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I've given up counting the grey hairs theres def too many

Thank you shortcake you just gave me a really good giggle,

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My only thought would be ebay, although you would have to wait for delivery you can pick up most things through there. Good luck with the searching

Thanks for the idea Puala. C has been on a dairy free diet since he was 2, and we noticed a huge diffrence there. Even now if he has anything with milk in he will get aggressive, won't listen to anything and is just 'climbing the walls.' I try to be sensible with both the kids foods but after reading your post I know I could do so much better. Will definitly give it a go - wish me luck Any of the kids fav recipes that you would share with us

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Thank you for all your kind words. Had a really difficult day yesterday with the scratches and bruises to show for it But as they say today is a new day, the sun is shining and we are going for a swim!! Thanks again Allie

Cat thanks for all the ideas there. Eva my son - 6 yers old - ASD is just the same. It does feel as though he tries to wind me up and although I do understand that its his way of asking for help at the end of the day I'm human and I do take the bait sometimes - then just get angry at my self for not dealing with things properly!!!! <'> <'> heres a hug for you, because I know how hard it is when my ds says he wants to leave home, doesn't want me as a mother etc. Allie

:wallbash: I am so frustrated today after the long weekend. Why is it always me that C is horrible to. If he's not hitting/ punching me etc then he's being rude and saying really hurtful things. I do know that its because I'm the one around him most of the time, but I just wish sometimes that my husband got some of it - maybe he'd understand a bit better. Sorry just having a bit of a rant and getting it off my chest. Allie

Like the new one Pearl. Very cool

I voted yes. My DS was dx feb '07 and we received his statement last week - yipee!!! Got to say though the only reason we got the statement - I think - is because of his violent disruptive behaviour at school.

Stop saying sorry, you are entitled to feel that way. My youngest starts full time in reception in september and I keep feeling that everyone expects me to go out and find a job. I've been helping in the schools for the last couple of years which does help, but come september I also know that we will have a hard time with C (eldest with ASD) settling back into school and all my energy will be used up by helping him!!! Keep your chin up, I'm sure you are doing a fab job. Bring up 3 boys is more than most could cope with

Thanks wishing well, I'll definitly give it a go - willing to try anything at the moment. And yes I can forsee lots of bribery being offered Was reading on the NAS website yesterday about vitamin B6 and magnisium(spelling?) but got really confused about the dosage etc. Have any of you tried these? Got to say thank you to all of you on this forum, its been like a lifeline to me, so please I came across it <'>

Yes thats exactly how it worked with my son.

Well pleeeze bring it back then, I'm freezing. We bought a pool for the boys this summer and they've had hardly any use out of it! Thought it would be a brilliant way to keep them occupied, oh well maybe the sun will be shinning tomorrow.

Hi Sue Thanks for this post, with all the replies I've had loads of my own questions answered. I tried to get some respite for the summer holidays but nobody seemed to help, kept getting told to phone another agency etc. I knew the holidays were going to be hard and of course now in the 5th week, I've got no more hair to pull out, its been so stressful . I was really unsure about phoning social services but listening to everyone else I'm definitly going to give them a call! Good luck, only 1 week to go Allie

Hi Kie, I too have also been reading this forum on and off for about a year and then put my first post up yesterday, so still getting to grips with it all! I have 2 sons. C 6 years old ASD and CH is 4 NT. Reading your post I see alot of what C does the same. He's been going to the child development centre since he was 2 but no one ever said anything about ASD to me. It was only the begining part of this year that they felt that C could have ASD, the problem is, They feel one side of him is very ASD while the other goes against all ASD traits. Although he has now been dx with the ASD it was more for a school point of view, as his doc said that she feels he is too complex to dx completly!! We are going back up to Cahms to get any advice on the violence but I have found that with most things it seems to be who you see at the diffrent places, as each doc, professional etc have their own views. Good luck with getting a proper dx. Allie

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Morning Louisa, We've got a class down here called Branch which is the same idea. It is actually based at the mainstream school where we moved our son to. The out of school learning team are the ones who run it but they actually have a few TA's who work in diffrent mainstream schools helping children. Which is how we got involved with them. As I said in my previous post, we found them to be so helpfull, definitly a good option to look into and see if it would be right for your daughter. Hope it works out. Allie

Hi Not sure if this will be of any use because of the age diffrence. My son is 6 and we had alot of trouble both getting him into school and keeping him there. The school were useless and didn't help at all ( I gather now they said they thought all my son's problems were just bad parenting!!!) Eventually the Out of schools Learning team became involved. They were brilliant and although my son started going part time at least he was in school. We ended up having to move him as the school became worse than ever. We found a fantastic mainstream school and out of school learning team continued with their help. Although he is still only going part time, we have managed to increase his time bit by bit. I'm certain that we wouldn't have got this far without their help. All of this happened before he was dx ASD and before he got his statement. I was also told that the Education welfare officer is supposed to be able to offer you help. Hope this helps, good luck. Allie

Yes Phoebe,I agree, I was just saying on another post, 6 weeks is too long for holiday, I'm pulling my hair out. I haven't braved the shoe shop for my son's school shoes yet, I can still remember the disaster we had last summer. Good luck with your next shoe outing.

Brilliant idea. Good luck with it. I'm in exactly the situation you discribed with my son, not sure how to go forward from here.

Thanks so much Brooke, I think one of the nicest things about finding this forum is realizing that I'm not the only one out there that is going through all of this. My son only moved to his new school in feb. We had to remove him from his last school as they were useless, and yes he was very unhappy there and his meltdowns were far more common. He seems to love his new school, but struggles so much in the school holidays without his normal routine. 6 weeks is just too long!!! I will watch out for any signs that a melt down is on its way, and see if I can calm him enough. Will keep you updated - thanks. Allie

Hi I wonder if anyone can give me some advice. My 6 year old son has ASD and I'm really struggling with his violent outbursts. He has always been violent but is now getting so big and strong that I worry about the saftey of my other son - 4 years old. His doctor has said that she doesn't want to put him on any meds because of his age and although I am in agreement I also feel that I need to try anything as I'm at my wits end!! Any advice on non medication things that will help with the violence. This is my first time on here so appologies if I have done anything incorrect in my post etc.