KarenT Report post Posted January 23, 2006 I've just drafted a letter to school outlining my various concerns with the way they are managing J, but I'm a scaredy-cat and don't want to send it off without someone in know scanning an expert eye over it and giving me an unbiased and objective opinion. Don't want to rattle too many cages, but want them to know that I mean business about getting him the approprate help to meet his needs. Any takers? I'll email it on a personal message if someone would be kind enough. Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 23, 2006 I'll give it a look. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted January 23, 2006 I'll give it a look. You're a little love. Exactly who I had in mind too! Will send it now (provided I can work out messaging...) K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 23, 2006 Click on my name in thread and it will take you to a new page, scroll down and look for pm link on right, click there and then copy your letter and paste it in to message window. Hit send! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
clintess Report post Posted January 23, 2006 hiya il take a look if you like,ive just been through simialar thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted January 23, 2006 I've sent to both of you, thanks very much. Bear in mind I'm not really complaining as such, more documenting recent incidents for the SENCO to be aware of. More for information purposes than stomping my feet. Look forward to your comments. Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jessie Report post Posted January 23, 2006 hi karen funny to think we both spent the weekend doing the same task. i spent a long time yesterday typing up a letter stating our concerns. I decided not to send it and give the school an oppertunity to take on board some matters that I had mentioned on the phone to them on Friday. I also asked the hospital specialists to phone and offer their advice. I had planned to deliver the letter this morning but held off as I felt that they had taken on board some of my concerns. Like you, I was very aware of being seen to be too complaining but did want my sons needs met. I think basically so long as you have an intended outcome or solution in mind be it a meeting with specialists to move forward, or to create a strategy plan etc.......then it can't be seen to be complaining. I don't feel that all of my answers were answered today but I do feel that they were listening. I still have the letter saved though should I change my mind. I found that just writing the letter helped as I knew more whay I wanted to say. good luck jessie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted January 24, 2006 Thanks Jessie, and good luck in getting support for your son. We have a few problems around J, mainly that we don't as yet have a dx so school less likely to support us until we do. Communication is a huge issue, both with school and the hospital. Can't get hold of a consultant for love nor money, despite several attempts by phone and email. We have the CAHMS nurse coming out to us regularly but frankly I don't think she's 'on board' about J's problems (she thinks he's just being naughty) and takes school's word as gospel. TBH, school don't know much about asds but think they do, so the opinions they're passing on to the CAHMS nurse aren't particularly valid IMO. I'd love to have a chat with school on the phone but they dont do phone discussions - SENCO rang yesterday to confirm our meeting next week but wasn't prepared to talk. I told her then that I'd be putting all my concerns in writing and she said it would probably be helpful, so that's the route I'm going in future. Marching on! Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted January 24, 2006 Thanks very much Phasmid and Clintess for your prompt replies! Excellent suggestions - I'll redraft and see how it looks then. Feeling much more confident now too! Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 24, 2006 Your welcome. I would also advise avoiding chats on the phone basicaly as these cannot be refered to after the event in the way a letter can (unless recorded - of which they must be aware). Letters become a paper trail of evidence for you to refer back to at anytime, to which I would advise you scan into your pc any letters recieved into a specific folder and keep a copy on disc as back-up. Letters can be refered to in a way telephone calls simply can't, and if you have it in writting on headed paper it makes it sooo much harder for them to say they didn't say they would do 'x,y or z'! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mother in Need Report post Posted January 26, 2006 Phasmid and Clintess, or anyone else, I have exactly the same problem and have just drafted a letter to school also. I was looking around for some advice regarding what to put in, and came across this thread Would any of you be so wonderful and look through mine and give me some pointers? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 26, 2006 Yup, Might not respond back to it for a while but pm it over. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mother in Need Report post Posted January 26, 2006 Yup, Might not respond back to it for a while but pm it over. You're an angel as usual! When you say 'for a while' are we talking hours or days? iT'S ON ITS WAY. tHANKS pHASMID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
clintess Report post Posted January 26, 2006 hiya i will also if you would like me to. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 26, 2006 (edited) You have a PM comming...they have a headache comming! :shame: Edited January 26, 2006 by phasmid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 26, 2006 Think you might need this link M-I-N: exclusions Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
helenl53 Report post Posted January 26, 2006 Phasmid is absolutely right about things being in writing. My GP gave me a tip about telephone conversations or discussions - drop a line to the opther party giving the details of what was discusssed/agreed upon etc. If the other party do not agree that it is a true acountof what has been said, then athey should notify you at the time. The same goes for us as parents when we get reports and letters - if there is something in them that you are not happy with, challenge it there and then. It will not be any good to say at a later stage that you didn't agree with the content of a letter or a report if you did not bring it up at the time. I can tell you from very bitter experience that reports that I did not challenge were accepted as factual in a Tribunal. If you deal with things in a business like way, then no one should take offence. Best wishes HelenL Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jen Report post Posted February 2, 2006 Its also very useful to put a time limit in the letters e.g. please respond with in 14 days. The LEA are always doing this so why shouldn't we. Jen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
