haircut knightmare

[koala]

hi all does anyone else have the dreaded haircut problem, the hairdresser now comes to our house because taking to the hairdressers used to be a waste of an appt, kieran is fine when she walks in the door but as soon as the scissors and brush come out we scream and rage and kick and cry until the ordeal is over why does he do this? any tips would be great its exhausting not a good day today cheers a fed up koala.

[nellie]

Hi Koala,

 

Have a look at this previous topic.

 

Haircut Help

http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...t=0entry17038

 

Nellie xx

[Jadensmum]

Hi,

 

My son jaden can't stand his hair being washed, cut or combed. Last time I took him for a cut I felt obliged to leave a decent tip to the poor guy who had Jaden screaming at him and hitting the scissors out of his hands but I recently took him to a different hairdressers who gave him a short back and sides (minimal use of scissors) and he loved the sound and feel of the shaver - he giggled throughout!!!

 

Denise

[koala]

hi nellie many thanks for the link to haircut info has given me some great tips to try we will see how it goes next time many thanks this website has been a godsend cheers koala

[Joe's gran]

Just the reverse here. Joe adores the hairdresser's. It really relaxes him and when he is having it combed and cut you can see him getting sleepy even.

 

We are just in the process of contacting a cranio-sacrial therapist that we have read so much about on this forum. I think Joe may be a good candidate for success. Your posting on haircuts helped us to see how he may benefit from this kind of therapy.

 

Thanks very much Koala and of course this wonderful forum.

Love Joe's gran. <'>

[annie]

Sorry I can't give any advice, but my son hated having his haircut until the age of 12. He used to go mad when he had it done.

 

And who was his hairdresser..............his DAD! That's his job.

 

Annie

[elaine1]

Hi it took ages to find a compassionate hairdresser but we finally found one, and he is very gentle and explains every step to my son.

hope u find an answer to yr problem

[Valiant_Skylark]

My eldest was truly awful with haircuts, combing etc. He says it is

like "spiders crawling over my head". Can't be very nice. One OT

suggested brushing teeth/ doing hair whilst squeezing eggsercizers

(sort of egg shaped hand exerciser device available from Rompa). The

idea is that the stimulation from the hands kind of over-rides the

stimulation from the brushing/cutting. I guess you could try using a

ball of something similar?

 

Saw another OT recently and she suggested linking hands on top of

head and pressing down firmly, flattening hair to the front and then

to the back, several times, just before having hair cut. Apparently this

should help too.

 

Suggest those with these sort of "sensory" problems look up "Sensory

Integration Dysfunction/Therapy" for some ideas on how to cope?

 

MIne is still "not keen" and I still have to pick my time to go to the barber, but we went through the phase of losing the hairdresser due to my son's "scenes" and I did the "haircut whilst asleep" bit too. It does get better eventually... just.

 

Valiant_Skykark xx

[Auriel]

do what i do, and not get it cut at all!

[asereht]

Hi Auriel, My son has not had a haircut for over 2 years.

 

He is 14 and has shoulder length hair. How long is yours?

[Rabbit]

We had this problem.....whch I am glad to say we have conquered after an intensive Sensory Integration Dysfunction Therapy programme, put together by an OT who specialises in SID.

 

Basically we were told to go out and by a massager....like the ones you seen in Argos.....waterproof ones that can be used in the bath.....We then let J play with it for two weeks whilst he was in the bath. After the initial "lets play" period we began to use the massager all over his body paying attention to his head. 4 weeks later J would get his massager and ask for "rub dubs". He enjoyed the sensation of the bristles over his body.......very relaxing.

 

J actually asked to go to the barbers and have his hair cut.....a first ever. I was apprehensive because we have always had meltdowns before......

 

Of we trotted and apart from some inexcusanble comments from the Barber, the haircut went OK.

 

A good book to get hold of his "The Out of Synch Child" by Carole Kranowitzc...explains SID well and offers loads of desensitising therapys to try.

 

[Auriel]

Hi Auriel, My son has not had a haircut for over 2 years.

