mc31

Its not good to be in a situation like this, at the end of the day (when i worked as a carer in learning dis and mental health adults) even shouting at a client was deemed a form of abuse, either way someone in an already heightened state is certainly not going to calm with a person who is going to shout, well done you for sorting a situation that could have got out of hand. mc

Hi she was 7 in july, she has had her statement since starting school, to be honest i thought she was doing ok too (in my eyes she is doing very well considering) its hard to look back on my eldest who has no probs but i dont really remember her at this age and what she was learning, i know all children have to be taught, but when your dealing with someone with ASD its hard to know the best way to teach or even help them with so said homework without causing more confusion, as it said in her statement she is already learning by rote (not knowing the meaning of subject) this surely can't be good to carry on learning this way. please dont be worried (yeah i know easy for me to say as i worry too) just have a chat with her school if she is struggling. This is the point im up to apart from posting on here to see if anyone else has been here with their child. kind regards mc

Hi KarenA It seems to me that the TA is there just to support her but they are also trying to make her independant of the TA so that she doesnt become to attached and needy, in my opinion its so she can help others in the class, she needs help in many areas such as reading, spelling etc, they did say today that they would help her with her fine motor skills but this would be another teacher that would take her out of class for this. also they are getting her assessed for auditory memory prob. not sure how i feel about mainstream school anymore, feel at a loss as to help my daughter without confusing her more, she tried to tell me something the other day, but none of what she said made any sense, so that when i tried prompting with words she stuttered then said oh it no matter, with such a sad face i could have cried, once upon a time she would bash her self because she couldnt get what she wanted across, she's definately changing and making some progress, but the thought of her giving up trying to tell me something was awful. she does have and IEP but i think after our chat today they might have to relook at this, i think they have ticked boxes in things that she did once but looking at it she is not consistent so some things need to be changed. kind regards mc

hi thanks, no what is it??

Hi thanks for your posts she does have a statement and also has a TA for support 27 and a half hours a week, they told me she is working at a level of the top end of reception, hence the 18 mths behind, in her statement it says she learns by rote, when reading she guesses some words just by the first two letters, and words that are on one page that we read together she has forgotten by the time we turn the page and come to the same word. these can also be words that she has learnt for spelling and has previously got them right.

Hi all Apologies for not being about for a long while... My daughter has been getting on ok at school she is 7 by the way and is under the ASD diagnosis, although they say she is working about 18mths behind, which is the same age mentally when she was diagnosed, but the teacher seems to think she should be able to grasp her 2, 5, 10 x tables (she isnt, and can't make head nor tail of it all) she also struggles with number bonds to 10, she now thinks any 2 sets of numbers make 10 i.e. 1+1=10, this is when verbally asked, put on paper she will answer maths sums correctly but only adding and subtracting, on top of this bless her she has the obvious spellings to learn albeit with some difficult words, but that she sight spells such as "what" becomes "wot" "put" is "pot" sometimes with 2 oo's, she also doesnt seem to retain the info she has learned from a previous week and seems to live in the now, like day to day, and the school are looking at maybe she has a memory problem as well? any ideas greatly welcome!

Hi thanks for replies, c is only coming up 4yr old, she was never an eater of cheese products, so they were out long ago, not for want of me trying recently, but they kind of make her gag. milk also is a no-no, but sometimes she will decide on trying a small cup of it, trial and error in my house, we have just got back from shopping at rainbow just to try to find something for her to eat, we came back with a couple of different jams and also some mini rolls (chocolate). she has eaten today 1 satsuma, oh and the insides of a few pieces of garlic bread, but this was after she had a tantrum saying yuk yuk yuk (roll on floor) scream, yuk scream yuk oh and then loads a tears! i find she also says yuk to things she has not even tried! but trying to tell her its Yum, dont work!!! been to docs also, they were unconcerned because her height is good..... mc

Hi its been a while since my last visit, im hoping someone, anyone can shed any light on my new problem, no not new problem, old one that has just got worse..... my daughter at every meal time including breakfast wants something to eat, she will ask for something (which can be quite difficult with communication difficulties) i will prepare it for her or if its something she can get for herself she will do that and the next minute the food stuff is Yuk!!!!! she then repeats this over and over again whilst crying on the floor having one almighty tantrum... this is becoming a problem as she is quite a thin child (always has been) and also what on earth do i try and feed her. ive tried letting her get involved and make sarnies, put her dinner on the baking tray, which she will do, or it will be just an out and out No way am i eating that! ( my words ) we have been using pecs symbols for a while so ive asked her what she wants in advance but this is also getting the same reaction. many thanks i feel better just for sounding off! mc

Hi thanks for the info, it has helped.

Hmmm, i guess so, but its not until march 06 so not going to think too much about it at the mo. the help around does seem to differ tho, i know what you mean.

