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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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    Doctor Who; nature, cricket, astronomy, science, poetry, Green Lantern; books, science fiction; linguistics, politics, history to name but a few!
  1. Job Seeking & Prejudice

    Thanks guys, I am wondering though - if you don't disclose before you get a job, only afterwards could you be in breach of contract? The latest application form I filled in said that they would terminate employment if anything was filled in untruthfully.
  2. Job Seeking & Prejudice

    Such obvious stereotyping/prejudice. Too many people assume all those with ASDs are like Rain Man.
  3. Job Seeking & Prejudice

    That's exactly the response I've come across. It can be so upsetting, I'm sorry the bigots treated you like that.
  4. Job Seeking & Prejudice

    Just had a callback from a corner shop job I applied for. Manageress enquired about the disability I put on the application form. On telling her that I'm autistic she said "That could be a problem" and that I might not be able to do the job. She's thinking about it and will let me know if she wants me to come in for an interview. Is this fair? My references are excellent and I haven't even had an interview yet, but it seems she may have already made her mind up based on my disability.
  5. Hi, For the last few months I have been looking for part-time work to fit around an upcoming Uni course. I have taken the decision to tell any prospective employers that I have Asperger's Syndrome, because at my last job I didn't (because I hadn't been diagnosed then) and, long story short, I had to quit because of the stain the job put on me. I worked at a petrol filling station and, to be fair, the boss wasn't very good - but what also stressed me out was dealing with customers that I found difficult to read and understand as they often did silly, illogical things that often confused me. Right, that's enough context - what I am wondering is does anyone have an experience where they feel that they have been turned down for a job because of an ASD? I'm quite sure that my last boss wouldn't have employed me had she known I was autistic, as I think she wasn't intelligent enough to realise that it doesn't mean that you're a loony. I know that since the Equalities Act (2010) stipulated Asperger's Syndrome as an official disability that it is illegal for an employer to discriminate against someone with an ASD. However it can be covered up with excuses like "you're just not quite the candidate we're looking for" or what I seem to get: "the vacancy's been filled". It's hard enough that I struggle with Asperger's without bigoted middle managers scuppering my employment chances. Any shared experiences gratefully accepted. -Skaro7
  6. Does autism exist in the animal kingdom?

    I think that social animals such as: dogs, pigs and apes could show signs of autism. It would be hard to tell if more solitary animals get autism because it is mostly observable in interaction with the rest of the world.
  7. Fitting in at Uni

    Hi, I'm starting a masters degree in English Literature this year and I'm in a bit of a dilemma regarding when, if at all, I tell fellow students that I have pretty strong Asperger's Syndrome. Whilst I am a very emotional person, I don't express it very well at all, so when I did my first degree I suspect that I missed out on making friends and socialising because maybe I gave the impression that I wasn't interested. I was wondering if any of you out there have been in a similar situation and could share what happened. At the moment my plan is to tell my peers that I have AS because, even though I didn't know I had AS when I did my first degree, I didn't share it with anyone and it didn't end up very well. Looking forward to hearing your thoughts. - Skaro7
  8. Hi, Just wanting to gauge some opinion on talking to yourself, or talking/thinking out loud. All my life I've spoken to myself. I don't hear voices so I'm very aware that it's me I'm talking to. I'm not 100% sure that it is a trait that is more common with those who have Asperger's Syndrome like I have, as I'm no expert and have only been diagnosed in the last few months. I'm wondering if it is indirectly related to my AS because, though having no regular contact with actual friends I've resorted to having conversations by myself to fulfil an unmet social need. I would describe how I talk to myself more as thinking out loud as it does help me to focus on thing sometimes. It just worried me that my Mum heard me doing it a few weeks ago and said that I should avoid doing it in case anyone hears me and thinks that I'm crazy. I can understand where she's coming from as strangers can be very judgemental with little or no info on you as a person. However, I wonder if it's something that every one, including those without ASDs, does from time to time. Chances are, as I haven't disclosed my AS to many people, most of my family all think I'm bonkers anyway. Cheers! - Skaro7
  9. Is this aspergers??

    When I was diagnosed, albeit twenty years too late, a good test was when the Dr asked me to imagine a perfect happy place. I couldn't do it, I could only remember happy places I'd been to before and picture them in my mind. This is because AS affects the social imagination. Because there were no guidelines or boundaries put on what I could imagine my pedantic AS brain couldn't do it. Also, what helped was when I was asked what I would do if I was in a room with an upset person. People with AS tend to do practical things to fix the problem like make tea or say positive things. They want to comfort the person but they lack the social ability to do so effectively.
  10. That is a major bugbear for me too. Especially when shop signs and websites use apostrophes incorrectly and people use wrong homophones like 'there' when they mean 'they're' or 'their'. The only thing that annoys me more is when I tell someone and they just think "Who cares?". *fume*
  11. I often take things to heart when I shouldn't. I usually do this with people I don't know very well because if it's my parents or my sister I have known them a long time. So when it happens with them I can tell myself that they sometimes say things that they don't mean, and remind myself of the last time they did it. The problem with AS is trying to accept that others can make no sense at all at times. I think it's best not to try to understand why they do this, but just to accept that this happens. Just like they must accept the various baffling things we may do as a part of our AS, even though they'll never truly understand our point of view.
  12. Just Joined

    Thanks for all your kind words chaps and chapettes. I look forward to sharing and discussing with you all in the not too distant future.
  13. Anyone do this?

    All the Time! I did it yesterday.
  14. Hi All, Ever since I was diagnosed a few weeks ago I've been thinking: is it best to tell all of your friends and family about your ASD or should it be kept to yourself? I can't decide. On the one hand I hope that by telling everyone I know that I have Asperger's syndrome it will help them to understand me more and that I've acted strangely, and sometimes upset people because I have a condition that I was born with and cannot change. Not because I'm a self-centered prat who doesn't care about their feelings. However, I worry that most will just think that telling them that I've got AS is an admission of insanity, which of course it isn't, and they would start treating me like I'm mentally retarded - or even worse they might just avoid me all together. A fair few of the people I know, I fear, are old fashioned like that. So, I'm hoping to gauge some opinion as to what others may do, or have done, in similar circumstances. Cheers, - Bob
  15. Just Joined

    I got mine the other day - you won't be disappointed. :-)