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Sorry, can't help with on-line dating But it took me a long time to find love and I'm married to an NT wife who is also my best friend and soulmate. She understands me. Do you have any interests worth sharing?

Advice regarding the flu is pretty bog standard. Rest and fluids. Your body is run down so give it the rest it deserves

Hi thanks for replies. Yes I think Titan nails it in that having to compete in an NT world takes more effort and is more stressful to an AS person; also perhaps as I'm getting older, the tiredness is affecting me more. Oxgirl. Nothing has changed in the last few months, my hours are still as long as they were 1yr, 2yr, 4yrs ago etc and I cannot afford to reduce them (mortgage, family etc etc...). Half of me wants to/has to "act" as an NT to get on in this world whilst the other half of me feels "why should I...why can't society just accept me for who/what I am?" Clearly, being an Aspie is exhausting (for me...)

For the past few months, I feel exhausted all the time and wondered if I had diabetes or chronic fatigue syndrome. I ruled out diabetes (HbA1c normal) and am sure I don't have anaemia and hypothyroidism. I work very long hours in a stressful job. I was listening to a video where somebody mentioned being an Aspie often means playing an acting game. I have to act to function in a neurotypical world. This must be exhausting and therefore contributing to my constant tiredness and lethargy. Any thoughts/comments on whether there is some truth to this or am I barking up the wrong tree?

I am anxious in social situations, particularly with people I don't know. I have been known to walk out during a panic attack

Passing her on to somebody else would not go down well and would do her an injustice. We have a professional rapport which would be destroyed if I passed her on; this would deeply upset her and as I am the most senior person, passing her down to a junior would be insulting to her. And if I were her, I would not appreciate this either. Anyway, for most visits, her partner comes with her but prefers to wait outside. I think for both of us, but especially me, having this texting contact is fun, it's really quite innocent in the grand scheme of things and from what I glean from her, she is a genuinely nice person.

She is my client. Thankfully I did not text her over the weekend because she texted me today on a different phone to say her partner had borrowed hers. Thank goodness for intuition ! But after she texted me, she texted me again and from I got from this text was that she either wanted to be extra careful or cool things down a bit. I am perfectly happy with that.

Sally I see this lady occasionally as a client and I always act professionally towards her at work. but we are on first name terms, greet each other with a hug/kiss etc which I/we put down to just being friendly. I don't have a problem with that as that is what many people do and I don't see her outside of a work environment. I can't make friends easily, nor do social small-talk and have always been a social outcast as a result. But without interaction, how does one learn? I am pleased that this lady wants to be friends with me but what I am concerned about is if I upset her in any way, I do not know whether or not she will turn nasty. I do not know any stories or background about her. She comes across as very genuine and friendly but can be very flirty at times with her text speak.

Thanks Tim, this is exactly what I'm doing - seeing how things develop. I am happy to have her as a friend but I hear of stories where things like this go sour if she doesn't get what she wants (i.e. sending nasty texts/emails etc or turning up at place of work). At the moment it's all a bit of harmless fun (hopefully I think...) and personally, I just think there is something in her personal life/marriage that is making her unhappy. Perhaps she is "playing away" to get her OH jealous - who knows?

Good morning I know a really nice woman (whom I see professionally sometimes) who lives with her partner. Recently we have been exchanging texts which I do out of politeness and being friendly. However her texts are now becoming a little bit personal. I wonder if she is unhappy with her man/life. It's a bit awkward as she knows where I work but also me having AS with no friends, I am not sure as to where friendliness stops and inappropriate behaviour begins. Of course I want to be nice and friendly to people and despite getting dirty looks from many (it must be obvious I have AS !) I rather feel quite flattered that I am getting attention (from another woman). Any advice?

+1 on many of the above In addition to these, for me especially is attachment. Attachment to certain objects, photos and the opposite sex. Because of lack of social skills, if a person of the opposite sex gets into friendly chit-chat, I do my best to reciprocate but want to "hold on" to that person and be friends. I may not always know if this is inappropriate

Is this stimming? I drum my fingers all the time which kinda relaxes me. Also I grind my teeth in the night but obviously have no control over this

Well if you are relying on wiki or any ".gov" websites for your information, then I rest my case...

Please point me to this evidence. I don't work in homeopathy so can't comment on their studies But I do know many of the scientific peer-reviewed studies are funded by Big Pharma Anyway, this is way off topic so apologies to the original poster

Seeto200 I noticed your comments from another thread. The feature in The Guardian (if true) highlights just how irresponsible these protests are. Some of these people might do severe harm to themselves and clog up A&E departments depriving more needy patients. Do you seriously believe everything the Government tells you? Most of these "scientific" studies are flawed. Anybody can skew statistics in favour of this and that or discredit this and that. The Government discredits homeopathy because the traditional health care system and pharmaceutical companies thrive on sick people.

See if you can eliminate aspartame and MSG from his diet. These are excito-toxins. The clue is in excito....

What medication is he on? Could this in part, be causative to his aggressive behaviour? Also what sort of diet?

I don't believe in many of the values of traditional medicine so if homeopathy has something to offer...bring it on! I do believe the over-prescription of "anti-ADHD-type behaviours" has made the problem worse - just like the over-use of antibiotics If homeopathy can detox and calm the body and mind-state, and it proves to work, then that's got to be a good thing. Too many doctors' poo-poo alternative medicine as it would do them (and the pharmaceutical companies) out of business

My daughter has her own computer in her room and finds it relaxing and calming. She has HFA too. However she doesn't like being called away from it unless its to get her dinner. Her personality changes when she's on it to the extent she becomes rude and backchats etc, but thankfully she does not skip meals. What has worked for me is the setting of time limits (under parental controls). For example, she has two hours after school and then the computer automatically logs her out and bars her from further activity. I did this because she would spend all day and night on it if she could (when she's not reading or going out). Fortunately, she has learnt to be very good and doesn't have a meltdown but I have found that being on the computer changes her personality (sadly to a negative one).

Hi bains I wouldn't rely too much on the advice of H&B staff, they are there to sell products, they are not pharmacists or doctors I can't help specifically with the Vit B but I would throw caution at the magnesium. Magnesium stearate is used in manufacturing as a lubricant to stop pills (in this case) from sticking together - i.e. it is a flow agent. It is a known allergen and suppresses immune function by reducing the action of primary T-cells

If society accepted people for who/what they are then perhaps those on the spectrum would not feel dis-abled.

My guess....probably neither. You might just be diagnosed with an autistic spectrum disorder which will lump in AS, HFA, LFA etc