dana

Hi, I cant offer you any advise apart that maybe you should indeed involve police but I feel for you and I am sorry you have to go through all this alone. My son is sometimes bullied but he also bullies others thinking that is a play (he has ADD,AS not yet officially dx). I have to deal with that alone too because although my husband loves us and wants to help but cannt bear the preasure and get inerved and upset very quickly and angry on the whole world(which does not help)which makes me feel not to bother him . I know how you feel. <'> >< <'> dana

That is fantastic! Well done! Keep us posted! dana

Hello and wellcome to the forum. dana

Hello and wellcome to the forum. dana

Hello and welcome to the forum. dana

Hell and welcome. dana

Hello and wecome to the forum. dana

Hi and welcome to the forum. dana

[quote name='joanne1' date='Mar 2 2009, 05:42 PM' post= Do you think he may have denied it afterwards, to end it all. To stop him from being in trouble if he thinks no one believed him. I know my ds will agree or take the blame so the situation is over with. It seems easier sometimes to do that and get on with the punishment for my ds, but he doesn't realise it doesn't help him next time he is in trouble as they assume it his his fault . Joanne Hi, I suspect the same. I also think that, because he would really like to be part of them ,to play with them (and does not know how), he wants to agree with them at the end even if he was right and they were wrong. However, it is also true that he is trying to get their attention by winding them up thinking that it is funny without realising that it makes it worse. He is seeing the Learning Mentor each week who helps him with social stories and hopefully she will organise a group of children to help him socialising. We were abroad for 2 years nd there he was very ill (he had bacteria which caused him stomac ulcer ) and it took hm 1 year to get better. He had to be home educated and did not have a chance to socialise. I told that to the teacher and the children know that but I think that children see it differently .They often dont have enough patience to help him and to ignore his bad behaviour even if they understand why he is behaving like that. I understand that .It will take time till they accept him (hopefully),although I dont think that thoes bullies will ever do.My son will have to learn how to deal with them. Thank you all for your support. dana

Hi all, there has been a new development. I spoke with SENCO about the incident and told her(like I said to my sons teacher earlier) that my son did not lie and that I know that because another child saw what happened and confirmed to me the whole thing. SENCO told me that the incident shouldnt have happened but that my son shouldnot have denied it afterwords,and made it muddy. She also said that I shouldnt have investigated it myself but told everything new to the teacher(whch I did after),to leave to the school to do investigation (which they didnt do it properly). What I did was that I simply asked the boy (in front of his mother,who was very supportive) to confirm if the incident really happened the way my son described it. Have I really done something wrong? Dont I have the right as a parent to know what is happening in the school and to ask about it from the other children ? Maybe I am missing something. Please tell me if I do. dana

I like that! Hi A and wellcome. dana x

Hi and wellcome. dana x

Thank you Nicky B. and Joanne 1, I am sorry Joanne 1 that your son also has problems at school. The school is surely not helping him. dana

Hi , Your situation is really difficult. You have to deal with big things ,eachone hard for itself. I really feel for you and hope that at least some of them will get better soon. <'> >< <'> We used to order melatonin from Kirkman. Go to their wbsite.They sell vitamins and all kind of supplements .You do not need presciption but it costs some money. I will think of you.Take care .You are strong. You can do it. <'> dana xxx

Hi, something realy bad happened at school.My son(9) was cornered in the cloak room by 5 children ,punched and called names .That happened at the end of the school day.My son reported it to the teacher and next day she spoke with each child involved and punished them by not letting them out at the play time. But they all strongly denied it (even cried!) and, to make the matter worst,when the teacher asked my ds again he himself denied the whole thing! The teacher informed me what had heppened deeply regreting that she punished those children saying that she knew them,some of them moral and good (m son joined her class last year in September)and she did not know what to think now. I spoke with my son and he said that the whole thing DID happen but he denied it at the end because he was afraid that the teacher did not beleive him! This did not make sense to me but I beleived him and when I told this to his teacher she was not convinced and still thought that he invented the whole thing. Next day while I was waiting for my son at the end of the scool day all the children told me(I did not ask) that that event did not happen and that my son lied. EVEN THE CHILDREN WHO DID NOT SEE TE WHOLE THING! Now,the twist: yesterday my son (ADD,traits of AS) told me that acctualy there was a boy from the next dor classroom who SAW what heppened and tried to defend him but he could not.I spok with that boy who CONFORMED this.So my son WAS telling the trueth after all! I told this to his teacher strait away and she said that she would see into it. A part from all this what really bothers me is that a lot of the children from his class beleived that he lied even theydid not see the event. I think that the reason for this is that he,not knowing how to get their attention( AS trait), was calling them names himself (he learned that from them,by the way,bcause some of them did this to him when he first came to their class).So even good children (who were not bad to him) thought that he is a bad guy and lied, maybe even that he deserved it. I kow my son and I know that he is not capabl to invent this kind of events but what botheres me is that he denies them after all the children deny them( and they do always even if they are guilty) and the teacher told me that this has happened in the past as well(that he denies that he was bullied). What annoys me is that HE is seen as a problem (the teacher told me he needs help,I know that ) but I think the real problems are the bullies ,those children really need proper help not only to be told off, because the way I see it, the school does not have autority on them ,they lie and do it again anyway without any regret. dana

Hi there, While surching on the web for something to improve my son's working memory and concentration I found this site: //parentsubscribers.c.topica.com/maamQGWabOdBpbrcdcOe/ www.lumosity.com I think it is interesting. dana

Thank you,lynne. As much as they can help I also read that excess of them might be harmful especially to the children with autism. You are right: goog healthy diet is the most important. dana

Hi there, I read about L-Glutamin and L-Glutathion. They are supposed to help the brain. Does anyone have experience with them ? Please tell me if they really work? Which one is better to use? dana

Thank you all! I wil keep trying with new things even they become obssesions. My son's latest obssesion is printing pictures from the films, books et.(he likes) which he finds on the internet. It is expensive business and I tr to negotiate with him not to do it TOO often ecause it costs money for the cartridges. We also use it as a reward. I guess that searching on the internet is not that bad thing because keeps his mind alert and develop concentration. Besides he also learn a lot of things along. dana xxx

Hi, I am a little bit confused. My son does not like new subjects ,he likes to play the same games over nd over again. He likes to watch the same videos, the same activities. I keep trying to introduce a new activity or film and after some convincing he accepts but than it becomes a new obssesion! I just wonder if I should keep encourigeing him for new things because they also become obssesions? Or just to let him play the way he wants even if it is just repetative play? I feel sorry for him if I take his favorite activities from him but on the other hand maybe I am doing the right thing by trying to convince him to change his repetatve play. dana

Thank you.That is indeed from WISK IV test. I just wonder if there are any sites or books where I can find some exercises for Picture Concepts and Picture Complition? dana

Hello and welcome! dana

That is a great news! Good luck! dana

Hi, my son had WHISK IV test receantly which showed very low score in Perceptual Reasoning although his verbal comprehension was OK and literacy is his strength. Does anyone have any ideas how to improve Perceptual Reasoning? He scored particularly low in Picture Concepts and Picture Complition and Matrix reasoning. Any books or websites on this subject , please! How can I help him develop it? dana

Hi, studies show that particularly the music of Mozart helps children with ASD. For sleep I would use the second movements of his piano concertoes. They are so relaxing and beautiful. Whatever you decide to choose stick with it for awile because repetition wll give him also feeling of security which helps calming down before falling a sleep. Good luck! dana