DS's new school....

[curlywurly]

Cam went up the the juniors in sept. Since then we've had nothing but probs.

 

Cam has aspergers, and really has no interest in school work what-so-ever, despite being very bright.

 

All through infant school (when we knew there was a problem, and were fighing to get a diagnosis and some actual help) I was very active in the school....after exhausting so many different ways to try and get Cam interested, I found that he absolutly loved having me in school, as it made him feel special. So I went in, and helped out - I knew his teachers and his classmates, and Cam was performing pehaps not to the best of his ability, but things seemed to be taking an upturn....

 

Now, it seems we're back to battling again - me against the teacher.....

 

I've tried to set up meetings with her, and have been fobbed off. I've tried to talk to her about the bullying and things, and explained that Cameron is special - but she just expects him to fall in line with the class.

 

I know at Cam's age he should be taking alot more responsibilty for himself - I encourage that wholeheartedly at home - but it's like he's just been thrown in with the sharks.....and his self-esteem is suffering as he see's such things as a personal attack.

 

We got a sarcy comment in his reading book a couple of weeks ago, saying 'you're supposed to read 5 times a week' - the 5 being underlined 3-4 times. I thought about replying and saying 'yes, we have been reading 5 times a week, but I didn't see the need to fill in the name of the book 5 times. Similarly in the last 2 weeks, we've had more comments along the same lines. They're aimed at Cameron, but directed at us - I know she's trying to insinuate that he doesn't get support at home, but in fact the complete opposite is true....I don't know how I can let her know that without getting worked up.

 

The infant school teachers knew how hard I worked with cameron - doing flashcards and things to try and keep him up to speed - constantly getting books that were of interest to him so he would want to read them - he must have about 100 dinosaur books by now.....

 

Sorry for the long post - this has got me really upset.

[Pippin]

Has your son got my son's year 3 teacher??? God, it sounds just like her!!! I used to write sarcky comments back to her. For example, every time she wrote he hadnt finished his homework, I wrote that it wasn't compulsory!! I refused to go to Parents evening in case I swung for her. Poor hubby had to go alone.We had to just put up with it until he moved up a class (sorry, if that wasnt what you wanted to hear) but it is a different story now. His new teacher is SO much more in tune with him. His problems haven't gone (of course!!) but they are handled differently. Keep fighting...but, if the worst comes to the worst, it's only for a year.

[col]

Sounds like the staff at my eldest special school. I get a lot of snarky comments and the give away before i start to read it, is that there is no siggie and it ends with "thank you!".

 

My daughter doesn't like RE or the religious assesmblies, so a few weks ago the family support worker came round , told her what i had planned, she told the school and a few nights after i got 2 phonecalls one from the teacher and then later from the head teacher.

 

I got asked by the head if she didn't like numeracy or literacy would i take her out of that too?

 

She likes the assemblies as she sit's with the younger children and looks after them. What is she doing sitting with the younger children and humm yeah her looking after is her bossing them around. I thought they were trying to curb her off that with her peers and yet they encourage it??

 

So i put it in writing that i want her out of RE and the assemblies.

 

She came home tuesday night, rather angry, i phoned the escort to tell her i was keeping her home on wednesday and to check what my daughter told me. The escort got the impression that she was talking when it was "grace" at dinner time. So she and another child was told to go by the counter and say grace. Daughter said that she refused and made up silly sign language.

 

If she was being silly then they should of choice another form of punishment.

Also in her book bag was a samwich, after the harvest assembly which she was excused from it was harvest food fair, money will go to oxfam. I got a note in her book bag wanting 50p for the samwich.

NOT HAPPY!! Apparently she even made the samwich earlier.

 

So after half term will have to write a snotty letter.

 

She has also been given the same homework every friday night, the first 2 weeks of school she had a printout of an newsround article that she to use the same questions that she gets every week.

 

The second week even my husband couldn't answer the questions.

 

So instead of changing the homework, they kept the question sheet and she has to refer it to herself and what she did over the week end. It is DULL, she hate it, it's counter productive.

 

So when the teacher phoned i asked if they could change it as our weekends are routine. She refused and said that maybe my daughter could write about what she watched on telly or what she ate.

 

I have had them asking about her glasses perscription, and if she got a spare pair, with no explanation why they need to know and as usual it was signed with !thank you" and no siggie.

I just wrote back if they had any concerns to write them down and i pass it on to the hospital. Mentioned that the spares are to stay at home. They never replied back!!

 

Then there was the issue of her shoes back in may. If i forget her book bag for one day i get hung over the coals for it.

 

One of the LSA particularly seems to be behind the majority of this. She is the one that last week tried to make daughter sing grace and daughter said no, she's responsible for the shoe's comment. Last year daughter was doing dancing after class, she reduced daughter to tears saying that as daughter didn't have the �1 for the lesson. Half way through the course and i had pre-paid it.

 

And don't get me started on the oh we don't believe in labels when i asked last year if she was ASD.

 

 

 

Reading book, nope i don't bother signing it. Middle child school, the teachers ok about me not signing as long as she comes in with the HW done.