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Beebee

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  1. Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. I think I agree with the general idea, that "getting out" there will have to come from my son himself. Volunteering might be a really good idea to give him some confidence. :0)) I will keep trying to "suggest" things to him and continue to support him and hopefully we might get him out there.! Thanks everyone Bee
  2. Hi everyone. Just wondering if anyone can give me some advice. My son has Aspergers and is 19 years old. He is currently in further education and just finishing his first year on a level 3 I.T course, having already completed the level 2. He is now unsure whether he wants to continue at college and complete the last year. This gives me concern, as although he is now more than old enough to decide what he wants to do, he has little interest in anything else. Over the last eighteen months, we have tried unsuccessfully to motivate him into looking for a part time job but to no avail. I understand that he is uncomfortable in social situations and have tried to 'brief' him in certain situations where he has agreed to hand a C.V into a business but don't really know what else I can do. My worry is that he will give up college and just stay in his bedroom on the computer/xbox all day whilst we are all out at work. We can't seem to get him to understand that he needs to do more to make more of his life but he just says 'why, I'm happy as I am?' Help...!!!
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    1. FaithMclaine

      FaithMclaine

      Hi I have a brother with autism and I am suspected to have asp its so annoying not having any friends very lonely

  4. Hi there and welcome. I'm mum to an almost 19 year old with Aspergers syndrome. Your story resonates with me, as I to suspected from an early age that my son was autistic. Unfortunately his primary and secondary school did not share my views, as they considered him to be "too able". After going to my GP, we were referred to CAMHS who diagnosed him with AS. Our referral and subsequent diagnosis took six months in total. He was 14 by this time due to my having to keep pushing for someone to understand my concerns. Please feel free to message me if you'd like to. I find this is a great place to come for advice and support. Once again - welcome Bee
  5. Hi Andi Welcome..!!! I mum to a 17 yr old with Aspergers and have worked with children with special needs for the last 12 years. I to noticed little things about my son, from an early age and expressed my concerns with the HV and at his primary school. Unfortunately i was told that they had no concerns about my son and so i 'mulled along' for a few more years. It wasnt until he reached his secondary school, that i decided enough was enough and took the matter into my own hands and approached my GP. She referred us to CAMHS, where he received a diagnosis of 'AS' relatively quickly. It is really encouraging that your son's teacher, is now working with you. The IEP is put in place to review your childs progress and as a base to begin the statement process, if needed. You can push for an appointment at your local Child Development Centre/CAMHS via your GP (as i did), or go through the process with your son's school which usually includes an assessment by the Educational Pychologist. This an be a lengthy process. I would definately say go back to your HV and explain your concerns. Keep a diary or log of things your son does and share this with them. Trust your 'gut instinct' and push to get your concerns taken seriously. You and your family know your son better than anyone.! Please feel free to message me if you would like to. Bee
  6. HI Noskcaj86 I have a 17 yr old with aspergers and have also worked with children with special needs for the last 12 years. The things you mention above that your son does, do seem quite typical of ASD behaviour ( imo). You often find that whilst children are 'stimming' that they do zone out and it can be extremely difficult to get any response from them. My own son can be so engrossed in things, that i have to put myself right in front of him before he realises im there.! Walking backwards, tip-toeing and walking with a strange or awkward gait, can all be traits of ASD behaviour. I hope you manage to get some answers and an assessment for your son soon....the best advice i can give you is .....make yourself a nuisance and Push Push Push..lol..! Feel free to message me, if you would like to. Bee
  7. Hi there I agree that some professional help would be a good idea. I too have experienced a similar problem - i have an AS son and a NT daughter and found my son was agressive and physical with his younger sister (by 5 years). He would sqeeze her, grab her by the arm and sometimes the neck and would also be verbally abusive to her. Its a very difficult thing to deal with but i found that i had to help explain to my daughter that if she wanted to touch her brother...hugs or kisses for example, then it would be best if she asked him if that was ok first. As she got older and had more of an understanding, i also explained in basic terms to her that she needed to be careful around her brother as he found things difficult and didnt always understand. Its a tricky one to balance as my daughter in effect had to take on the more 'mature' role of the two but we found it did help.! I have to say, that it was quite hard for my daughter and she often felt as though she hd to compromise a lot for her brother. I hope that you get some support and help soon. Bee
  8. Hi and welcome.! Im mum to two lovely children -'J ' my son, who was diagnosed with aspergers in July 2010 aged 15 years old and 'C' my daughter who is 11 years old. The forum is a great place to be, to seek advice if needed or just for support from people in the same circumstances as yourself.! Bee :0))
  9. Awww bless you Sally... What made that teacher think that shouting at a distressed child, was ever a good idea.??? I work in a Primary school and have to agree with others on here, that (in my past experience) some teachers really need to be enlightened on how to work with and help children with ASD...!!! Bee
  10. Hi and welcome...!!! Bee
  11. Beebee

    Hello

    Hi and welcome..!!
  12. Hi I found your post really interesting as for some time i have wondered about the connection between ASD and 'double jointed thumbs' in particular.?! From a professional point of view, the last three Autistic children i have worked with, have all had double jointed thumbs - the last child's being quite noticeable.!! From a parent's point of view, my own son (Dx AS), had also previously been diagnosed with 'double jointed hips, knees and ankles' and until this time i had not really connected the two things. From everyone's post it would seem that it is most likely down to 'hypermobility'. This is interesting to note as it does help to know this, when it comes down to teaching pencil control and the reason's as to why some autistic childen struggle with their pencil grip and handwriting.! Bee
  13. Beebee

    Hi

    Hi Louise Im mum to two great kids, J aged 16 diagnosed with AS last July and C, NT aged almost 11. Here is a really good place to come for advice and support.! Feel free to message me if you would like to. Welcome..!! Bee
  14. Hi Julie and welcome. Pre-diagnosis is a very difficult time and can seem overwhelming. I have two children myself, my eldest who is nearly 17 has Asperger's, so i can empathise with you. I remember clearly many years ago, where i thought that maybe my son was on the 'Spectrum' but i too was repeatedly told that he was young and probably just immature.!! It is very positive that your son's school are 'setting the wheels in motion' and they will presumably organise for him to be assessed and then along with other professionals - start the ball rolling to get him an official diagnosis. This should then allow for a 'Statement of Special Need's and then funding for one - to - one support within school. Obviously this can be a very long process but take some comfort from the fact that you have a helpful school/SENCO - which in my personal experience is definately half the battle. Apart from having personal experience with my son, who i have to say is an articulate, kind young man (who im very proud of) i also work with children with Special Needs - specialising in Autism...so if there's any advice or help i can offer - or simply a listening ear then please feel free to message me. Were only in Northampton, so quite close to you - MK..? Bee
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