lotty

thankyou, there just keeps being these things at school and i dont know what to do. i feel like im starting to overeact

It was the head taking the kids?

my 9 year old aspie was at school today, it was very hot today. he had drunk his drink i gave him at lunch, after afternoon break he told the teacher he really needed a drink, he was sweating she said no,,when i picked him up he cried all the way home. what do you think. should i be supplying loads of bottles or should she say yes. hmm peed off

it hasnt affected mine either

You have to tell them, phone them and tell them how long your child has been getting it, they make back date it, only by 3 months though, they gave me an address to write to to see if i could backdate it further as i told them about my son along time ago. do it now

I am probably the last to know this but I thought I would mention it anyway. That if your child gets the higher care component in there DLA, that means you get awarded much more child tax credit. They are going to backdate mine as I had no idea about this.

you are right, i have all the above beging with 'd' and i failed misserably there, i have spent the last five years at uni getting somewhere now with lots of support, i feel like i have redone the whole of the seniors, only in my favourite subjects

my son is 9, he smells everything, and people.always has, if he doesnt like the smell of someone he will tell them

my eldest has a statement and that means a teacher for him, this was the headmistress that was being horrible, there seems to be five teachers in the juniors and the head teaches aswell. the teachers in juniors are part time- i feel i am going to have to go in at lunch times because noone will check my sn has eaten his dinner. the boys used to go to a large school in manchester, they seemed able to report what where and when they did anything which was great, my brother is a junior scool teacher in london at a school with 60 percent special needs. i was going to do teacher training in sept to teach juniors, but with my whole family having special needs i am going to concentrate on them.. when there grown up tho i want to teach and would love to be senco..

we live in rural cheshire, yet to find a clued up school. we lived in south manchester and they were on the ball totaly, but the area is not rural and pricey?

hello teacher, my kids school has 24 kids in the whole school, thats about 14 in the whole juniors, they really shouldnt be that stressed

my 9 year old goes to bed at 9pm, i have to go in at 9.30, then 10, then 10.20 for a warning, then 11pm tuck him in. he doses of then or between 11.30 and 12,he gets up at 6.30 my middle one 8, goes to bed at 8.15, asleep by 9, but then up at 11, 1, 2.30, 4 sleepwalkig, i have to take him to the loo twice, etc.he cant get up in the morning. then a 1 year old, who still feeds in the night....so night times quite busy really and me i am nackered

nobody gets it, family, close friends.i have given up on talking about it. even when people ask they dont want to understand. so i just dont talk about it

Why are teachers so incapable, I cant understand. one of my boys today is very clumsy and is being assesed( i you are probably aware) and i have said before how they wont make sure he eats at lunch time, and today he got shouted at because he went to pick up a map from a pile as asked and he knocked them over, so he picked them up and he got screamed at, even though he picked them up. why could she not have said, thankyou for picking tem up. I hate the way kids at school only get told off and not rewarded for doing things right..i know its only a small thing but i am getting really irratated especially since there part they played in his refusal for dla.. we have been considering home education for 2 years now. i dont know wether i will mage to keep them in until the end of the year

I phoned the dla today for an explanation of refusal, they said it was because of the information from school. i was shocked by what they had written and explained that my application was based on night time care, personal care. how could the school be so unhelpful. my son wont eat at school and its driving me mad i dont know how to make him eat at school. the headmistress said he doesnt need any extra supervision, there are only 24 in the whole school, thats the infants and juniors.. how can they not notice these things, especially when i have told them my worries. anyway they will look at the claim again based on the information i gave them today..

in that box i used my mum, on the form it says give the name of there school and teacher, so i did, i had no idea they would write to them as i told dla that accademically he was fine, no statement etc but they contacted them anyway?

my kids spend hours on this http://www.planetdan.net/pics/misc/georgie.htm You can wiggle him about, by pulling him with the mouse

oh dear, sounds familier, one of mine is being assesed, everyone thinks hes fine, but i am exhausted, school says hes fine and family...they dont have to get up lots of times a night with him and battle with the food and the mutism and the refusal to do anything, and the destroying of things etc. i dont think he is AS like the eldest. but i know how you feel. i had the video camera on him secretly yesterday aswell. <'>

hello, when my son was 4/5 he was the same, he would only have one drink a day, and was very fussy hardly eating or speaking. to cut a long story short (he was very underweight) It suddenly dawned on me that his teacher didnt like him, although he liked school (the routine) I then decided to change schools and found a small one with a teacher who used to teach autistic kids.. the school ate good dinners there and suddenly he would eat anything, and he started talking, he is now 9 and still putting on weight and quite big really. I found that it was school and schooldinners making him be fussy, like if everyone around him was eating well then he did, the better the food the more able he became.. do i make any sense. recentley the dinner lady changed and he was regressing, i have now put him on pack lunches so i know hes not eating rubbish as for my middle one who is not as. he wont eat either and i am battling with that at the moment

why should he not stim? if he wants to and hes not allowed then that is suppressing his feelings isnt it(im dyslexic so that might be the wrong word) my son stims and one tics and husband stims...unless a child is in danger, or endangering someone else, i would allow the stim. thats what i think.

Hi, I have posted on the DLA topic but it seems quite general over there. My eldest has aspergers and was quickly awarded higher rate care DLA. my middle son is much harder to look after, incontinence, selective mutism, sleep walking night time weeing, behavioural problems and you know what i mean yhe list goes on, as i put on my other post i applied for dla for him and he was refused on the grounds of no incontinence and no night time care? they were my very reasons for applying as i am like a zombie through never ever slepping for a night. Now I dont know what to do, some people say they phoned them and got it sorted, some appeal, or can you just send another form, with more evidence in? I do blame the school as the dla wrote to them and they sent a letter back stating he was absolutley fine. I wouldnt mind but when i try to speak to the school they dont have time to listen. All I want to know is the easiest way to reaply. like the reason of his refusal was not right as he has all the things they said he doesnt....HELP

i am 31 and i cannot recognise anyone unless i see them where i would expect to see them,, i also have no idea how people recognise me, i dont know why, i was thinking perhaps your son is a bit like that and maybe everyone he sees is a surprise, and maybe if you ignore him telling you he might feel you have no interest in what he says.

both kids being assesed this week, and partner and moving house and my exams at uni its my final year andits the holidays and my cars broken down. i feel like a nervous wreck

yes i think your right, the school let me down i think because accademically he is fine, his dad has bipolar. its not that i am bothered about the money, its that they think he ok..i will wait a bit i have an assesment with social services coming up they might be able to help.thankyou x

my middle childs aplication was refused on the grounds that he should have sleep problems and incontinence problems....I applied because he had these problems. they had contacted school and school had told them he is fine and has no difficulties. my eldest gets higher dla, with aspergers, but my middle is being assessed now, possibly bipolar. he is much more difficult and complicated than my eldest so i am confused. i dont want to go to a tribunal do you think that when he gets his dignosis i could apply again??? i need someones opinion please