TheNeil Report post Posted May 28, 2006 (edited) Mrs TheNeil has started a new job this week and, during her various chats with her new boss, the subject of me and my AS came up. Now we're no way experts but we know more than your average NT so Mrs TheNeil was more than a little surprised when her new boss (who has no connection/contact with ASDs) starts rambling on about the subject and said (and I swear I'm not making this up) with the proper changes to our diet, my AS could be cured (not a simle' improvement' BTW but a full blown 'cure') - huh? I bet the NAS (amongst others) would be delighted to know that answer to all of our ASD worries has been solved by a small decorating firm I suppose I should have been consumed with rage but I was actually too busy being creased up with laughter Edited May 28, 2006 by TheNeil Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Report post Posted May 28, 2006 As a probable Aspergers myself I'd have been tempted to tell him to stick his cure where the sun doesn't shine. I am not ill, I am not in need of a cure, I'm me, odd, intelligent (sometimes ), with my own personality and I will not have definite NTs say that because I have a different outlook on them I need to be cured. Phew! Off soap box now Getting help to deal with sensory issues, or communication difficulties is fine, no problem with that. But changing a person's whole personality, whole way of thinking, no, don't like that idea at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kirstie Report post Posted May 28, 2006 Well said Bullet. My Son is who he is and i wouldn't change that for anything!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNeil Report post Posted May 28, 2006 I know that the concept of a 'cure' and whether you'd use it or not has been discussed in a different thread (I wouldn't BTW - the 'insanity' is part and parcel of the 'TheNeil' experience) but this woman's ascertion that everything could be 'cured' by just changing what I eat was just laughable (and yes, Mrs TheNeil's new boss is a woman) I wasn't looking to have a go at NTs, question whether you'd use a 'cure' or not but, with the problems I've had recently this just had me laughing like a drain (do drains laugh?) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted May 28, 2006 Leaving all that 'cure' thing aside What I really love is the way they look so offended when you say, 'well actually...' and then politely explain the food intolerance theory or the pathological 'differences' between the AS/NT brain more fully. They sort of take it personally, which is quite ironic considering what they've just put forward for discussion! L&P BD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
elaine1 Report post Posted May 28, 2006 oh lord, thats all she needs a 'clued up' boss lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brook Report post Posted May 28, 2006 Hey, I think this woman is in the wrong job!..... NOT I have had many a thing said to me about my son, as soon as his dx is mentioned I then have to endure all the tiny snippets of info that these people have picked up on, they then look at me as if to say 'see, I know about these things'! well, never mind about me then, cause obviously I haven't bothered to find anything out myself Sometimes it's best to do what you did Neil and just have a good laugh, otherwise you can end up very angry listening to their blah blah blah's . Brook Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
allure Report post Posted May 28, 2006 Isn't it wonderful that the rest of the world knows how to cure our children's AS and is willing to tell us?? People really do mean well with the snippets so sometimes we just have to grin and bear it. Hubby has a friend who is a "know it all" and is constantly trying to tell us what wade can and can't help behavious wise. He's left a few times miffed because we basically told him he didn't know what he was talking about and unless he'd researched it and actually lived with a child like we do, to keep his ideas to himself!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LizK Report post Posted May 28, 2006 Oh dear Boss must be a Daily Mail reader Lx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jill Report post Posted May 30, 2006 Oh dear Boss must be a Daily Mail reader Lx P'raps that's a way for Mrs TheNeil to endear herself to her new boss - take her the Daily Mail each day Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gladysmay Report post Posted June 3, 2006 Leaving all that 'cure' thing aside What I really love is the way they look so offended when you say, 'well actually...' and then politely explain the food intolerance theory or the pathological 'differences' between the AS/NT brain more fully. They sort of take it personally, which is quite ironic considering what they've just put forward for discussion! L&P BD i am still having trouble summarising for others (those that will be interacting with my son) what the differences are in laymans language just so that they can grasp that they are 'blaming' somewhere along the line because they do not understand that the difference is the basis of the reaction they get to their NT communication methods. i am not saying who is right or wrong just that there has to be some shift in some situations ie college rather than my son being treated as if he is either ill, uncooperative, and wrong and having to make all the changes himself? does anyone have more on helpful 'explaining' techniques? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
barefoot wend Report post Posted June 3, 2006 I was under the impression that The Daily Mail 'cured' everyone ages ago. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites