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Jsmum, I can understand where you are coming from. T has other DX's apart from ASD and I know for a fact they put T in this school saying he had behavioural problems. The only behavioural problems he has was being in the wrong school through his primary years. The LEA have been underhanded (as usual) and got us to drop the tribunal if they gave us this mixed EBD/ASD provision or to "Stay home". What we went for was an ASD school but it was full, so we won, but even now there are no places. Now I've been told we can't appeal as we dropped the tribunal, so I have a long fight on my hands yet again. I'll write a letter to the LEA and ask for Part 4 to be changed and have to wait up to 4 weeks for it to go to panel. I know they will say no and it upsets me, I will send in the photo's of T and all the bruising and events and dates of these assaults. I have to get him away from there as he is going downhill fast!

Great news Ben ...I'll have a dry white wine

LOL hoodies and Chavs all the way here, also amazingly colourful language which even makes me blush oh and gallons of spit to be spat out..lovely eh? I so hear you Enid!!

T has been in a school which mixes EDB and ASD children together for a year now. I've made quite a few posts at how unhappy we are with the school. Now he is being used as a punchbag everyday, especially by another boy who has EDB problems. So far he has been strangled, punched in the face, spat on, tripped up, had the chair moved from underneath him, punched in the neck, pinched, bitten and scrammed.. and kicked in the head. This school was the only one available as the one we went for (tribunal) was full, they said if we dropped the tribunal we could have this other school which wasn't ideal but there was nothing out there for him. So today the "new" autism school has now been build and is up and running and perfect. So where do we go from here as there is only a few spaces, my SW wants us to go for the "full" school which is silly really Apart from logging the assaults and taking pictures of the bruises what else do we do to get T from this school to the new one? The fees are more or less the same..

Thanks Mumble, that's the way I see it, but the other Care workers take the picture off her etc and it causes a lot of problems for T.

Hi my mum started a job where she works with Adults with special needs a few months back and she loves it. The thing is my mum looks after a lady lets call her "T".. well they get along great as she plays along with her obsessions etc in return T will let her wash her hair etc which the other care workers find hard. Now T has an obsession with a Pilot in a magazine, she even takes the picture to bed with her and talks to it. T is also making a plane for the Pilot to go into. Now the others say not to let her "take the Pilot to bed" which she gets very upset about and won't entertain her obsession. My mum plays along with her and takes an interest in her making her plane and the Pilot. The thing is who is in the right? Is it wrong to play along and make her happy, or take "The Pilot" away and ignore the obsession? My son has an obsession with mosquito's and uses his fingers to imate them, my mum plays along and they have a good laugh and get on fab. So this is the way my mum sees it.. What are your views on it?

Well we are being refered to the intensive team, T is tearing the family apart. It's now affecting his sisters and they think it's normal to tear lumps out of each other, and the middle child is getting out of control and is very within herself. We had to fill out questionares about our mental state and I think I ticked them all, I even have a constant headache and eye twitch! I feel helpless, I've lost control and I'm so worn out. I'm tired of the abuse T gives us and being covered in bruises, I haven't even got the energy to do anything for myself. To make it worse T got up for school weed on the floor and his trousers are too small and he hates his �36 shoes!! Anyone else in the same boat? Has anyone else had the intensive team in?

Go to your GP and say how desperate you are, we had a special needs health visitor and then when he was 7 it changed to a Social worker as we needed the support (saying that I've tried to get hold of her for 3 days now).

I really feel for you, maybe a reward scheme when he tries a mouthful of something new? Another thing I tried with T was playing a game by blindfolding him and he had to guess what it tasted like and what it was. Mind you T will, only eat faggots and mushy peas, toast with peanut butter (never untoasted bread) and Mc's and chocolate. He flips if he sees fruit but he will eat roasted parsnips by the plateful.

T has a blue badge as he has poor muscle tone and can't walk all that far, thats how we got ours and we are on the higher rate. It's worth a shot I suppose.

A school that is right for him without being mixed with behavioural children who teach him how to be 100% worse, and he sees this as the norm.

T goes to a school 10 miles away, he is mixed with pupils with behavioural problems which makes him 100% worse even though he's in with the Autism side. They won't take him residential as I've asked before. He is on meds for ADHD and has the top dose which is for his height and weight. I so want to move him to another school but there is nowhere for him to go, it would be a step down and with pupils who are severe in the other choices of schools. In the other schools they just go out on trips and have no education whereas T is bright but has a lot of problems.

Thanks Cat. They look amazing if it were soundproof it would be wizard as he knows when he bangs and throws things we are on edge as we have not nice neighbours. We have been waiting for SS to help us with T's bedroom, in the end we did it ourselves (with my mum's help) as over a year has gone past and nothing has been done, all we get is "oh I'll get onto some charities now". They said to plaster it and they would sound proof it and get special flooring, so after waiting and waiting with help we got flooring and painted it and plastered it etc.

Have you got a social worker or anything, the only reason we got help was that I was going to go to the local paper as we were so desperate. The thing is if I call T's bluff he'll probably do it, he has blind rage constantly. The strangling thing was awful, his sister couldn't breathe and she was hysterical, he's also tried to do it to us and his dad. I feel like weeping, or drinking myself to death!

T's behaviour is awful, we already have a SW and someone who comes every 2 weeks to help us with him and he goesout in the 6 weeks 4 times a week, but now it's at crisis point. He has already tried to strangle his sister and now has said he'll get a knife and kill us.. I'm now going to ask for the intensive team to come in, we get no sleep and everyday is a meltdown and we are covered in bruises. I know it's the 6 weeks but I'm waiting for someone to be seriously injured..anyone in the same position?

Kate can I be cheeky and ask what plants you planted, T is very sensory and is always touching and smelling. I might have a shot at doing something similar to get him out in the garden!

Of course you can Everyone else thanks for your posts, he was being a pratt! I was in there 5 minutes tops and this man was ok until he heard me say to T to turn it down.. It's like he picked up on my stressed state as I'd been into town with him also and was tired! He was being funny!

After going into town with the DS and DD2 and her friend we stopped off at the Library for DD2 to get some more books, she is doing this read for 6 weeks thing she does every year... Well DS plonked himself down and started playing his gameboy, I told him to turn it down which he did.. He then started saying "way hey" a few times.. Then this man on the PC who was furiously writing in the Library on the PC had a go at me about the DS.. It was as if he waited for me to tell the DS to turn down the gameboy (which wasn't that loud anyway but I was paranoid as it was in a library). He then said "I can't concentrate with him playing his game and shouting way hey all of the time", I replied he is Autistic and has tourettes, he then asked me to repeat it and I did. He then started humming very loudly trying to get a reaction out of me, I carried on ignoring the man... but I was , don't you just love the world we live in eh?

I'm glad it's not just me then! DS is a living breathing nightmare, the meltdowns and the lack of sleep and the screeching.. They have bumped up the sessions for T thank goodness or I don't know how I would get through the 6 weeks.

T makes loads of noises, I pray for the day his voice breaks so glasses stop shattering

<'> We have a serial breaker too!

T is desperate to see it too!

Thats really interesting kinky, I'm sure I've read that somewhere too. Bikemad, T is still awake and calling me at almost midnight. I'd love some sleep in the next few days as it's the 6 weeks slog soon! Especially with his two sisters (8 and 10)

Yes he does take medication for hayfever but in the day, so he can't take it at night. He has the nasal spray at night though. I'm crossing my fingers for a peaceful night, I can't believe I'm still going!

Thanks Donna, maybe we should lock them in a soundproof bedroom together and have a well earned sleep