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Hope things are better for you today.Take care.

It's such a shame that there is not more awareness of aspergers.Rather than all this 'that persons wierd'My husband had a friend who we just considered 'wierd'.It's only now years later with more knowledge and awareness that I realise he in all probability had aspergers.I feel ashamed i didn't do more to help him but then would he have wanted help?Sometimes I guess it's best to just keep quiet.I'm not sure.

Glad you find out what became of him and he has some support.

Kathryn I too would say as presents itself differently in different people.E.g. the same core difficulties but differences within those core diffculties.I don't know if it presents itself differently because of where the individual is on the spectrum.I have difficulties in all three core difficulties.Emotional, social and communication but it is only slightly.Best wishes to your daughter in her education.

Hev It's not your mums fault.She didn't know.She mustn't feel guilty.i feel for you and your mum.Hopefully in years to come we will hear no more of these stories.Hopefully the world will one day soon be more educated about aspergers.Your brother shouldn't have gone to prison.He needs help and support. You and your family have my sympathy.I really feel for you.Best Wishes.

Interesting and thought provoking article.Thanks for posting this.

Could I go back to school then please!Perhaps they could help me!

I have mild as and can barely use the computer.Still haven't worked out how to do a quote!!Sad isn't it!!

What a sad story Viper.Things were different then though.Aspergers wasn't even known about then.Poor man.Storys like this are so sad.

I understand the difficulties i have because of my aspergers without a diagnosis Bid I suspect my father of having aspergers and if he didn't have it I might of actually had a dad. Not being funny sometimes it is worst for the people around the person who has aspergers, than for the person who actually has it.Aspergers can badly affect the lives of other people.totally sympathise with you Bid. My father is an alcoholic, struggles to maintain contact with people and is completely unaware of how to be a father.Trains are more important to him than people!!!If he didn't have aspergers he would be a totally different person.

I have aspergers self diagnosed .Two children nt.

I have undiagnosed aspergers but it is very mild.I have got to where i am today with no support and feel i am copying ok.If I ever felt I wasn't then maybe I would seek help.But I am a mother of two, happily married and work in an office.So at the moment everything is fine.i think it depends on if you are struggling or not and how severe the as.

Helen I know where your coming from and I feel for you.Hope you manage to keep your ocd under control.I know how hard it is Take care.best Wishes. Liz I agree with your explanation of the differences entirely.Although I personally do not have obsessions or special intersts whichever as part of my aspergers.I have obsessions as part of my ocd things I have to do and i know are totally illogical and I get no satisfaction from doing. e.g. hoovering ten times a day! I think that perhaps is a key difference.Obsessions in aspergers are things you enjoy love to do and obsessions in ocd are not necessarily things you get any enjoyment from doing but things you still feel compelled to do.Hope this makes sense.

Yes i think your right.It is hard to know which is ocd and which is as.i can fully sympathise with her on the book being removed thing.i think this is just she likes to know where everything is and it's not lost.I am exactly like that.My problem is i have a little three year old son who takes things and hides them so i sometimes get rather stressed!!!I think both as and ocd definately increase the more anxious someone is.My aspergers and ocd both seem to increase when I am tired as well which is frustrating because ocd wears me out anyway!!!

I would consider that I have ocd as well as mild aspergers.My ocd is really revolving around cleaning.Everything has to be just so and i can't leave the house until I have done my housework to my satisfaction.I hoover numerous times a day and if i cant I stress. I know this is really stupid but I wont buy any food that creates crumbs e.g. stick loaves or crumbly cakes etc. I hate glitter because it makes a mess. I cant bear to go to the park when it is muddy. \I also have a fear of things getting lost or broken. I think this is ocd.My husband and 2 kids will be sitting waiting in the car to go and I will find something else to tidy. I've probably made myself sound worst than I actually am.I do my best to overcome these things with the help of my husband and for the sake of a normal family life. I read somewhere that ocd and aspergers can often run hand in hand.Dont know if that's true though.

Hi All Thought i would start a new topic with this one it came up briefly on another thread.I am interested on everyone else's views.Do christmas and aspergers go together. I am an adult with mild aspergers and I have to say I don't like christmas.I dont like it because of the change of routine, the extreme emotions that are often on show and the pressure to be sociable at xmas parties and or to the inevitable guests visiting the house.I also hate the mess.I have ocd too. I suspect my father to have as We are no longer in contact from when i was very small but my mum has told me these things. 1. he refused to have any christmas decorations up. 2.he refused to visit anyone over christmas or go to any parties including her own mothers. 3.He didn't want anyone visiting. 4.He hated the disrruption and mess and just wanted to go to work as normal!!! I would be interested on anyone elses thoughts on this particularly adults with as.It's something I have been thinking about for a while.Many thanks.

Oopps I thought this message hadn't taken and it had!Now you all think I'm mad!!Sorry!

Hi Just to add.Many children and adults with as find christmas hard to cope with.the inevitable routine changes, the seemingly numerous guests to the house and the extreme emotions often on display are sometime all too much.I am an adult with mild as and I find christmas hard to cope with.this is maybe what the pronlem is.Just a thought.Hope it helps.

Just to add alot of kids and adults too with as find xmas hard to cope with.the change in routine, the extreme emotions on display etc, the visitors to the house etc etc.To be honest i would say it's a lot of people with as worst nightmare.I am an adult with mild as and I find it hard to cope with.Maybe this is what is unsettlinh him.Just a thought.

Thanks Malika this helped.I'm not going mad after all.I too have as but very mildly and certainly don't have any problems remembering things.Take care and thanks

Just wondered if anyone else had experience of this.Do people with aspergers forget or twist what you have said?

Speaking as an adult who has mild as with me I have a very vivid imaginations good at writing stories etc.Had an immaginary friend when younger.But where i fall down is imagining people's feelings.I am not very good at putting myself in someone else's position.hope this helps.

I agree.i realise ijave put my foot in it consequently upsetting or hurting someone after the event, not at the time.It is something I don't mean to do and afterwoods i get really upset.

Just wanted to say.I have mild as andmy imagination is definately there.Too much so.I had an imaginary friend when i was younger always played imaginary games.I also was really good at writing stories etc.Always had them read out in class.I think you will find the problem is difficulting in imagining how someone else might be feeling.So to say that someone with as has no imagination is nonsense really.Many people with as can write fantastic poetry books etc.Hope this helps.

People with aspergers can as far as I know become obsessed with people as well as things.