bonbons Report post Posted January 27, 2011 proposed statement through and full of weasel words, no mention of 1-1 support advised in my reports by relevant experts, and they are advising ASD provision in local mainstream high school rather than the non maintained specialist school we asked for which is out of area. Ok, so we go through statement in detail, and ask for changes to the way it is written to make it more secure and lawful, and I understand that cost is a consideration to the LEA but tbh, after consideration and knowing that my DD really wanted to back into mainstream, we decided to take a look at the designated provision today. Nice school and very helpful staff but they were very honest in what they feel they can and cannot offer, explaining that , even if they applied for extra funding, they could not guarantee 1-1 support all of the time and that all of the children on the unit attend mainstream for much of the time, indicating that if my daughter couldn't cope, she would be without company. They also raised concerns about her previous episodes of running away and problems during unstructured time....came away with so many doubts. Then just to make matters worse, despite dd expressing a desire for a new start this morning, and seeming quite positive for a change, whilst hubbie and I were on this visit, she went down the road to her old high school,Knowing she shouldn't as she is excluded!), and hurled abuse at the headmaster by all accounts and then later, whilst at the PRU, where she currently receives a limited amount of education, refused to do any work and ran away, out of the building!!! It's been a terrible day with her, and I thought we were finally on the right track but now worry that she may have ruined any opportunity to return to mainstream as she hoped for, or even whether or not it is the correct environment for her at all. We are visiting the special school recommended to us next week to see how that works and hopefully be a bit clearer about what is best for her, and are even considering the possibility of residential, something I hate the thought of, but I'm starting think that more intensive support is necessary if she is ever going to be adequately equipped for the future....So worried and feeling that nobody can help her. She is so rigid in her thoughts, hard to motivate,negative, unpredictable, and can become very angry and aggressive when things don't go her way or she is persuaded, however gently, to do something she doesn't want to do. Had a chat with her tonight to find out why she did what she did,to let her know that how unacceptable this behaviour is the possible consequences of her actions with regards to the new place she wants so much, and gave her a clear warning in advance,of sanctions put in place if she behaved like this again......might as well been talking Hebrew, but did eventually get an apology and a promise not to do this again!? Won't hold my breath! Don't expect any answers to these problems....just wanted to vent!! Finding it hard when I spend my (many) waking hours supporting her, trying to make her feel better, listening, caring, worrying, e-mailing, writing, making phone calls and appointments, and researching, only for her to say.....'You never listen', ' you don't care''nobody does anything'...etc ah well! pick up the pieces again tomorrow, find some energy from somewhere, and do it all again!!!......many of you know how it is!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted January 28, 2011 Just wanted to send a hug for your rotten day Bid <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
charlotte Report post Posted January 28, 2011 where are you visiting i used to work in a special needs school that does day and residential and also does assessments for the children first is has in house OT SLT and physio etc and knowledge on statmenting and appeal etc. even if the school is not right for her the assessment can be very useful Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flappyfish Report post Posted January 28, 2011 I too am fluent in Hebrew. It is very frustrating and I just wanted to send a bit of empathy. In a dark place, I always look out for a bit of light (whatever form that takes for you) and head there, otherwise, I get sucked into his dark place and we are both low. Not good. Hope things improve for you all soon. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mishmash Report post Posted January 28, 2011 Big hugs - know where you're coming from! <'> On a different note I learnt something - I speak Engolish and Arabic - today, from your post I have learnt that I also, speak hebrew! Well it made me chuckle! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bonbons Report post Posted January 30, 2011 well!....it looks like we all speak the same language!! feeling a bit more together and re-focused now. Thanks for all your kind words and much needed support! Charlotte...the school we are visiting on Tuesday is West kirby residential school which is about an hour away from where we live. It sounds perfect in what it can provide and seems to meet all of my daughters needs so, pending visit, think we will pushing all the way for this provision!http://www.wkrs.co.uk/info/vision.htm Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
