farfalla Report post Posted November 15, 2007 I am so angry! And being made out that I am mental! Ds came home yesterday and told me about an incident at school...... *while running to my next class, (insert bully's name) he pushed me over, and his friends told him to pin me down...... I struggled and struggled until I was nearly free, he grabbed my bag, and threw it onto the grass. When I told the teacher, she said nothing* (this was all because DS was trying to get to his next class first) So what do I do, as the teachers are more IT literate, and not always available to take phone calls I email her, including the senco, and head of year.......and the co principal. I get a phonecall back within half hour, from tutor who *tells me, DS is misinterupting the situations, and he is thinking that general banter is bullying! WTF! Is this NOT bullying? Am I really that THICK that I don't know that DS does at times think its bullying, when it is banter.......... isn't a physical attack.......bullying?? DS got a C3 yesterday for an outbrust in a lesson....... this was after the attack, and he had tried to clam down, but said he couldn't, and is still without his time out cards! can I take this higher? can i demand a meeting to include the co principal? I am at my wits end with this school, and the way they are NOT helping DS........ He has been SO withdrawn since starting secondary school, I thought he might get into after a while but he hasnt. At primary, they knew if something was wrong, due to him becoming quiet and withdrawn........ but in this one, there is NO clue, as he isn't the joker, he isn't being told to stop mucking around, he isn't HIM! Losing my mind To add: C3 - is some new system put in place, apparently, you get 3 C3's, which are letters home to parents, explaining their behaviour........ then the fourth time is a detention.... (which the school knows DS loves.......well its quiet isn't it) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted November 15, 2007 Hi Farfalla.Yes you have every right to complain and ask for a meeting.You need to put your complaint in writing and take a copy.It is easier to prove that you have made a complaint if it is documented in writing. ACE produce a very good booklet on bullying.The booklet provides a template letter and explains the procedure to follow.The leaflet is available on the ACE website to download for �2 or you can phone the helpline and ask them to post a copy. It is important to keep a written record of what happened and document any further incidents. If your DS started at secondary school in September it would be a very good idea to be clear with the school that you are unhappy now. Ensure that you include information in the letter re your DSs AS.If your child is considered to be vulnerable because of difficulties with social communication then the school has a responsibility to ensure that they are safe.If the school in effect place your child at a disadvantage because no account is taken with regard to their disablity and they do not remedy the situation then you may have a case for tribunal.It is a more seious situation than it would be if your child did not have a disability. In effect the school are attempting to use your child's lack of social understanding to excuse what has happened rather than recognising that they have an extra responsibility to ensure he is not vulnerable. ACE also provide telephone advice regarding SEN and bullying so if you need more information you could give them a call.They were excellent when I used them last year.Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rach04 Report post Posted November 15, 2007 thats not banter omg morons. my J interprets what we would call verbal bulling as them having fun with him (poor lad) but never physical bulling how can anyone interpret that as banter push it further <'> to your ds Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loobylou2 Report post Posted November 15, 2007 Hi every sympathy have the same thing with my dd she says shes being bullied and school says she isn't. I went in to school one lunchtime and demanded a meeting with the head of year refused to go until i had seen someone. things certaintly moved then and the offenders were dealt with. i know its really hard but stay strong and demand some action <'> hope it all sorts out for you both soon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted November 15, 2007 Awwww Far, sorry Hun I seemed to have missed this thread earlier. You must certainly take this further, its unacceptable behaviour and your son is being bullied. Thinking of you and your poor boy <'> <'> <'> Clare x x x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
farfalla Report post Posted November 16, 2007 (edited) Thank you all for the advice, I am finally (thanks to Clare for the info) phoning PWP today for advise on other matters..... and will ring ACE too, I wish sometimes on here you had a smiley for a BAD swear word! I'd be using it OH i should add........ NO REPLY FROM SCHOOL even to say they have my email!!!!!!!!!! Edited November 16, 2007 by farfalla Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted November 16, 2007 <'> Farfella <'> There's some information Here about putting in a complaint regarding bullying. Out of interest, I would be curious to know if your DS is misreading situations like this, how exactly should he have read them . Hope you get some answers soon! Annie xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
farfalla Report post Posted November 16, 2007 Wow thank you Annie I am so divvy I didn't think to google bullying! I am on the page now......... so might be gone a while <'> Farfella <'> There's some information Here about putting in a complaint regarding bullying. Out of interest, I would be curious to know if your DS is misreading situations like this, how exactly should he have read them . Hope you get some answers soon! Annie xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
