Frangipani Report post Posted January 29, 2007 (edited) Why why why???? I seem to always find this happens, whenever I get good news, sad news follows. The sad news is my young neighbour whom was one of the reasons I pulled away from the forum earlier has died with lung cancer only 38 years old leaving two beautiful boys behind, only 8 and 10 years old, she has a very close knit family and husband and friends around them so support has been a big thing. I have the memory of a couple of months ago visiting and connecting with her and I took over some flowers and some beautiful cds to listen to and I said somethings that I thank God I had that time with her, to show her how much we cared and were there for her. Two weeks ago I took more flowers as I saw the Oxycare van pull up the front and realised she must be feeling a bit low today. But last Wednesday she came back from a camping trip with the family she tried to endure but came back early as she was unable to sleep, came back early with a friend and suffered a heart attack. Just so devastated. This is so wrong her boys have been putting on the bravest faces, I remember I got such a shock when I visited her she was just so ill, lost all her hair, she said she was on the mend, I believed her.... I had some good news but now I dont feel like talking about it. Life really sucks sometimes. F Edited February 1, 2007 by Frangipani Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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nellie Report post Posted January 29, 2007 I'm so sorry. <'> <'> Nellie xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Kathryn Report post Posted January 30, 2007 hi Frangipani, So sorry to hear this. <'> <'> <'> K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Frangipani Report post Posted January 30, 2007 (edited) Sorry for the rant, <'> I just found out today, and was in a state of shock. When she first found out and told me, she said the doctor said there was no cure, she would just have to keep on taking chemo etc, she had to have many operations. The thing that upset her most was that most people think people that get lung cancer are smokers, well she never smoked. Its so hard to accept, all along I never wanted to believe it was incurable. I am still in shock, and will be for some time, its just so hard to accept - especially the impact on this family. She was such a soft quiet gentle spirit, and the family were a great team, I guess I admired them from the distance. Often when I was going out for my 5am walk, she was walking up the road to catch the early bus to work so she could get home early to be there for her boys. Hubby would get the kids off to school. Lost for words. I never expected this. Sorry,, thinking out loud. Edited January 30, 2007 by Frangipani Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
curra Report post Posted January 30, 2007 Frangipani So sorry <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lorryw Report post Posted January 30, 2007 So, so sorry to hear of your loss. My dear neighbour died suddenly almost 3 years ago. It was a terrible shock and took a long time to come to terms with. take care Loraine xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted January 30, 2007 Hi F - so sorry & BD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Frangipani Report post Posted January 30, 2007 (edited) Thanks for being there <'> <'> Heaven has a very special angel, she will be missed by many. Especially her boys. The shock factor certainly gets a hold of you doesn't it. Keep well & Certainly a time to prayer for our own loved ones. <'> <'> Never take anything for granted. F xx Edited January 31, 2007 by Frangipani Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frangipani Report post Posted February 1, 2007 (edited) just having a rant out loud all sorted. Edited February 1, 2007 by Frangipani Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
~Jonathan~ Report post Posted February 5, 2007 <'> <'> <'> Frangipani <'> <'> <'> I'm sorry <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eva Report post Posted February 5, 2007 So sorry to hear that Frangipani <'> <'> <'> . How awful, <'> <'> . Take care, Eva Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
elun1 Report post Posted February 6, 2007 <'> <'> Frangipani <'> <'> Such sad news love Elun xxx <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
splosh Report post Posted February 6, 2007 So sorry for your news, Frangipani. Just when you get one thing sorted, there's always something else to come and kick your ladder away. Try and stay positive. <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frangipani Report post Posted February 7, 2007 (edited) Hi <'> Thank you for your lovely words. The funeral was last Friday, very beautiful celebration of her life with a lot of humour and tears and music as there were many children in attendance. Many wore orange as it was her favourite colour, as the hirst drove away they let go of over 100 orange balloons to distract her boys it was a beautiful gentle way of saying goodbye. Some got stuck in the trees and someone said 'she doesnt want to go, sure everyone welled up at that moment. Thank God there is a wonderful circle of friends and family around. Thank you for your kind words and wishes. <'> F xx <'> Edited February 8, 2007 by Frangipani Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
