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brilliant news

aww lovely news

they are sending them out around now, just depends where on the list you are, we got ours the end of last week

Hiya Your story is interesting, I joined here as my partner is undergoing assessments for AS and I wanted to find out more information about it, we do not know if he would be fomally dx as he shows traits, but I do not know if they are enough for a dx iyswim. Have gone through his childhood with his mum over the years and he had lots of problems with social skills and school (refusing to go at all in secondary) and more recently some mental health troubles which have ended us up here. Somehow his job (not current one but the one before) caused him most issues, lack of routine and structure being the worst part for him. He too will disengage from his work (the one before that) feels victimised and 'about to be sacked' and jumps ship before the inevitable, meaning the family income has reduced drastically in a very short space of time. To help with the financial problems I have picked up 2 additional jobs (I now have 4) which although brings in something towards the lack of his income (he does work now but very low paid no stress job) means we pass like ships in the night and he has to try and do some household chores for the kids which he cannot do when under pressure, so my 16yr old daughter is really the main carer for her siblings whilst I am working and they are not in daycare (my hours fluctuate anywhere between 24 hour day) The one night my daughter has an activity my partners mum comes and supervises him whilst he supervises the children, her role is back up for those days he cannot cope and to reduce the pressure for him! Think I have gone on a bit of a tangent here but our 4yr old is showing some triaits, originally put down to bad behaviour like your DD and although all my 4 kids are parented the same way she does not accept family ways and rules or appear to even understand family social dynamics. Nursery have just picked up on her lack of social skills (even though I have been asking since last December when they told me she never spoke a word whilst there) and I am taking her to see the GP next month for him to assess my concerns and put any wheels in motion before she transfers to primary in September. I have also arranged a meeting with the primary HT to discuss some concerns I have about the admission procedure in September and how unsettling it will likely be for her (it changes every week for 4 weeks) and what we can do to work together to make the transition easier for her. As others have said getting a formal dx is difficult and I do not know whether DP will get a dx or whether he just sits somewhere on the spectrum with a bunch of traits pointing him there or whether they will tell him it is nothing at all, but for now we have made changes to help him wih routine and structure plus his aggression will not be tolerated (it never was but we are working on ways to help him not get there in the first place with tips from this forum) Sorry for the waffle, but remember you are not alone

Hey I know little about this, but reading this post makes me think there is an element of learned behaviour here? Forgive me if I am wide from the mark but Glen hitting himself got what he wanted and so he has learned to behave like that to get what he wants? Not sure how to break the mould in an older child, but I guess time out etc would work maybe? Good luck with finding solutions to everything and I hope he will go to his respite etc

yay well done you! Were none of the lifeguards attractive?

should take about 2 weeks for a hairline fracture to heal, bigger breaks take longer (3 months) to heal properly even once out of plaster you have to take care for that time.

I think there are mannerisms I tend to notice rather than a specific 'look' not that I have always spotted them or even been right all the time!

oh dear! At least thats another box ticked off the list! Hope the Paed appointment is quick and can help too!

oops read my post and it was a bit double dutch even to me and I typed it haha Pay the difference on the supertramp to the Z17 as the quality is superb on the supertramp, I bought the Z20 in 2001 from a massive 4 month back payment from TC after I split with my older kids dad and it was their treat as such, couldn't strestch to the top of the range supertramp sadly. What is the steel structure on the Z17 compared to the supertramp? my ghuess the ST would be superior as they are a lot heavier, is it also a permatron poly bed too? ST generally use a better quality bed which allows the airflow through with less resistance giving a higher and more controlled bounce Would love to know who that is as I am involved at national level too and I can imagine a few peeps being just like that!

tricky one, I can see why it was suggested, however round here we had a lot of this happening for primary and secondary schools better in one area than another and people were using rellys addys falsey We now have to prove our addy and we as the resident parent have to be on the proof too Not 100% certain but I think it is some sort of offence and can you imagine how awful it would be if it was discovered that you used a different address and they denied a place

Nah the bit 'super' should have given that away :whistle:

We have the next one up from trampolinesGB Z20 and tbh you may as well spend the extra £100 for quality and performance if everything else on the spec is pretty identical it will be they type of bed on it We used to jump on old lorry innertubes from the local car tyre place they kindly pumped them up and we rolled them home

have a look on fleabay, my friend picked up a supertramp (not the top level one the next one down) for £70, she had to pay £150 to transport it down from Scotland, but still very good value as it is immaculate even though 5yrs old We have a Z20, gives a good bounce, but not like an indoor trampoline (btw I teach trampoline and run a competitive club so this is right up my street!)

awwww lovely story there! We have had a huge (full size) trampoline for 10 years now and my 22month old loves it to pieces even though he has his own 'proper sized' one Have fun bouncing with your son!

power of attorney Justine Not sure the legal ins and outs, but I carry a card and am also on the register and I guess once I am not here I will not know what my next of kin could or would override even thought they know my wishes DP will not go on the register he doesn't think it is right but he accepts my wishes

I would have thought yes if they were asked about convictions on their application and lied iyswim, depends on the nature of the job and type of crime committed too There isn't a lower age on CRB checks either as I have had them done for 14yr old helpers at my club

:thumbs: great news

fab news xx

Never thought to suggest HomeStart, they are a fantastic organisation and if you can get help for 2 hours a week it makes such a difference, you cannot leave them with the children, but it could mean you have time to dedicate to something else whict the HS person entertains either all of the children or one or two of them. I had one last year for 8 months originally requested because of my PND and eventually she started when I broke my arm (as they had no trained volunteers the year before) and she just stayed until she got a new placement. DD3 adored her and they would spend 2 hours doing puzzles and drawings whilst I either played with DS or sorted stuff around the house

Just a thought, do you have a dining room? We are in a 3 bed semi (all double bedrooms luckily), but we have converted the dining room into a downstairs bedroom for DD2 and she loves it cos it means she can sneak food from the kitchen when I am not looking haha

good news!

hey hun I am all for sod the housework too DD3 is constantly waking in the night and always has done, so I know how annoying that is, she shares with her 22 month old brother (who she also constantly wakes) as she did share with her 11 yr old sister and that didn't work and she can't really share with her 16 yr old sister as that would be very unfair spesh as she is in the middle of her GCSE's We have decided today to divide up DD3 and DS room so they have a 'room' each, shouldn't cost a lot as we will need 2 door frames a light fitting and the stud partitioning is it possible you can do this? Have you spoken to your GP / HV etc about you sharing with 2 of your children and the reasons why? Surely you should be on the list for a more suiable property (I am assuming you rent) Wish I had a magic solution, but I don't and I have been on my own with my oldest 2 kids and know how hard it is as a single mum big hugs <'>

keep flushing and poke about with the brush, thats what I do lol

hiya DD3 shows similar traits to some of yours above and nursery until recently said there was no problem even though she doesn't speak there (cannot shut her up at home) I have booked a GP appointment to discuss my concerns for next month good luck xx