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Hi, I took my dd last December to an optomotrist for testing with coloured lenses and unfortunately we were told it is not covered by the NHS, we had to pay around �50 for the testing, we haven't gone on to buy her glasses yet so I am unable to tell you the price on those but I would imagine what you have been quoted is about right. Nedgly

OMG yes! My dd is so arguementative, black is white etc, etc... if we told her the sky was blue she'd say no its got shades of blah, blah blah.... These arguements can carry on for hours and normally end in total meltdown, this could be due to dh tormenting or using sarcasm. I try and diffuse the situation and then I get in to trouble and told I'm siding with ... (whichever one of them) They are so alike but just cannot see it, both need, no not need, have to have the last word and neither of them will back down and so arguements can go on for hours and then be broughtr up again later in day. I am getting so fed up with it, most evenings lately it's getting to the stage where I just want to sit down and cry. It seems the arguementative years have gone on forever, they really became noticeable around the age of 5-6 and she is now nearly 16. Will it ever end???

Hi, Does anyone know if it is possible for my daughter to drop at least one of her subjects at school. She is in the process of being diagnosed through CAMHS, but she is finding school a real problem again at the moment, she only has one year left but the pressure is really on now for all coursework to done and kept up with. When I have spoken to the school in the past they have said that she is not falling behind with any of her work and so they say that there isn't a problem. But what they don't see is the amount of pressure she is putting herself under to complete all her homework, we have crying, shouting, screaming and she is always in a state of anxiety, feeling sick, headaches, tummyaches etc. etc. I could go on and on. What I really need to know is, if I tell them that we've decided she is going to drop this subject (Business Studies, that she didn't even want to do in the first place) can they do anything about it or what is the right way for me to go about it? I just feel it would take the pressure off her a little and maybe she could get on a little bit better. I appreciate any helpful suggestions, thanks Nedgly

Hi Hev, As I read your post I thought 'wow' this sounds just like my daughter, but then I read your daughters age and realised it must be because of her age. My dd has always been like that and is now becoming even more extreme with it, she is nearly 16. I can't even have a bath without her following me and sitting and talking to me and when we sit on the settee together she just keeps moving closer and closer until I have to ask her if she's trying to sit on my lap. She doesn't like for us to just give her a cuddle though it has to be when she asks for one and when she snuggles up on the settee it's not because she wants a cuddle it's because she just seems to want to get as close as she can. Your dd may just grow out of her lack of confidence, she is still very young. Keep encouraging her as Flora said, it's the best thing to do. Good luck Nedgly

Clare did they treat his anxiety first and then start to look at other things beneath the surface? they're talking about putting dd on medication and getting her anxiety levels down first before they start looking at anything else. I'm just hoping they do look at the underlying causes of her anxiety before they send her away. I think i'm going to have to get tough on this and insist they find the reasons for her anxiety, because there is definitely more to this than it first appears. x

My 15 yr old dd had her 1st appointment with psych at CAHMS yesterday. He says he's not sure if she has an asd or not, but he did say that she has extreme anxiety and that he wants to deal with that first. He's talking about her having a couple of appointments on her own and then we will all meet again and he will discuss with us what they have found so far and also said that there is a strong possibility that he will need to put her on some meds to relieve her anxiety before they can go on and look at the underlying causes of her anxiety. To be honest she has always been anxious, but it has increased in a big way in the past couple of years. I'm just worried that he can only see the anxiety and will just skim over her other problems and that she won't get a diagnosis. Has anyone else's child had severe anxiety treated first before they could go on and look at the other things that are going on and was that child then diagnosed with an asd? Sorry for ranting on everyone, this is just going round and round in my mind and i'm sooo worried he won't pick up on everything. Thanks for listening, I think I feel a bit better now it's out of my head. Nedgly

Hi, My dd was born 2 weeks early with a very traumatic and long (36 hours) labour, ending in a nasty forceps delivery and me being cut quite deeply. I think that it would make sense if this was a symptom of an asd, we always said it was as if our dd didn't know what was expected of her during her birth and that she didn't want to come out. As for feeding, she breastfed and was always ravenously hungry, always had a job to get her off. LOL Nedgly

My daughter was an extremely quiet and passive baby, slept through the night after 2-3 weeks and when she woke in the morning would just lay there looking around. Once at school she didn't discuss her days with us, but she worries so much. In fact it's her worrying that has made me push the senco at school for help. She looked at all the other symptoms dd had and suggested it might be asd, the more I look at this the more I'm sure that's what is wrong. I'm in the process of getting her an assessment, I just hope that they hurry up and diagnose her, her worrying is become extreme now and causing major problems.

Hi, can anyone tell me about oppositional disorder. I have just read a bit about it, my 15 year old daughter shows symptoms of it but only at home with her dad. We are fairly sure she has ASD, which we are waiting to start assessment process for. The school say she doesn't have any problems at school, but we see lots of problems at home. She just finds everything difficult. My main question is, if she has ODD, could she hide it at school in the same way she seems to with ASD? We just seem to get the brunt of everything at home, she says she holds everything back at school, so maybe this is whats going on with lots of things. Sorry to rant on but I just need to get some answers for her. Nedgly

Hi, Just wondered if anyone else has come across this problem. My daughter is now 15 but still never knows when she needs the toilet (no. 2'S), she just sits and sits for ages in case she might need to go. She has always had this problem and when she was little and using the potty she always thought she had to do both before she could get up. We always thought it was just an odd little quirk she had, but i've been reading up on ASD and did read somewhere that people can have problems with this due to sensory feeling. I'd be interested to know if anyone else has come across this. Thanks Nedgly

Thanks everyone, for your help. My daughter is 15 by the way and has been having difficulties in lots of areas for what seems like forever. It's only recently that someone mentioned ASD and it has made me look into it and the more I do the more I see my daughter! I just hope i've finally got somewhere and we will have a diagnosis and be able to help her and make things easier. Nedgly

Hi, I've been reading this forum for some months and have learned an awful lot about Aspergers. I really do think my daughter has AS and I have been backwards and forwards to school and doctors for some years. I have finally made a long list of all the problems my daughter has and has had in the past and went to see a different doctor today, she thought that I was probably right to think she needs to see someone but she is not qualified to tell me what could be the problem. The doctor is going to refer her to CAFS to see a psychiatrist, my question is "Is a psychiatrist the right route to take to get a diagnosis?" I just don't want to be passed to someone else who isn't going to help. Thanks Nedglyxx

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