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  1. Hi there - It's been a while since I've been on here. I was wondering how your appointment went and whether you are any where nearer a diagnosis? Best wishes
  2. Hi, I hope you don't mind, but I read your post out to my wife and she says she completely empathises with you! What does that say about the condition?!? LOL
  3. With psychometric testing, do you have to be unemployed to get this at the job centre? Thanks
  4. Hi, I do hope you don't have to wait too long for the assessment. Although there's some comfort in not knowing either way whether you'll be diagnosed, it's such a relief to get it out of the way. I dare not say how much I paid to get myself diagnosed - quite frankly it does seems quite ironic that you pay a tidy some just to get what has to be not the best news in the world! I'm pretty sure two of my brothers in north Wales have the condition. Good luck.
  5. Thank you, everyone, for all your comments - really helpful indeed. However, when I said I've outed myself, I didn't actually mean that I've made a big declaration at work! I've decided that I'll keep it to myself unless specifically asked, simply that I initiated the process all on my lonesome, and have emerged at the other end with some kind of explanation for all the difficulties I previously experienced. I agree that making a declaration at work can be fraught with problems, and I wouldn't actually want people to make allowances for me. However, I have decided to get out of child protection social work, and to explore other opportunities that would satisfy my need for predictability but also to allow me to use my hugely analytical mind - I really have to get cracking at the job hunting business. On the home front, my wife has kindly told her mother in Essex, so that means that the entire population of that county know about me! I've told my brother in north Wales, and he wasn't surprised - we both agreed that he is Neuro-typical but that maybe my two other brothers have AS. Amongst friends in my own immediate vicinity, my dx shouldn't be an issue. I'm so glad that I've got the dx, there's certainly no going back, but I already find myself swinging from a little anger to a little relief, then some momentary denial. I guess I'll plateau at some point by which time I'll find myself in a better position all-round.
  6. Well, here goes! I was yesterday diagnosed as having AS - what a surprise. . . . . NOT! And I paid a good wack for the privilege of having label attached to me to explain my alternative thought processes! There I was, trundling west on the M4 with my wife, coming back home after the diagnosis, when we cast our minds back to when we were making a similar return journey after Professor Fraser diagnosed our son some thirteen years previously! In all seriousness, though, the diagnoses is hugely significant for me, for it means I can focus what I'm good at, less at what I'm not good at, and I know I can get help/advice to overcome my deficits - if I choose to. I can now come to terms with who and what I am. Diagnosis comes as a great relief, and now I can plan for my future, and become less tense about myself. For all you parents of children with ASD or AS diagnoses, have you thought about whether yourself or your partner/spouse has any symptoms of AS? For all you late diagnosed AS people, how important has the diagnosis been and what difference has it made? Well, I've now 'outed' myself, and I FEEL GREAT about it!"
  7. Following my son's medical, the DWP people have reduced his ESA - now I need to appeal, groan!
  8. ridvan


    Hi and welcome! Perhaps you can give some of your profile in order to work out whether anyone has anything in common with you!
  9. Sorry, the link is: www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php
  10. Hi Why don't you the 'aspie test' at the link that follows - it might give you a better idea as to whether your have AS or not. Best wishes
  11. Thanks for the feedback. I accompanied by asd dxs and the interview this week and it seemed to go quite well. Have to wait now for what the DWP response is!
  12. Hi - I hope the paroxetine works well for you. I'm taking Mirtazapine for anxiety, 50mg, but taking half a tablet per day. Mirtazapine's working really well and I don't feel any anxiety as I did before, but the fatigue, boy, it takes most of the morning the following day to stop feeling tired! Maybe I'll research paroxetine to see what the possible side effects are.
  13. Thanks for the feedback. BTW I found this website to be useful for anyone out there anticipating trundling along to a benefits medica in the near future: http://www.benefitsandwork.co.uk. Not looking forward, to be honest, but I'll give feedback after the appointment with my ds this week.
  14. Hi - I was wondering whether anyone on the forum has experience of attending medicals for Employment Support Allowance or Incapacity Benefit? I am appointee for my son who as ASD. I will be attending his medical next week, and wonder whether I should keep my mouth shut so that the doctor can get a true picture as to my son's difficulties. I had considered using the recorder on my mobile phone to record the interview because I just don't trust these people, like they have any idea of ASD etc. If anyone has any experience as to what I can expect, please would you let me know? Many thanks. Worried Dad in south Wales.
  15. The questions on the online 'Aspie Test' might prompt you to think of some examples from your experience. My wife helped with the Aspie Test and was really forthcoming with examples too!
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