LoubeeGreen

Oh I really feel for you there is nothing more gut wrenching thta your child being bullied, were going through that to at the moment, so far since september weve have bruised ribs, scrated lip, kicks to the stomach and numerous punching, the verbal abuse is awful...there 7!! its disgusting, my sons teachers told me that Jake is over sensitive and that the boys doing are just puppies who dont know whats rough and too rough. Good luck, thinking of you x

Right I have a plan!!! Let him do his tasks , the sums the list ect ect, but he got a watch for his bday so gonna show him the time when he start but give him a time when he has to finnish and gain agreement befor we start. Gonna do the star chart again -- that worked well while on holiday Gonna have a blackboard with the meal at tea times but 2 options (that fit well togther) and let him pick his dinner gonna have a behaiour diay and discuss rewards/ punsihments at the end of the day do you think that will help...yes corse it will POSITIVE THINKING!!! oops thinks the vino is kicking in! lol Many thanks to all for the replys wrist well and trully slapped its what I needed.... feel much more in control now!!

awaitng dx for aspie or high level, for jj 7, birthday today, 3 meltdowns befor school, made cakes to take in for his classmates that was wrong, hit his 3 yr old brother, told me to shut up screamed in my face, then shouted the f word because he thought if he was in trouble anyway then why not make it worse for himself, i shouted a swear word back (which hardly ever happens) daughter upset because of all the shouting, I cried he cried...Happy ###### birthday, I even cried when dropping the little one of to pre-school, I felt so sorry for him, he just wants to be involved with him, he loves him to bits and jj does not want him anywhere near him, if he touches one of things that he is using he screams at him and now my gorgeous little 3 yr old tells me e ahtes me, another choice little phrase picked up from JJ. why did I bother I already had to buy exacty what was on his list only one or two tiny surprise gifts coz that sent him off on one last year.....I have always felt so close to him and lately it feels as though he cant get away from me enogh when he has a meltdown, then all is fine and I think god what was all the fuss about, then I could say right thats enough, writing now or whatever hes obsessed with and i am saten himself!!! I so wanted to hug him and say have a lovley day love you loads but Im finding it really hard, he treats me like something on the bottom of his shoe, but doesnt even know he is doing it hes just so stressed! does any of this sound familiar AGRHHHHHHHHHHH, (im sure that last bit does). Feel abit better now, better get off to job number 2!!

Hey you need to feel bad! Its hard, really hard! We shouldnt feel guilty for wanting a slice of life for ourselves, I get really low sometimes I turned runed to the doctor the other day and told her Im sinking this is it were having the fianl meltdown that going to finnish me and my hubby off, we just cannot cope, but do know what this week has been fine and IO feel completley the opposite I feel really upbeat, and next week I might have a bad week again....It eefects everyone and its really hard becayse you love your kids but hey no one asks for this. Hope you feel really better soon, mush love and sympathy to you, put them to bed rent a dvd buy some terrys all gold and have an early night ( to go to sleep) tell yourself tomorrow will be a new day! Love Loubee thinking of you x x x

Thanks God, its so overwhelming, sometimes you think mybe you should just bury your head in the sand and hope for the best, but hey if we dont be strong who will. Thanks for the reply hope all goes well on Monday, let me know the outcome x

I think whatever you decide wiht the school its really important to keep meeting with them thrashing out a plan until you are 100% happy with it. Once youve agreed it ask for it be sent to at home in writing and have it outlining excactly what the school will be doing, and could even outline what you will do at home, like a home school agreement. Only saying this because with all the good intentions in the world schools are overstreched and you never know when a new situation will arrise IE: new head, new teacher , new child in class with a condition also, and when the dust has settled and its common knowledge of your childs needs, there is a possibility the urgency or the good intetions will not be fulfilled, and you obviously will not be happy and can approach the school with the written confirmation of what they have promised to do and point out exactly what they are not doing. We have to be the Voice for our children and it always helps to have something to fight with. Good luck, love & hugs. x x

That will do him the world of Good!! Well done that boy!! lol and Im amazed to hear a good story involving a school, maybe there is hope!! x

Popcorn

I just dont understand why school seem to put up these walls, well I do its money, write a very detailed letter to the school boared of governors, and do it every time you have a problem now, with the reason being you have no confidence in the schools protocall and honesty then its documented and they will want it sorted out as soon as possible because ofsted will see it all when they next come in, if that doesnt work then the next step is to go to Ofsted direct!! Good luck chick, dont let the ****** get you down!! x

Hi Everyone Im new to this site but not new to the whole looking at every site on Autism especially Aspergers, comparing, self diaognosing my son whilst swimming against the tide of school telling me, thats a complete different child you dicribe than we see at school, However after last term me telling the about my son who is nealry 7 trying to stay awake all night so he could watch the time change and becoming completely obsessed by the time they gave in and refered him to go to panel for an ed pyshc appointment, the panel agreed with me after a lengthy letter he shoul;d have an assesment....its booked JAN 09!!!!!! OH MY GOD!!! I need someone to tell me im not mad and thta I have justified reasonms for suspecting Aspergers....I know the school think im a lunatic, now He is being Bullied as well so they think I just like to cause problems I AM SICK OF THEM!!!!! - they are supposed to be professionals. They are professional IDIOTS!!! anyway after that little rant!! lol He loves to copy the dictionary Heis above average in MAths and Spelling and Writing/Reading He becomes obsessed with various things like making lists of sums, or football boots brands, or teams or his current favourite songs of Abba (thanks to the mamma mia soundtrack being in the car lol!!) He seems to get really stressed by these obsessions like he has to finish the task so if he needs to go to bed because its late I find it hard to get him to stop, quite often he will try to sneak it upstairs ARGGHHH He finds new situations stressful and recently is howing this as anger which is quite new His younger brother idolises him and he is finding it difficult to handle the atttension unless he initiates it, will get angry If he does play with toys the game is more about setting them up than actually playing them! He feels so anxious all the time he has no self confidence and this has not been helped by some littlesnot head picking on him at school ARGGGHHHH He takes things very literly, example. I was telling him about a friend with EF students staying and Ithe conversation led to me saying she has to make sure they are safe and feed them, meaning provide meals he took me to mean that she actually had to spoon feed them(they were 15!!) he was shocked and couldnt get his head round it untill I explined at length what I ment. He likes to know everyones age he can seem quite rude because he is very blunt with people, matter of fact These are just the basic as you will know i expect the list could go on forever AM I MAD!!!!! Please be honest does it sound like aspergers im convinced 98% GOd I hope im not mad What can i do to keep sane till Jan, He seems so depressed what can I do to help him??? Please help me x -- excuse all the spelling mistakes I was RANT typing lol! x