angel77 Report post Posted January 23, 2008 by text message............ I'm looking for child care in the holidays, only a day or two, but the last nursery that my daughter went to refuse to have her (they did actually want to charge me double ! ) but now say they don't have the staff. anyway I went to see a childminder OMG her daughter was so good and she got counted twice. 1. 2 and then the step, bless. for putting a sticker on furniture........... It was blatantly obvious that my darling daughter would not fit into her ordered house........ and I immidiately made arrangements to view another nursery but im still miffed that she refused my daughter. No one wants her. I'm worried now that the nursery I have chosen will get to the stage (when they know her) that they don't want her. I need some time as her needs are so complex she requires full supervision and is on the go all of the time. Angel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madme Report post Posted January 23, 2008 Sorry to hear. I had a childminder refuse to take my son as she claimed that Mencap had advised her not to! They hadnt and would not have. She was just frightened of the words ADhd and Aspergers. The fact that my son was clearly in reality better behaved than her brat was not relevant! I also had one want to charge me double! I eventually found someone who was excellent. Some actually put on their registration that they will take sen children. Have you tried to see if there is a local Special needs nursery ie run by the LEA ?Sorry cant help more. It is very frustrating and you have my sympathies Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stressedmumto2 Report post Posted January 23, 2008 Oh how sad, my friend is a childminder and she would never dream of sending someone a txt to say she couldn't have their child and as for people saying they've wanted more money I would be inclined to ask her why she felt she couldn't care for your daughter, it may make her think alot more about her skills (lack off!!), rather than your child's difficulties and how she could manage them. When my son was in playschool he was difficult but the playschool got another worker in to give him 1-1 for some sessions. If it is a local authority nursery you are looking at I prety sure they have to go down the same routes as schools and provide for the child and make reasonable adjustments, get extra support in whatever. I wish you luck in getting something sorted Take care <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted January 23, 2008 (edited) Hope this makes sense... It's actually far better if a childminder says she can't take a child with ASD if she hasn't had any experience or specialist training, etc. I agree it needs to be done more sensitively, though. Some SS have a list of childminders who look after children with additional needs. Bid Edited January 23, 2008 by bid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
angel77 Report post Posted January 23, 2008 thanks for your replies. bid, your absolutely right, it would of been worse had she agreed to have my daughter. The reason Im miffed is that I offered her all of the advice and support she would of needed but she had only viewed it as what she could get, i.e. if my daughter had been toileted she could of had a down stairs toilet fitted with a grant etc. Im still miffed I don't know why, but it has bothered me, never mind, Ill get over it. but in my world I would of explained to that little girl why i didn't want the sticker on my furniture and asked her not to do it again instead of counting every time.......... Angel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
forbsay Report post Posted January 23, 2008 It is hard. <'> <'> <'> <'> When my son was little (he was diagnosed at 2.5). He went to a child and family centre, 2.5 days a week and private nursery on 2 days. We were able to get additional funding for his private nursery so that he could get the 1-2-1 care. Are you a member of any support groups that would be able to give you some advice and support? Take care Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
angel77 Report post Posted January 23, 2008 Hi forbsey, I am making sure that the nursery where I am putting her will get the 1 -1 support for her and/or any other grants they need but the manager was accepting my daughter regardless of any grants she could get, she even said if she didn't it didn't matter. Thats the attitude I want............... I suppose Im nit picking but it really annoys me when some people put finance before my child. At the other nursery, where they wanted double but still wont accept her back for the holiday club, they had a grant and extra finances. All of the special toys and play mats etc. I can't believe how they can get the grant and then see ya............ Angel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
forbsay Report post Posted January 23, 2008 That sounds like a good nursery manager. Sending you lots of hugs <'> <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
angel77 Report post Posted January 23, 2008 thanks. <'> Angel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted January 23, 2008 I'm thinking you had a lucky escape with wannabee supernanny. No help though when you really need a childminder. I once interviewed one for JP, she looked cross all the time & minded so many along with her own kids that there were about 6 children in her house after school every day, he'd have to fit in with us, she said, I legged it fast. I ended up employing S at just 12 for the period between school & my work finishing. Dodgy I know but I was desperate. Hope you get something sorted out <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
katkin Report post Posted January 26, 2008 Hi sorry just realised that I hadn't noticed how old your small one was. If they are eligible for a nursery grant the nursery can apply for extra funding from the LEA,in Hampshire this is an extra �8.50 over the normal nursery grant per session. At the moment in Hampshire there is a small mount of money available for a childcare grant for nurseries to apply for, for children with SEN who are younger than have the grant applied to them (3yrs-ish) this also is �8.50. The form has to be signed off by the area inco or Portage worker and provides evidence (ieps, reports etc) that the child does have SEN. A nursery cannot refuse to take your child or charge you extra - this is discrimination - they can however make life very difficult for you but that is another story.............. Also in our area childminders are being encouraged to provide an inclusive environment for all. The NCMA are being very proactive about this and perhaps if you contact them they will be able to provide you with names of childminders who actually like children and want to be with them! Hope this helps a bit, love Kat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
angel77 Report post Posted January 26, 2008 Hi Kat, Thanks for your reply. They have had all of the grants and equipment but when I wanted to move over to the holiday club they just refused, tried to charge me double and then when I got my bridging worker who offered a grant for the 1-1 worker they said they couldn't find the staff! I have a holiday club now and will visit next week with someone who can help make sure my daughter is able to access the 1-1 carer if needed. Thanks Angel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
