Mumble Report post Posted November 14, 2008 My consultant constantly refers to my Aspergers as a disease or illness. He's not doing this out of malice; purely out of ignorance. However, everytime he uses these terms (and we're talking often here) it really grates with me and I want to correct him but have said nothing as I really don't know what to say plus he's moved past it before I could come up with something. Would it be rude for me to correct him, and if not, how should I do it (I don't have email contact (he's at least 300 years old and doesn't seem very comfortable around computers - he prods his occasionally with one finger... ) so can't do it in writing which would be my preferred method - if I say anything, it has to be face to face)? My biggest concern is that I don't want to get on the wrong side of him (which is I guess another reason I've let it go so far). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted November 14, 2008 I don't think it would be rude to say pleasantly 'You know, my AS isn't a disease or illness'. If he chats more about it, you could expand to explain it's just a basic wiring difference, and you're happy with who you are or something like that. Bid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Stardust Report post Posted November 14, 2008 I think you have to point him in the right direction Mumble. Next time he says something, quickly interrupt and say "actually, my ASD is a neurological disorder, not a disease or illness" and SMILE. That might take the wind out of his sails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kazzen161 Report post Posted November 14, 2008 It would not be rude at all. We had a person in at school to do a talk and he made a throw-away comment about children with Aspergers (trying to be funny). It didn't particularly upset me, but I didn't think it was something that someone in his job should be saying. I managed to tell him so when he was on his own at lunch time. He was very apologetic, and I am sure he will be a lot more careful what he says in future. You could write a short note explaining how you feel and give it to him at the beginning of your next session. It sounds as though he is a bit out of touch with current thoughts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisac Report post Posted November 14, 2008 lol mumble, Ive had exactly the same. Proffesionals can just be so wrong ! maybe next time he says says this, just say casually, well it is a condition rather than an illness or disease. He probably wont even take any notice, some people are so thick ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sooze2 Report post Posted November 14, 2008 I wouldn't like it either, not at all! You could pretend to be ignorant yourself and say something along the lines of "so, can I die from Aspergers Disease then!!??" This my make make him realise that one little out of place word can have a huge effect! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warrenpenalver Report post Posted November 14, 2008 Just remember to smile as said above!! You dont want your 300 year old GP having a heart attack!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites