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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Social groups around Bracknell

    ASD Family Help and Berkshire Society are worth looking at. They both have social groups. http://www.autismberkshire.org.uk/default.aspx http://www.asdfamilyhelp.org/index.htm
  2. Care Providers

    Hi Lynn, Forgot to say, this step by step guide should be used by anyone carrying out an assessment of need. http://www.autism.org.uk/socialcare Nellie
  3. Care Providers

    Hi Lynn, I haven’t posted on the forum for years but saw your post when I visited this morning. I hope the following information is helpful. When writing the request for assessment it's important you include the part relating the section 47 of the NHS and community care act. Good luck. Nellie Local authorities' duty to carry out a community care assessment Local authorities have a duty to assess a person who may be in need of community care services. They may need services because of serious illness, physical disability, learning disability, mental health problems or frailty because of old age. The local authority is obliged to carry out a community care assessment when they become aware that someone may be in need of community care services. This may mean that an assessment is offered even if you or the person you look after have not specifically requested one. Alternatively, you or the person you look after can contact your local social services department and ask them to arrange a community care assessment. Template letter for requesting a community care assessment You don’t have to use this letter exactly as it is. You can use it as a guide for your own letter if you like. You should send it to the director of social services at your local authority, they will probably not reply to you directly but will pass it on to the right person. [Your address] [Your telephone number] Date Dear Sir/Madam, Community care assessment I am writing to request an assessment of my needs under Section 47 of the NHS and Community Care Act 1990. I have [say what your diagnosis is here, if you do not have a diagnosis say what some of your difficulties are such as anxiety, depression etc]. This causes me difficulties in the following areas of my day to day life . I need the following services [state which services you need to have provided]. I look forward to hearing from you. Yours faithfully, [Your name]
  4. Hello Helen, just to wish you a Happy New Year.

    I hope everything is going well for you and Graham.



  5. very difficult to write

    Lorry <'> <'> My thoughts are with you. I have answered by PM. For once I totally agree with baddad Nellie xx
  6. More Bad News

    Hope it goes well Bid. <'> Nellie x
  7. Me again

    Hi Viper, Good to 'see' you again and great to hear your good news. Nellie x
  8. Good news for us

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful news. Well done both of you. Nellie x
  9. autistic adults and privacy

    Loraine <'> <'> "dont worry no one was hurt"...........that just sums it up!! You have fought so hard to get your son the support he needs and is entitled to, it's the system that has let him down, not you. Try to hang on in there for a little longer, with your help, knowledge and experience it might just get better. Take care Nellie xx
  10. autistic adults and privacy

    Hi Loraine, So sorry to hear you are having these problems. <'> I agree with Jaded, you do lose control when your offspring becomes an adult. As you know my son has been in an ASD residential placement for over 10 years, they are very good but we still get the odd blip when things go pear shaped and he crashes. The big bonus is they work with us, we just have to flag up a problem and they have a meeting to sort it out, we feel part of the 'team' and feel our voices are heard. I would love to have my lad living nearer to us as he's 4 ½ hours drive away but I worry we would lose the partnership we have. He has a good life, better than we could give him at home or any local assisted living place could give. I have to say most of the problems are due to my son reaction to something they have done or not done and they don't realise his behaviour is not the problem but a way of communicating the problem. I have supported a few parents in the past who are not allowed any input and in some cases have no contact because their offspring refuses it. They are not even told why their offspring doesn't want contact with them or if they understand what it means. I hope this changes sooner rather than later, parents need to have some rights. I'm gobsmacked that the day centre doesn't understand that your lad will react in some way to his new placement, he could display this in many ways including physical signs. I can only suggest you try to work in partnership with them, not always easy but you need to be able to have a voice. It's often the case you have to find evidence to back up what you're saying, or find an ASD expert to give evidence. It's not just for your son's benefit but the benefit of everyone who looks after him. Try hard not to alienate them, let them know you would like to work in partnership with them. I don't know what his rights are to privacy but it sounds as if they have overreacted and brought in everyone, but you have to wonder for whose benefit this is! You could create a folder documenting all your sons needs including his likes and dislikes, medical needs, what works for him and what sort of things would give a negative reaction, try to paint a picture of your son, you know him best. They should be grabbing your input with both hands. I hope you manage to work something out and your GP is helpful. Nellie xx
  11. Happy Birthday Gordie!

    Happy Birthday Gordie! (phew - nearly missed it) Good to see you on the forum. Nellie xx
  12. DLA and AA cuts!

    I emailed the NAS asking if they propose to take any action. I received this reply today. We have received a number of enquiries regarding this issue and we have produced the following position statement: http://www.autism.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly....647&a=20232 Nellie x
  13. holiday

    If you think your child won't cope with flying, I would seriously consider a holiday in the UK. This link gives information on holidays including Airport Awareness - Travel advice for parents and carers of children on the autistic spectrum. http://www.asdfamilyhelp.org/info%20leisure%20holidays.html Hope this helps. Nellie x
  14. Family support at last

    Hi Delyth, That's wonderful news! Well done, what a great victory, you should be very proud. Nellie xx
  15. Newbie

    SD, <'> You have been here for almost 4 years. You are you, a respected and valued member of this forum, you don't need a diagnosis to be here! Welcome scoops Nellie xx