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Hi Robert I'll post the info later but this is a huge coincidence because I was going to post info about my life coach on here today...how weird to see that you've asked about life coaches today! Her name is Melanie Holland. Her website is called Life by Design. She is absolutely inspirational....well that was my experience anyway! Although her office is in Devon, she also life coaches via her website. I thoroughly recommend. She was a social worker for most of her career, but got fed up with red tape stopping her from being able to help people in constructive ways....she's an `outside the box` thinker, with a genuine desire to help people, and an amazing natural ability to understand people. Life coaching is the one thing i've tried as therapy which actually worked for me. It changed the patterns of thinking and helped me to let go of old habits...I also hoped it would help me train my husband to be tidy...but although she's very good, she can't work miracles! http://www.lifebydes...k/About-Us.html Oh I just realised this is an old thread...sorry was trying to rush...hope this helps anyway.

I will step forward and say that I am a control freak. I have daily records of my child's life from the day she was born. I write down everything she eats, whether it is organic, and every ingredient used to make her meals, what juices she drinks, how much water, how much milk, her naps and sleeping patterns, any illnesses, teeth coming through, and I also note every activity she does, morning and night to make sure she's having a nice variation and it stops me getting lazy with the days. I record all new development according to the developmental stepping stones I was trained in. Never got to grips with the foundation stage! I plan her meals in advance to make sure she's getting a rounded diet including all the variations of nutrition and colour of foods and research endlessly about keeping her immune system strong through diet. I control my husband to a certain extent, even though it always appears that he's the one in control, i'm kind of the back seat driver. In public i'm pretty useless sometimes so i rely on him to achieve the things i cannot do, which requires a certain amount of control although i don't always know i'm doing it. I think in a lot of detail, my mind is always busy. I'm not always successful at controlling things in my life but i give it a damn good try! It's just the way I am. It's a way of keeping negative issues at bay. For example, with my daughter, i like having physical records of things because when my mind starts turning on me, making me think i'm not a good enough parent, I have my records to prove to myself that i've done everything i can from the start...things like that.

I don't drink at all. Hate the way it makes me feel....oh actually that's a lie, when occasionally my insomnia gets out of hand, i will drink to get to sleep if i feel it's necessary...but that's rare. Other than that I find I have no need for it. My chap loves beer tho...he says there's nothing like a cold beer after a hard day.

Wow! Lyndalou, the first part of your intro was very funny! Reminds me of my own life! And Matzoball, I too am made to watch horror movies by my man and had the same problem with paranormal activity. It's my birthday on Wednesday, i'll be 33. Was diagnosed with aspergers beginning of last year. I've also had a lot of different jobs. From cleaning, bar work and working on the north sea ferries, to nannying, and childcare/SENco jobs. Also was a wedding photographer for a while. Trained in childcare, fine art, photography, and holistic massage and Reiki. I have a husband and a one year old daughter....my life feels good now most of the time, but hasn't always been that way. Been lots of downs, as with everybody, but now mostly ups!

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Robert, when YOU want to find the rules of the site, what do you do and how easy do you find it to locate them? Do you think they should be more visible/easier/quicker to access?

That's a really good idea A-S. Hugs to Smiley!

I'm not a child obviously, but i was diagnosed by referral from my G.P. Would you legally need to let her school be involved if you were to do this?

Em, I'll try to explain it. It's just that the trauma in some babies resulting from encephalitis can look extremely similar to the trauma caused by shaking a baby. There have been parents accused of abuse/murdering their child who have fought to prove that it happened directly after vaccination rather than as a result of abuse. It's a set of explainable circumstances in a lot of cases. I.e often if post mortem finds that the baby also has broken ribs, it builds the case against the parents but actually, it's often a result of paramedics trying to revive the baby.

Isn't there a breed which doesn't bark? I can't remember where i was reading about it...but I remember reading that it's the breed which is closest to the original wolf.....I think they still howl though. It seems barking only evolved in the domestic dogs we see today as an attempt on their part to communicate with humans.

Any chance of seeing some of your pics Robert? SmileyK that's a lot of snow! Makes your garden look really pretty! Ah now i feel all christmasy...weird!

Well yea...it's just a way of making sense of the world. It may not be a perfect strategy, but it works.

oh did u get sum good pics?

Smiley, you may not be considered "normal" by some people's standards, but you're certainly NOT a hopeless case hun! Your posts show that you have a lot of insight and have much to offer. If everyone was just like us, i recon we'd be considered perfectly normal!!! But like Sa said, what is normal? No one, even NT people are alike. We just live in a world which seems to be obsessed with putting things in boxes. -With categorizing every little thing in an effort to make sense of a very chaotic environment perhaps.

Yes that sounds likely

I call it `blank out` not black out....because i do the staring thing too. I blank out when in a stressful or tiring situation just like smiley. I might be thinking, or i might just be...blank....empty, much like my meditations, but it's not usually an intentional thing. It's a coping strategy i think. So anyway...the eye thing. Is it our eyes, or do we have a certain intense kind of energy....? Personally, i can tell when people are psychic for example, because they actually have a lot of fuzziness in the eye area and they also tend to have very intense, almost feline looking eyes. (When i say fuzziness, i mean that i can see the energy over and surrounding their eyes. I used to be able to see auras and this is the one part of the ability which i have seemed to retain).

Wasn't able to view the pictures Smiley

Hello! Welcome! We sound like very similar parents...and both have aspergers. I also live in Plymouth, so not too far away from you. Your boy sounds like a lucky lad!

Hi Sa i've seen this before....I wander if there's anything in it? Do you feel you have `aspie eyes?`Mine are a bit too big for my head. People have said in the past that there's something about me that freaks them out as if i know more about them than i should....and usually it comes back to the intense eye thing.

Yeah, like Sa Skimrande, i live in the west country, obviously not far from him as he mentioned dartmoor....and we don't get snow here very often, at least not the kind of snow that stops you in your tracks! If i see any, i get excited but the ground is always so wet that it rarely settles.

Ahhh I see. Not sure how i missed this! Like most areas of my life, either I know A LOT about something, or ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

Free as a bird! Oh my gosh what brilliant comments! What a great read. Thanks for this one Sa, couldn't reply sooner as...well...baby stuff, teething, up all night....and i needed time to think through my response, not that i have a lot of time now either....anyway. Justine1 hit the nail on the head for me: And Suze with: Cus i've been guilty of using the word "Normal" to generalize when a better word might have been the "Majority".....I really mean no offense, and never thought about my use of particular words and how it might be interpreted by others. Really interesting. Is the fault ours for not being able to find the right words to use, or is the fault language itself, which hasn't provided us with enough alternatives/more suitable words to use....? I guess this is why slang takes off....where there's a gap in the `language market` for a new word that needs to be filled, some teenager or bubble-head off a tv programme decides to invent one! Sa, I just wish I could sit down with you and talk/listen for hours and hours! (And that's odd for me because usually I don't like talking to people very much at all!) I agree that there's obviously no real meaning behind the word `normal` and that it is often used as an insult...I've had that all my life too. But what i find most interesting is your view of "The majority" which is purely an observation, not an intended as an insult and it is the same observation i have made during my lifetime also. I've just never heard anyone else say it. P.s This takes me back to the whole spiritual obsession stuff that i've explained before, only in the way that the more i learned about the silence and stillness at the centre of all things, the less able i became to explain it. Words can be inadequate in a lot of ways. I look forward to the future when we all speak telepathically, bring back self sustaining techniques, and ride around on hoverboards.....(Well that's the future i'd like but i don't think it's the one we'll be getting!)