get home before him he's already gone, escort wont keep him in car.

 

I see this as perhaps the only way I am able to help him.

 

Monday morning I am going to call social services for that area find out what support is there, and try and visit schools later in the week.

 

Thanks again everyone for advice and just telling me your situations

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[wilson]

Hello,

 

H is fascinated by animals, so the countryside wins hands down with him. However, his younger brother seems to prefer the town. We are fortunate enough to live in a small town, between two large cities, with weekly access to my Dad's farm. So I suppose we've got the best of both worlds.