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I have lent my sister a couple of books and we have both had some little comments about how her daughter is, but they have been more jokey than serious. I have said to her, and her to me, that her daughter is a lot like me as a child. Maybe I do need to try a different tack, or just be watchful over time. I think my sister has so much on her plate that she doesn't have time to take this onboard unless it jumps up and bites her on the bum If her daughter is anything like me it won't happen it will just slow burn over time KW

To be honest her dad shows signs himself - he is a sock seam freak, and drove my sister mad until she had her daughter and found that it wasn't just socks. He is very controlling but in lots of very surreptitious ways. He is outwardly bubbly and fun loving, but says some very inappropriate things and doesn't seem to have regard for others feelings. He is very worried about what people think of him, but presents outwardly as someone who is very laid back. He had a breakdown when my sister had her daughter. Their relationship is so bad that they no longer sleep in the same room and my sister asked him to leave last year, but relented as she felt sorry for him. My niece is like me in lots of ways (although I have never been highly sociable and she is) and I am sure that I would have been diagnosed with Asperger's as a child. I have lots of things that stress me and I avoid lots of things - those are 37 years of coping mechanisms I think I am worried that if she does have Asperger's she will be a very unhappy girl when she grows. From my experience I hit the age of 8 (became more self aware) and suddenly was not a happy bunny for no apparent reason - thought it was my family life, but my brother and sisters didn't seem to be affected. Have spent most of my life feeling odd and outside, and have been depressed since childhood. Think maybe there was more to the fact that I was in a dream world as a child and was late to speak. Would hate for her to go through that sort of thing too So busy waffling forgot to answer your question about school - there have been a few times when the school have commented on her dislike of being told what to do, the refusal to hold someone's hand and other issues. On the whole the school have not really said too much to my sister, and my sister's reaction when they have has been very much that they just dislike her child. She has stood up for her child and lied too. When out on a field trip her daughter refused to hold the CT's hand so in the end the CT took her hand. Her daughter immediately said "you are hurting me!!". This then made the CT call in my sister to clarify the matter and ask whether she ever reacted this way at home - my sister said no, only if she is genuinely hurt (not true!!) as she felt that they only called her in as they thought she may take action against the school for hurting her child. Probably just looking for things that aren't there KW

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She has jokingly said a few times that there may be something there - but I don't think she would accept it - certainly not when her overbearing other half is around. The reason I asked on here is that she doesn't know about this board and I didn't want her reading this and getting upset/angry KW

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Hi, I have not been on this board for a while and would like some opinions on something. I have a niece who is 5 and she is in the same class at school as my son. My son is high functioning ASD, and to anyone who knows what to look for it is quite clear. To anyone else he would be 'naughty' and all the usual misleading ideas that people have. My niece and he have always fought. They ask for each other but cannot last very long in each others company. As they are in the same class and I live next door to my sister they see a lot of each other. My niece has never slept well (unlike my son) she still doesn't spend most nights in her own bed and often doesn't do a full night there when she does. She was very quick to talk and has always been extremely bossy and talks to adults like she is on the same level (parents, teachers). She is sociable, but from what I have observed it is okay as long as she is in control, but she is not too keen when she is not and has been known to throw massive wobblers over stuff like that. She wanted to be picked up and held constantly as a baby then would want to be put down again. She wouldn't go in her buggy from early on and wanted to walk, but refused to hold hands. She has major issues with clothing and seams/labels/shoes. She is very single minded and dogged when she has something she wants to do or have. She thought nothing of going out if she wanted to. She has escaped the house through a window with my sisters car keys and started the car. She did it again and put her car seat in the drivers seat too!! The house was on lockdown for ages and they had relaxed a little when the car seat incident took place She always wants what you have and keeps on and on until you relent or her mother intervenes - yes I know all kids do that to an extent but she is relentless. Does this sound like she may have Asperger's - what should I be looking for in a girl with Asperger's? Sometimes I think that she may be and other times I think she is just NT if a little extreme at times Lollypocket.

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Hi, when my son was given his dx in August this year he attended the appointment in his Superman suit. This was mainly as we were late already and it wasn't worth the hassle to get him into 'civvies'. I think it is fine personally - I have taken him to the GP as Spiderman and to McDonalds too. He is happy and is blissfully unaware that anyone should think it odd. I think I may find it a little harder when he is 18, but maybe he won't be quite so keen on it then I don't think it is harmful and personally I know lots of people who take their kids to school in pyjamas. Better they are at school and incorrectly dressed, than not attending IMO. I had a very similar conversation at a course I attended last Friday. A mother told me that her son had gone to school in his pyjamas as he was creating and making getting dressed difficult. I explained that I once drove my son half way to school naked wrapped in a blanket as he refused to get dressed. He decided half way there that it may be a good idea to get dressed, and funnily enough never did that again KW

Best of luck - will look in to see how you get on KW

Pingu I agree that you need to get someone else on your side. It is so ###### tiring fighting non-stop. You have to keep on doing it, but you don't have to be alone. PP are sometimes good. I assume you have applied for Statutory Assessment yourself already? I am in the process of trying to get the ball rolling on a school based application, after our personal application was turned down in the summer. I think it is very hard to not appear difficult as a parent in this situation. I feel I am guilty of letting too much go by before taking a stand on stuff, but everyone tells me to pick my battles. You sound like I did about a month ago - when I was ready to get in the car after two bottles of wine and drive off Please keep plugging at it for your son's sake. I don't know enough about the whole story to really pass comment, but you sound like you are desperate to do the best for your son, and you are being confronted by some very ignorant people. Your worries are not feeble - they are just individual to you and your son and as such you may think they appear less valid to others. I am not sure I have made a great deal of sense either, but the general meaning of my post is DON'T GIVE UP!! KW

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I have had to do it once. I had to collect my Son early on Friday as they had a Harvest Lunch that they felt he would not cope with. I actually agreed that he wouldn't cope. What I didn't like was the fact that everyone excpet me got a letter about the lunch the week before. I was told on the tuesday about it, but let it be known that I already knew as my Sister has her daughter in the same class!! I agreed with them but was pretty pissed that they didn't give me the same treatment as the other parents. KW

Hope you manage to enjoy yourself I always find that holidays with family are really fraught - you haven't lived with them for years (if at all with the in-laws) and you now have your own style of being. It seldom fits in with someone else and causes so many problems. Funnily, I find with friends it is easier to tell them where to get off if they annoy you!! Try to enjoy KW