 

He is 14 and has shoulder length hair. How long is yours?

my hair is shoulder length but i get it cut every month or so, and since it is curley it proberly goes down further!

[doubletrouble]

cool, what a fantastic thread Thanxs everyone, this could well be the answer to a three year nightmare!! My youngest refuses to have her hair cut. She now looks like a walking unkempt scarewcrow and would give Worzel Gummidge a run for his money with no doubt. When you wash it, you have an instant meltdown and have to catch her from throwing her self back and "head banging" in the bath. If you try and comb it, you unleash the next meltdown. The only thing she enjoys is the hairdryer.

 

The hairderesser comes to our house, to do the boys but the minute she walks in, that is it.... instant meltdown and the poor hairdresser I think even dreads the noise but luckily does not take it personally.

 

I just long for her to have her hair cut, cos underneath that mop is a really pretty face.... even though I am biased!!

 

Thanxs for starting this thread and what a lot of great info and advice.

[faye]

my son hates his hair being washed,and even worse hates his hair being cut ,you would honestly think i was murdering him with the shouting and screaming he does am at my wits end

[Tensing]

Henry hates anything being done to his hair. Unfortunatly its made worse by his double crown which means his hair seems to need brushing more often. Haircuts are the worst though. Four of us to fdo it normally.

 

Hubby cuting, me holding his head still, while comforting him, Eldest son and daughter one holding his hands down, and the oither distracting him with books etc.

[gvce]

We have just managed this with relaxtion beforehand - need a lot of patience but It has paid off

 

[nikki2307]

Had MANY haircutting incidents: most of these occurred in salons to the soundtrack of Tom screaing "I'm dying!". Very loudly. And repetitively. So we tried hair clippers at home. Awful. Tried to let him have a go. Still awful. Let him shear Dave like a sheep; this amused Tom for a couple of minutes.

 

Things are getting a bit better- he now likes to wet his head in the bath which enables me to shampoo his hair and he can then lay back and rinse. This used to be truly awful. He also lets Dave trim his hair very gently, so we're making progress. That said, this is a costly option as we have to entice him (i hate the word blackmail) with Thomas the Tank Engine paraphernalia.

[lil_me]

We've found one hair dressers about 7 miles away willing to cope with my sons problems and get his hair cut regardless, he has been quite good until last time, when he kicked off on her completely She's cut it with the scissors this time, I just keep going the worst thing I found was to leave it too long, we even go when it doesn't really need doing that badly, just to keep things up. We're waiting for an OT referal so I think I will ask them about trying to make it less traumatic.

Edited October 10, 2005 by lil_me

[faye]

got a letter of ot today marsha they said they were unable to offer anything for ryan

[UltraMum]

I've cut J's hair with barbers clippers since he was 2 - nightmares at the hairdressers - I would often only be able to cut either the back or the front so he had some weird haircuts at times!

 

We used to keep a damp flannel over his eyes as he hated hair around them - you get to the stage with the clippers where you can sort of flick the hair off backwards and avoid getting it on the face and neck - makes a mess of the kitchen though

 

We don't wash his hair - fullstop - doesn't seem to cause a problem - might change with teenage hormones though ...

 

Anyway - he wanted a proper hairstyle this year so we took him to the hairdressers - same one as before - I've had my hair done there for over 12 years (routine you know!) - and he was fine ... they were really good with him- doing all the back before doing the front, which was the most difficult area.

 

So ... do what you need to do, don't sweat the small stuff and things will change before you know it.

 

 

PS. Buy a good pair of clippers �15+ - the cheap ones are more difficult to use.

[Flora]

My youngest was hysterical. I used to take him to a big department store barbers that had a special kids chair, and all the stylists from the adjoining salon used to come in and try and give him jammy dodgers to calm him down. It used to take 3 of us to hold him still and the whole store was traumatised by the screaming. I wouldn't have bothered but he has really thick hair and I really couldn't have left it just to grow or he looked crazy. Then suddenly just out of the blue one day he sat quietely and endured the haircut. This was around the age of 6. Don't know why he decided to put up with it after a years of traumatic barber episodes!

 

Lauren