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As some of you know me and Clair have (like many of you ) had our fair share of ups and downs,but tonight whilsted driving back to night I heard the most arrigant"B" come on the radio and say about the mother in Humberside saying that the way she did things was the cowards way out. I am at least grateful that we all have this site to rant and show others that we as parent have got a place where we can say how we feel and get some of the problems of our minds. I have learnt some thing today about the people of this country, "speak now and judge later". Had this poor lady who must have been at wits's end had found us all I would not be posting this . I hope that the ars**ole who rang the radio show tonight never has to witness what we as parents ( and the kids ) do on a day to day basis, Sorry to rant off but it is for this reason I have put this.

I can sympathise with the rectal probe thing, it didnt make my day but it made Clair's day. She had not laughed so much in ages. There is me laying on the bed with a spinal problem and black hairy feet, (due to brand new pair of socks where the the fibres had decided to divorce the socks and marry my feet) whilst the doc is shoving his fingers up me ring ole. The worst bit was he had a name similar to Mr. Merry Man. So we shall call that highlight of Clair,s day.

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Just poped in and saw these and I am sitting here having a good laff. http://www.ebaumsworld.com/flash/fartingcat.html

Suzie, be strong , and as I (we have found) this is the place to run too. (he says just wanting to scoop you all up

Well done and hpoe you will do it again

Lauren,It is sad that you are being p***ed about like this .So Next time you go into school and ask for a form to be filled in , Try this Make sure you a bit of scrap paper/old envolope Look at your watch or a clock and note the time(Make a point of looking). Then ask if the Head is in school,and again note the time that you asked. Find a nice comfy seat and sit down(dont ask if it is ok to take a seat,thats what they are there for) Now it is at this point( may be after a few minutes) someone will ask"Can I help you" to which you reply(nicely)"No you can not,but could you tell me your name", then say"but the Head can". Still following me. Now look again at the watch/clock and again note the time. If you have been there let say 15 mins again ask to speak to the head again.If they say He/She is unavailable ask "Doing what Please",You will be told some b*ll s**t story like "attending some school issuse".You then say I have been waiting to see/speak to the head and I am noting down the time I have been here and I would now like the name(s) of the school govenors as I am going to send them a letter of complaint. Then move back to the seat and sit down(note the time) and start to sing?whistle or drum your fingers/feet, this will arouse some attention,and if it does not sing a little loud(as the Head is a little deaf)or a bit faster with the drumming. Now if they still do not attend to you get up and pace a little. The point you have to make clear is you are still here and need to speak to them.Believe me you will get to see the head, BUT DO NOT GIVE UP or get angry. If none of the above works at least you have made a valid attempt to see the head. Go home and write the letter to the head and remind Him/her that you have sent a copy to the school govenors. Dont get angry get even

Anne ,yes he is statemented and the school has been allocated the funds.

To All of you fantastic people who have read my post and you have given me the strenghth to fight on.I will not back down as I feel that if the schools accept your child and then later they try to say "well we did not realise how bad they where" or "they have more problems than we thought" , yes these are lame excuses and if this happening all over the UK ,then I think that the Heads of these schools need to themselves return to be re-educated on a new level. When I challanged my son headmaster yesterday he started to give me some DAMM silly excuses,to which I asked him to stop and think about this :- 1. He choose to accept my son into his school. 2. He has been allocated funding to assist my son's education>(I had to remind him this was for my son and not the school) 3.He had the right to refuse him into a main stream school. It was when I pointed the third one out to him his reply was " I could not refuse him,the LEA would not allow that" to which I said if he had looked more closely at his previous school reports he would of had a better insite to his needs. All I can say now is "LET THE BATTLE COMMENCE" Regards to you all E=mc2

Thanks viper ,Clair is finding this all damm hard and so as I have said it has fallen on to me more(and so it should)to sort the school out and the CDC. I have just sat and re read the letter the school has sent us (at my request) as to why our son was formally excluded (formally being the operative word) and neither me or Clair have agreed to this arangment of half a day at school or shorten days ,but the school feel that this is the way it is going to happen.....Uh NO .I have just typed a letter to the school to tell them that he will attend full-time classes as of today and until a meeting with all concern has taken place I will be bringing him in. What has P**ded me off about this is I intructed the school 3 weeks ago to ring me on my home telephone or mobile phone to discuss any problems with my son before taking any action(which the school secretary has tried and it worked).If the schools can not understand simple instrutions then no parent or child stands a chance to try and make things work. Clair says thank-you too you

Well done , I read your post and found it is fantastic that you told him to sit in the class and see for himself.This is an area that the man/lady who is head of the school forgets to go to ,a level at which the children have to understand from. I have only just joined and I feel that the heads of the schools never really go in to the classroom to see how the chilren are being taught but often sit in their offices and judge what is really happening .

Hi again as I try to say earlier , My wife posts on here as Clair and she has had a big set back, So I have had to take over for the time being. I took our son back to school on monday and asked to speak to the headmaster as I was unhappy about his informal exclusion from school and the problems that it had cause at home and told him that my son will stay in school all day and if the had a problem that they were to telephone me. I arrived back at the school at 3.00 to collect him and went to see his teacher (who at the time was balling another child down) to see how his day had been,to which she told me he had been good all day,so I thanked her for understanding about what had happended in the prior week and asked if he could go for a full day tomorrow to which she agreed. I spent the following day chasing up child development center for any news on his appointment (the one we have been waiting for ages for) and all the others that are there to help ie Social services, Parent partnership. I started by asking what was going on and then it hit me "why am I being so polite to them",they know about our son and his problems they have know for 4 years now.This is the point where I started telling them if I dont hear from you I will just keep telephoning them till they are sick of the sound of me. Then to my amazement I had phone call after phone call to say we are looking into it ,to which I replied No!! "this needs sorting now" this is causing major problems at school and at home and I want answers now. Later the same day I received a phone call from CDC to say they had looked at his reports but it could be some time before they could see my son or give an appointment date,Well I hit the roof and my tone of voice changed,(some where from inside it came) I said this is c**p and the system is wrong and how the hell do all the other parents in this situation cope with this bulls**t ,I then asked why it takes so long for the appointment to get made and why they had been sitting on his file for so long .I said to them he was getting to the stage where he was being kicked out of school for agressive behavior and he was getting more unrulely at home and that if I was to get angry with him and smack him they would soon get something done about it(Not that I would smack him) I then cut the phone call short. 4 o'clock the same day they rang me again to say they had looked at his file again and had felt that he neede an "Urgent appointment" The lady from the parent partnership rang me also to say she will be giving their full support at a meeting on the 27th of this month.They also said that they were in contact with the social services and LEA to assist us with any help we need. So I feel that by asking for help only allows them more time to get their act together but by telling the too sort it sometimes makes them move a little quicker, I am not saying this will work in all cases but it has shown it works. Regards to all who have read this and commented

Hello, to all you fantastic parents. To say I was dropped in at the deep end is an under statement, when you have to choose between you partner and your child (with ADHD/ASD) which do you choose...mmm choices are hard, but in my my case I had both to consider (as you all have too) So Let me start by saying I am new to this ,even though my wife has been fightng hard from day1,( she is the fighter and the other reason for this post) I have been a bit well shall I post ...Will I look the fool ,will they say it is from me /your side off the family you all know the pathetic little quotes. Since Tuesday of last week.... sorry Admin got a bit to much and I would like to ressume this post but tears are flowing.