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Hi may sons school tried to exclude him from an activities week trip, this is the letter I sent to the head Dear Mrs Further to my telephone conversation on Friday 25th January 2008 with Mrs H concerning my son and the removal of his place on the Capital Experience trip during activities week, I would like to express my extreme disappointment as to the way he has been treated. I received the letter confirming his place on the Capital Experience and have received no further communication about this from anyone at the school whatsoever. Yesterday evening he returned home from school and told me that he now may not have a place, I then spoke to Mrs M about this and she said that she would call me back on Monday morning. During today?s telephone call a variety of excuses were put to me including being told that his place had been cancelled as he had said he didn?t want to go, that the teachers going were concerned about his behaviour, that Mrs H herself didn?t actually know him, that I had forgotten to pay the deposit, that the place had been allocated to someone else and to include him now would mean having an odd number on the trip and then that the place had not been allocated to someone else. All of these negative statements have been made without any consultation with either me or his father. His comment that he did not want to go on this trip was made because he was concerned that other pupils would be made aware that he has take medication and when he was reassured by myself that this could be kept discreet he was happy to take part. I accept my son?s behaviour can be difficult and impulsive at times due to his diagnosis of ADHD but with the right strategies in place any adverse behaviour can be minimised. My son has a recognised, diagnosed and medicated disability, that with careful planning and communication can mean that he is no more disadvantaged than his peers, and it is therefore discriminatory to punish him for behaviour that he may or may not display. Exclusion from this trip on the basis that he may have difficulties with the issue of free time should be a last resort after consultation with myself or his father. I am concerned that excluding him from this trip will only escalate his problems, and will encourage a circle of negativity as it appears that the school is not adopting a ?whole school approach? or operating an equal opportunities policy affording the same rights to all children. I appreciate that Mrs H after consultation with Mrs D is looking at the possibility of now including him and I give my assurance that he will be made fully aware of his responsibilities towards both himself and others if he is allowed to resume his place. The school also has our permission to send him home by secure train if a serious situation arises as I would assume would be the case in any other child?s breach of good conduct. I look forward to your reply. He was on this trip last week and he had a fantastic time, when the coach got back to school late on friday night Mrs M came up to me and said 'we were wrong P has been a model pupil what a star he never set a foot wrong'!!!! I asked her to let the head know!! When they try to exclude keep at them personally I hate doing it but if I don't fight for him nobody else will.

Hi Now I know this sounds mad but honest it does work.............. if you get a piece of banana skin and put it over the verruca held on with a plaster and a sock over night only and do it every night for about a fortnight hey presto verruca gone! its to do with the enzymes in the peel.

Justamum I'm with you about presents, never have and never will.

I just had my 15 year olds English teacher on the phone, she felt she had to ring and tell me how well he had done in his aural english GCSE last fridady, he got an A*!!!!!!!!!! She said if he'd had to write down the reasoned arguements and descriptions it would have run to a 10 page essay!!! I am so proud of him, and remember in his primary school when they said he'd be lucky to get a grade 1 in his year 6 sats and how we worried for his future, with meds not working and out of control behaviour, how things have changed. He had told me about this exam and his mark and he said for the first time in his life he likes going to school. His teacher said she thought it was important to ring and let me have positive feed back as she knows how much negative we've had to cope with. Shame theres not a few more like her around.

I have a 15 year old son ADHD & a 9year old son ADHD & a 13 year old waiting assessment for adhd and un diagnosed sod of a 17 year old who is dys lexic.

Hi My son is just 9 and this year he has been on a night walk through the cornish countryside for 5miles starting at 8pm and arriving at camp at 1am! He was really unsure about it so my 16 year old walked with the cubs as well and he had a great time. Then he did an area camp with lots of scout troops going and he was in a panic but we pointed out how much he'd enjoyed the walk and he'd probably regret it if he didn't go. He had a whale of a time and got an award for cub who had got the most out of the experience! He's got another camp next weekend and again hes all jittery about it but he still wants to go. I bet your son will be fine and having his Dad their will probably reassure him like it did for my son having his big bro with him.

I've been lucky in that I always work from home. First I ran an out of hours telphone booking office for a holiday comapny, then I was an administrator for a pre school (all the paperwork at home) and an hour in a morning collecting fees, then Tourist office administrator and at the moment I run the booking office for our local community bus 7.30 to 9.30 am. This last job is hard work til the boys meds kick in and before the older ones have gone to school. I do miss the social side of going 'out' to work though.

Thanks for all your replies. My son is fine now though he has a big black bruise on his check which he is really proud of! I looked on the hospital web site and there was an email addy for complaints so I used that and just pointed out that we hadn't liked our son being spoken to like that and it had caused offence. When it happened I was too surprised and too concerned about my son to say any thiong but my older son who is ADHD was furious to hear someone speak to his brother like that and is still going on about it, so I think something needed to be said.

Yesterday afternoon I had to take 9 year old son into A & E after he received a bang on the head at school and kept being sick. We were seen in A & E and my son was examined by a male staff nurse. I was asked if my son was on any medication and told the staff nurse that he was diagnosed with ADHD and takes concerta Xl. The staff nurse looked at me and said 'Oh really?' then looked directly at my son and said 'so your abit of a nutter then?' This comment is wholly inappropriate and discriminatory isn't it? I didn't expect this level of ignorance, and bias, in the health service. Should I bring this to the hospitals attention in the hope that staff can be educated not to use such terms. Or am I over reacting? I'm ###### furious about it they wouldn't say something like that to a kid in a wheelchair would they?

I think my 14 yr old must have watched it hes just appeared with a tape measure in his hand and told me there was a man on telly last night with a foot long willy! He is shocked and fascinated!

Hi I'm new to here but to be honest I've been on some other boards and I've seen names that I recognise on here and it has made me wary as to if I should post. But i'm going to go for it............... I have 4 children, aged 16, 14, 13 & 8. 16yr old has no dx, but struggles with language (dyslexic but it has gone on so long without official dx its too late), 14 yr old according to the last psych we saw (who was very good) is pure ADHD without any co-morbids. 13yr old daughter is waiting to be assesed, ADD, and 8 yr old ADHD, Learning difficulties, consistently is a year behind everyone else so 'catch up' is only happening as he stays a year behind! arghhhhh.