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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Maintaining longterm friendships

    Did you contact her after this? It may be that she hasn't contacted you because she hasn't heard from you and may think you don't want to meet up. In friendships where i have usually been the one making arrangements, i do sometimes wonder if that person wants to be friends with me. Maybe you could contact her and suggest making arrangements to do something else?
  2. Thankyou Darkshine!! at last someone has said exactly what ive been thinking! Iv actually been put off from writing anything at all on this forum because of his attitude. I think he has more serious issues than most people on here, especially with women!
  3. How do I change my on screen location?

    it is pretty confusing! i wouldn't have thought it would be obvious to anyone.
  4. How do I change my on screen location?

    I was confused about this at first too. It doesn't mean that is where you live, i think it represents how long you've been a member. eg...norfolk broads is for new members and more experienced members have different names. x
  5. People taking advantage

    These people sound awful! There are certain people out there who will take advantage of anyone they can, i'm afraid. I personally would never ask anyone to take out a phone contract for me. It isn't something that anyone really 'needs' and if i couldn't get one myself i'd get a pay-as-you-go phone. People like this make me angry too. Try not to push you're other friends away though. Do they know about what has happened? There are a lot of good people out there too so i'm sure you have good friends who value your friendship.
  6. confused

    Thank you, this makes so much sense. I do tend to think about how i say things such as being specific about things but i never thought about changing language in the way you suggest. I'll definately try it. It does take a while to get used to, i still sometimes forget. I do sometimes find him difficult to read, even though i find him so easy to get on with and talk to. I try to avoid subjects he doesn't like though as i don't see the point in stressing him but otherwise i don't see his AS as a negative at all, in fact usually the opposite. Congratulations to you and your wife on 29 years of marriage by the way! That doesn't seem to happen much anymore!
  7. 21 TODAY!!! LOL XXX AHHHH....

    Happy belated Birthday!! It sounds like you had a good day and have lots of good friends and family. The open house idea sounds really good too! x
  8. confused

    This is the way i would find much easier too! He seems to be the opposite though and is more open and direct when we're together.
  9. confused

    I think you're right, as he does seem to avoid any conversations about how he feels, not only about me but about anything. Lately i've been avoiding mentioning certain things so we just enjoy each others company again without the two of us both ending up stressed. I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do but it's definately the easiest!
  10. confused

    Thanks Jannih, i think you posted while i was typing my last one. It always takes me quite a long time to trust someone so i never really rush into anything. I've had a couple of boyfriends before who i think have just got fed up of waiting and moved on so maybe thats happened again.
  11. confused

    thanks for the advice guys. I've tried talking to him about it a couple of times but he just won't discuss it. I don't think there's much more i can do than just be his friend and see what happens. Like you said Bid, if he liked me he'd let me know. Its just so confusing as he gives such mixed signals. I'll probably get one of the books that Smiley sent a link for too. Even if he has no interest in me, i'm sure it will still be good for our friendship. Thanks again
  12. confused

    Hi, I'm not sure if anyone can help with this as i know Asperger's affects everyone in different ways, but i'd be really grateful for any advice. I'm in love with a guy who has asperger's and would love to be with him but he seems to hate talking about anything "emotional". He seemed to really like me to begin with, but as we got closer, he just seems to retreat more! The problem is, i have no idea if this is because of his asperger's or that he simply just isn't attracted to me anymore. I can't just ask him as it isn't something that he'll talk about at all. I don't want to be with anyone else other than him and don't want to give up on him, but if he just isn't interested in me anymore i know i'll have to at some point. Is there any way i can figure out what he wants?