Ceridrial

ok - i have a 10.30 meeting with the head mistress i did have a 10.30, but she has phoned and said that the main TA is too upset to deal with son today (because of the things that Son said), and the other one is off sick. thank you to all that replied We do have the 'homework if you are at home and should be at school and no playing' we have tried all the reward stuff, the charts, the removal of privelidges, the quiet place, the reading corner, the fighting the cushions, the boxing bag, the wii for excess energy.... the talking, the shouting the what i feel is everything....

i've just phoned home and husband told me, the ed-psych is new to him (knows him through the last one who left) he's coming in on Monday, so could ask for tomorrow i guess, i'm just totally lost here, i dont know who to talk to, and i feel we are all being let down by everyone, the school dont want him, they have a room away from the main class for him (yes he is difficult, but isolating him doesnt help) he is lonely

hi all Son - 9 - fully diagnosed Aspergers, full statement my son has been sent home again for violence to the teachers. Is there anything i can do, my husband cannot go and get a job because we dont know when our son will be sent home. (i have asked him to find out what would happen if they called and my husband was not available) who can i ask for help? maybe the mainstream school is not the right place, but in that case where is? they tried at Cuckmere House which was lovely, but thats for boys with behavioural problems, not aspergers! can someone please tell me what i can do

sending you a pm with my mums email - she does art lessons by email x she does it on a 'if you can afford to pay something, thats great, otherwise no fee'

i just read your post - and if you cannot rant here, then where can you rant! if you are feeling stressed then getting it all out and then reading it back does help!

hi Marc i'm a mum of 2, 1 (aged 8) with aspergers xx

thats an interesting thought - i never spotted that before - may have to re-read them!!

hi not sure of what to suggest, but it never ceases to amaze me how mean some people can be. is there *any* chance he might have lost it? hope its all ok now

he's now been sent home with a letter - advising he was punching a teacher in the stomach (i have another post on that!) but i want to move him to a special school now - i've had enough!

hi he is going through statement now, is on 1 hour a day, on his own, has been excluded 3 or so times for violence....

ok, my son has now had a letter home to say that he has been punching a teacher hard in the stomach (thank flip she is not pregnant!) we have decided as parents that we want him in a 'special school' as mainstream is blatantly not working - what do we do now?

but i am more worried about you, Jeanne, you sound 'done in' I would say you could try calling the drs and telling them you need some help - even if its just to get some sleep. When is your hsuband back? Do you have a friend/relative that could come and sit with Glenn while you havea break. My oldest is violent, but still only 7 (nearly 8) and i know when he hits/kicks me.... and i get to go out to work. Hang in there, sending you hugs x x x

Hi Sally I just logged on after a while and saw your sad message. Hope everything isnt getting too much for you, and am sending you some hugs!

Hey... i'm in Sussex.... My Son has AS, and he is coming up to 8... I dont know of any groups, but i agree that the kids are finding it hard and frustrating, my OH took the 2 kids out, and came back and said it was one of the worst half hours of his life (cos DS just moaned the whole time)

unfortunately this all came up near the end of term, so we havent had a chance to see/talk about it. Its called St Marys, in Horam, (any one know it?) but we will look into it next week or so (but its also if we can get him in?!?)

the school have put in lots of things for him, his own desk, a number of quiet places, allow him to sit with class or stay at his desk, mood cards, i do think they are trying ..... but....

he was formally excluded for 2 days, which was why we had the re-integration meeting.... yes - i got VERY annoyed when i read the letter, but you dont really want to p-off the school, DS is targetting ppl now, whereas before he would hit you if you were near, now he will get up and hit you! we have help from COPES, counselling service, and i work fulltime so i get out and see real ppl, but my OH can't really go out and its really hard (i know you all know how that feels!)

Hi all firstly - can i say a big thank you to you all for your replies - it means a lot. i will read them again (normally a few times for it all to sink in lol) we're hoping to get him into a special school for 2 days a week, and mainstream the rest of the time. We are going through statementing currently, i spoke to LIPSEA(?) and they said that one hour a day is really informal exclusion and the school cant do it.... its not fair, like you say, whats him being at home going to achieve, he's entitled to an education and not getting one. i just get so annoyed and frustrated (they first wanted to do a managed move to another mainstream school, but when i pointed out it would be the same they soon backed down) grrrr

gosh they sound horrible... i think its the pack element as well though, people do horrible things when 'egged on' what a nasty piece of work... maybe he should start to charge her for the sandwiches! (or bar her!!)

signed!

Hi all My 7yr old is having problems at school He was diagnosed with asp. a few months ago after many attempts to get appointments with professionals etc... I called the school after talking to IPSEA, who said the school were 'informally excluding him' - here is the letter i got back. "May I affirm to you that xxx is not currently excluded. If a pupil is excluded from school, the parents/carers receive full and formal notification: it is not a procedure which is carried out informally. As a school we are well aware of the legal implications of exclusion Following xxxs misbehaviour on Wednesday 2nd December, I met with the Educational Psycologist, Behaviour Support Consultant and the SENCO to discuss possible next steps. We met with you to share the information, and consult with you, at the reintegration meeting on Monday 7th December. This resulted in the part-time timetable that we drew up at the meeting aiming to: get xxx back into school;maximise xxxfeelings of capability and success; make the best use of any additional support available. I believe it was made clear at the meeting that this was a short-term arrangement until we had the results of xxxs statutory assesment. I am sorry if you feel a little unclear on some points. " if anyone can give me any help/guidance on this it would be gratefully received.