Suze

Hi Tally after all your family have been through this yr I cannot believe he is behaving in such a manner, particularly as christmas must have been so very difficult for you all.

My son finds he makes alot of his friends through his interests.Which are mountain biking, and tractors.He goes out every weekend with a group on long rides , and now socialises with them aswell.He also goes to agri cultural college and because he is very interested in tractors etc has made lots of friends through this interest also.Do you have any interrests that could help you develop friendships?...........

3wks is a long time not to get back to you.But the OT won,t dx anyhow , it will probably be a multi -disciplinary team.The OT could be liasing with others involved.19mnths is stil very young as I,m sure you,ve been told, it is a case of waiting and seeing how he develops.

We refused first statement...had a meeting with LA officer and they ammended it accordingly...cheshire LA have been excellent for us.

Hi Tracy....go back asap to whoever did the dx...get the dx official ie on paper.Make appt with senco and any other staff involved....take an advocate with you.Discuss what stratergies they have used ...iep?....is she on sen register?....also request someone from autism advisory goes into meeting aswell............soz quick answer in a rush

I was quite impressed they had a SALT going into school 3 times a week....

Totally agree justine............DR ,S and banks should be the first peeps to notify if you move.Tally I would re-post with the new address and just put a note on the back saying sorry but your cat was sick on it.Its not your fault and I actually had a good chuckle about it ....poor cat he could,nt help it lol xx

Wow...thats fantastic...your Mum is a star ...what a fabulous lady

Good luck with whatever you deciede to do.However a diagnosis or not ...your still more than welcome to join us all on the forum

Does he have a statement?

Looking at this from the school perspective there are measures that school could implement to make life less stressful.It does depend how receptive school are.But involvement from camhs should be enough for them to listen and take your concerns on board.He can be disapplied from assemblies and registration and he can instead go to a learning resource centre within school.Here an LSA can have the oppurtunity to chat and get him ready for the school day.He can also be allowed to leave his class before the bell so he avoids the corridoor crush.He can be allowed to use the learning resource at break and dinner if he needs quiet time.He can also access a social group if he needs help with social understanding.He can have a named member of staff to go to if he is anxious or worried etc............camhs will assess him and I would ask them what measures they feel would help him at school, recommendations from them will make school listen...best of luck xx

Just read Kathryns post ...she said just what I tried too ...

we have alot of similarities, my son was also a big Air cadet and dreamed of joing the RAF.He also attended a unit at high school..............not really much to add but just wondered have you ever said enough is enough....you must attend school.......and insisted he go , how would he react?........do you think he could be trying it on to avoid school?....all the best with whatever happens.

Well done sally thats brilliant news for you all :thumbs: .....

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!....just seen your other post

Agree with Sally, ulitmately this will prove that they cannot cope and need extra funding to enable him to access trips etc.It will be good evidence for a statement.............however I hope the school are not trying to fob the parent off...when they could go the extra mile and provide some extra help out of their own budget.

Any news??............I,m worrying that you,ve not posted and its bad news??...........if not hope you hear soon...its been a long wait ...fingers crossed.

During some tests with an OT we found he was neither left or right side dominant.He uses his left hand for some tasks and his right for others.So wired very differently !

don,t be too quick to de -register.My son attended a ASD high school resource ,after a very tricky primary education ,we have a similar story in that he was becoming a schoool refuser and clincally depressed.It was mentioned to us that he may never cope in a school environment.He had a pretty useless LSA at the time who had no direct ASD experience.At high school however things changed and it was here that he began to thrive.Staff here were amazing .He entered high school disapplied from several subjects, unable to attend registration and assemblies, and having a LSA all the time.He left 5 yrs later attending school full time integrating with his tutor group and working independently with in 50% of his subjects.He exceeded all expectations.Adolescence is a tricky time ..you may have to give him a push to get through this period but there are many kids like him at ASD resources, and it may help him to know hes not gthe only one out there.

hi , my son was a sleepwalker also ....he was very animated and would shout and roll around, melatonin helped greatly .We were prescribed it by our GP.We had a difficult 4 yrs or so but he seems fine now .Good luck xx.

During primary yrs my ds went on day trips which were ok.However residentials were alot harder and he and we decieded not to do them.He could,nt stand most of the kids at school so spending more time with them would have been torture.The sleeping arrangements for one thing were too much for him.Staff were prepared to support him adequately but he really did,nt want to do it.At high school he did day trips no problem with an LSA , but did,nt do any residentials.

Hi Deborah.My son always had huge issues with homework.He is severely dyslexic too ..so this made the struggle to do it even worse.Upon entry to high school we insisted he have no homework at all ....brought home that is.I had spent yrs struggling with him at home and we never got anywhere with him....or the work.Because he was statemented and within an autism resource this was,nt a problem as he was disapplied from a couple of subjects and this time was used for homework and extra lessons in literacy and maths.So he could always do his homework at school with a specialist member of staff to help him.He was so much happier doing this.Upon going into yr 10 ...he started to get more homework , by this time emotionally he was more mature and he began to do bring some of his homework home and do it.It was always something he could do on a computer as he struggles alot with handwriting.He has got alot better and does his college work at home..but hes now studying tractors which he is obsessesd about so does,nt mind so much.,,............I would speak to the senco explain how you are struggling , would he be happier to do his homework at school?...maybe with staff that could help him.Would he do it in his break times?

Welcome <'> ...you have,nt gone on and on lol.... .............Harry is still relatively young ..so its excellent to be getting this input and these people on board.He does appear to have several sensory issues mentioned in your list.How is he with food and lumpy foods etc?............does he like to be held and cuddled? .........I would imagine the home visit will be a chat with you and an observation of Harry.Having the OT on board will be beneficial as they can assist with sensory stuff.I would think its too soon to give any firm DX just yet and that they will keep a close eye on him up to entry to nursery at 3 yrs.Best wishes suzex

An interesting discussion, some very valid points.But its coming across a bit hard line at this point as Greyhaven is relatively new to the forum (having only made 7 posts)and the debate that has splintered off from the original OP is becoming far removed from any original queries that Greyhaven had.She has,nt even replied to her post yet and maybe put off doing so when she see,s how the thread has developed in her absence.I,m not saying posters can,t air their views or opinions but lets not become over zealous on this thread...start another Thread if you want to open the meltdown/tantrum debate further.Hope you guys will understand where I,m coming from on this , regards suzex

It can be a scary word if its not expected , but if he is dx its important his diagnosis is acknowledged as he may need more help at school etc and a better understanding too.My son was,nt dx till he was 6 yrs ...alot of his behaviours I never really noticed as he was my first and I thought they were normal.He has been through some tough years but hes now 16 yrs and doing remarkably well at college .(studying tractors lol).Many people who meet him find him a remarkably likeable chap he loves to chat and is very polite, and as he is very rule lead he is totally against smoking alcohol, and breaking any laws :rolleyes: .I,ve got 3 kids and he has been a pleasure in many ways .Autism can be scary at first but every autistic child is as different as a neurotypical child and they can develop and succeed just as well as the next kiddie. .