Hi all Had through the post this morning a letter concerning my daughter (ASD/ADHD). It was arranging a Parent Professional meeting... As it says in the letter it is to discuss her needs and plan for the future buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut, has anyone had one of these and what am i to expect??? mc

Hi all My daughter C is asd with underlying adhd, i first noticed something was up when her behaviour became violent towards herself, when she was unable to do things (ie wooden jigsaw puzzles) herself, would throw the said toy around, screech and then finally would bash at herself or go to nearest wall and bang her head against it. (luckily this has now stopped) what she does now is scratches, or slaps herself, she has limited communication, and this would cause its own problems when she tried to ask for something that she wanted as she didnt have the words (and made up her own) hehe i am now using pecs with her and the frustration factor is dropping per day as she now has a way of asking for stuff. Not only that i can back up what we have to do per day with the pictures, it has made life so much easier, for instance getting dressed in morning was a nightmare, would run around, kick out, scream etc, now show the pic of clothes, she now lays down on floor to have nappy changed and lets me get her dressed!!

C is well into tractors so we have to watch tractor tom, bump the elephant, she is obsessed with elephants too lol

Hi all I applied for my daughter, we had someone come round to visit, who was a great help, we have been awarded a new washing machine, money towards a holiday, clothing and bedding for C, and money for recreational items. my advice is apply, i wasn't going to, but in the end did, suprised myself to say the least!!!! only i had to send cheque back as they had me down for mrs not miss lol!!! mc

Thanks all for replies lil_me sorry to hear that, my daughter can be very affectionate, but it is on her terms only. On going to playgroup, one little girl (her friend is suppose) gave C a hug, now every morning C looks for her friend, then runs over and gives her a hug. its pretty sweet!!

thanks again Your all helping to clear alot up that has been spinning round and round in my head, my little notes/reminders surely can all be screwed up! thankyou!!

Just anothe one............ C has since i can remember chewed on anthing... plastic toy animals, books, even some of her soft toys have got sucked or chewed ears/tail take for instance the books in our house (her ones that i leave in her reach) are not square anymore they actually look round! we also have a whole lot of farm animals that are missing legs, tails where they have finally given up and the teeth have gone through them (its wonderful when u tread on a cows leg... kinda painful) or they just look a bit worse for wear!! ive tried telling her not to chew on her animals, books and all i get is a blank look or nooooooooooooo!!!!! because we now know what this word means lol communication is very limited by the way. im just wondering if its sort of comforting and thats why she does it. any ideas?

I opted for other 2... C will eat mini milk ice creams until the cows come home... strawberry jam sarnies are the fav, but we do tend to eat the jam 1st bread last! and if we get full up on jam then we just leave the bread. sausages we love the inside, we hate the skin lol and we like all fruit, and we also took a bite out of a red pepper once too (think she thought it was a big tomato) and we liked it!!!!!!!! mc

hi thanks 2 you both for info that greatly helps in understanding where C maybe coming from. i dont worry to much about the clothing issue, because at least she wears clothes when we go shopping lol oh and playgroup! i do sometimes worry bout the food issue tho, as she is a skinny minny! but saying that she never sits still! mc

Hi just wondering if any1 else has had these probs, my daughter 3yrs hates having clothes on, and always has, she just about undresses completely when at home, or even when out must take off shoes and socks..... another thing is food.... stuff she has eaten in the past is now a big no no, if she says yes for something, even cake she will bite into it, and then spits and make a big fuss over it (screaming, running round house like a looney and generally angry) mc

Alibaly fantastic idea, that beats all (scuse the pun) i really would like to be a fly on a wall in some peoples houses, just to see (them that are so serene) what life is really like! i generally have to fly out the door at dead on 9.00 to get daughter to playgroup end up being a couple mins late, clothes thrown on, hair a mess, and generally looking like ive had an alice cooper makeover, coz i couldnt be bothered to take off last nites eyeliner/mascara off when got in from work at 11pm, and fell into bed and zzzzzzzzzzzzzz THE END but hey at least chloe looks ok, it only took all morning to get her dressed (she puts up a fight) do her hair, by the way its curly (she lays down so cant comb it) find some sort of breakkie that she might eat (extremely fussy) chase 4 cats back downstairs that she has let upstairs, put a dvd on, change dvd, put video on because she realised she didnt want dvd on at all. oh and explain to her umpteen times what the something is she is pointing at on t.v. is (its normally an elephant) we like these!!! mc at last i can then have 2.5 hrs peace and make myself look human again hahaha lol

Well will you look at that, i have made a new word.......... upsetand!!! Lol

Wow! unbelievable!!! some people are just so ignorant, standing outside playgroup are a couple of mums waiting to pick their little angels's up, i am walking towards them, only to hear "well if my child was to behave in such a way i would give them a damn good wallop!" i think sometimes people automatically assume that if a child is a bit unruly or has a tantrum then it is either bad parenting or just plain bad behaviour not that some children have disability and see things different which in turn causes upsetand confusion. i have given up feeling embarrassed at my childs outbursts, there is generally a reason for them, i just need to find out what quickly to be able to diffuse the situation. and up yours to any of them down at my school snooty, looking down her nose at me mother, you havent a clue! God i feel better now!! thanx

The Mattress, is a brilliant idea, will sort that one out b4 bedtime,, haha!! no more being kicked in the back whilst trying desperately to hold on to the side of bed so that i dont fall out!!!!!!! She also does seem a light sleeper, i creep in at 11.00 from work and lo and behold 2 seconds later, Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!!!! this is also because she then realises she is on her own and she doesnt like that either. mc

So called proffesionals and their stooges are always late, or letting you down, not acceptable really! well i hope she turns up eventually...