anniebean Report post Posted June 27, 2008 hi guys! Im annie! I live in the west midlands! I have a great hubby and 2 gorgeous boys aged 9 and 12! My eldest, L, was diagnosed with ASD when he was 7! Through the years he managed well! He just had a few difficulties with socialising, expressive language and gettting to sleep at night( he takes melatonin). However this last year things have been getting progressively more difficult for him and us! He has started developing OCD type behaviour, e.g Afraid of germs so checks that plates and crockery r clean and food is in date and checks that doors r shut! He is becoming very aggressive with us (no aggressive behaviour at school tho), actually so quiet that he is too shy to talk! He screams alot and argues all the time with us and he is beginning to punch and hit his brother His problems with getting to sleep have increased. My hubby and i r just so worn out with it all and just dont know how to cope with him! Dont get me wrong, he is a very sensitive child actually, He worries that we r all going to crash in the car when we go out. He is upset when another kid upsets his younger brother so i know he cares! Im just soooo confused! I just dont think i understand L anymore! and it upsets me! He lies all the time! Tonight he went nuts cos my hubby had to bring him in to the house cos he kept fighting with my younger son s cos he wanted to have the football all the time! He screamed in his room, started hitting his head on the wall and tearing up paper. He also told me that he pinches his leg at school when he is worried! I have had enough! I think it all my fault! I feel so guilty. I completely lost it tonight and cried my eyes out! When L saw me so upset he came to me and said sorry! I just hugged him and told him i loved him! But in half an hour things were out of hand again and now hubby has taken him out cos i cant handle it. We have sent a load of forms to our local childrens mental health centre and r waiting 4 a reply for an appointment! Im just soooo tired! Its great to find you guys and just wanted to say that by reading your posts you have made me see that im not alone in this! Thanku luv annie xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted June 27, 2008 Hiya Annie Welcome to the forum. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
anniebean Report post Posted June 27, 2008 thanx smiley Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zosmum Report post Posted June 27, 2008 Hi Anniebean Welcome and your not alone Don't blame yourself for any of this, it's not your fault and you've done nothing wrong. It's just another part of who L is Keep your chin up Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Enid Report post Posted June 27, 2008 Hi, If you read some of my posts you will see we are going through similar things, my son, who had never been a problem at home, he is also 12, started being a nightmare during christmas and newyear, life was a nightmare for a couple of months, very similar to your posts, without this forum I would have gone mad!!! he is still a nightmare, but I am coping with it better, only just at times! we have had a good week this week last week was awful life is a struggle as I am alone and he is very strong so I have had to use lots of different ways of coping, mostly keeping out of the way! Keep posting, keep reading, it really helps, welcome <'> Enid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sooze2 Report post Posted June 27, 2008 (edited) <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Youve come to the right place, its so friendly and just knowing there are others going through the same thing and you won't be judged is sometimes enough. Welcome. Edited June 27, 2008 by Sooze2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted June 27, 2008 Welcome to the forum, Anniebean! K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jo jones Report post Posted June 27, 2008 welcome annie,,,the people on here will give u realistic advice and are soooooooo friendly,,, Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted June 28, 2008 Hi Anniebean Welcome to the Forum. Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted June 28, 2008 Hi anniebean - welcome to the forum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
purplehaze Report post Posted June 28, 2008 Hello Annie welcome to the site, I also have similar problems to you. My son is 14 DX with ASD and his behaviour was a struggle when he was younger and then it calmed but at around 12 it began to get worse again and now he is a handful and i'm trying to get support as well. Maybe we could keep each other sane. Hope to chat to you soon. P.S I also chat to parents on the parentcentre forum in the Autism, ADHD etc section and they are very helpful as well. Goodluck XXX Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted July 3, 2008 Hi and welcome to the forum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted July 8, 2008 Hiya Annie, Nice to meet you. Clare Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
anniebean Report post Posted July 12, 2008 Hi guys! Just wanted to say thanku so much for your kind welcomes! U r all so great! *hugs* 2 u all xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
